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RandalFlagg
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: 40oz]
#5298614 - 02/14/06 10:22 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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fortyounces2freedom said: if i was stefan, i would punch you in the eye for that comment. joking or not.
Definately. I deserve to get popped for that one.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
#5298631 - 02/14/06 10:28 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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It legitimate makes me angry to read these thread where everyone is so POSITIVE that she's already got someone else lined up.
I've said it before and I'll say it again....NOT ALL GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT. Just because some of you have had shitty experiences with slutty, lying, manipulative women, that doesn't mean that Stefan should take her letter as anything other than a request for some space right now.
None of you know if she's met anyone, of if this is the END of their relationship. Sometimes people need time to just think about things as a single unit.
Stefan, give her space, lots of it. Give her a true taste of what life is like without you there. If she loves you, she'll miss you and come back, and it's your call whether to accept her back at that point. Or, if feelings have really diminished, over time you'll both move on, and hopefully be mature enough to remain friends.
Good Luck either way, I know it's hard.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Liz]
#5298648 - 02/14/06 10:32 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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that needed to be said...
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
#5298662 - 02/14/06 10:34 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Life sucks, my girl moved 900 miles away and said she needs time apart. I don't blame the bitch but she didn't have to be such a bitch about the whole thing. She claims were still together but how the fuck can that be? She don't answer my calls or talk when she does. FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wish I was strong enough to just end this stupid life.
I'm getting my balls removed so I don't ever fall in love again.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Fungi_x]
#5298672 - 02/14/06 10:39 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Last time one of my girlfriends said they needed a break she went out and fucked 3 guys in one night.... She is a dirty cracked out stripper with a kid now so I feel better
Edited by benrules92 (02/14/06 10:40 AM)
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Liz]
#5298679 - 02/14/06 10:42 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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ifallapart said: It legitimate makes me angry to read these thread where everyone is so POSITIVE that she's already got someone else lined up.
I've said it before and I'll say it again....NOT ALL GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT. Just because some of you have had shitty experiences with slutty, lying, manipulative women, that doesn't mean that Stefan should take her letter as anything other than a request for some space right now.
None of you know if she's met anyone, of if this is the END of their relationship. Sometimes people need time to just think about things as a single unit.
Stefan, give her space, lots of it. Give her a true taste of what life is like without you there. If she loves you, she'll miss you and come back, and it's your call whether to accept her back at that point. Or, if feelings have really diminished, over time you'll both move on, and hopefully be mature enough to remain friends.
Good Luck either way, I know it's hard.
AHEM!!!
Not "everyone"!
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TripMeister said: This situation is so heartbreaking and yet so common.
It may or may not be that she has her eye on another guy, but it definitely is that the attraction has diminished. She's either falling out of love with you, or her lust for you is gone.
At this point, what's going on in her head is anybody's guess, but as everyone said, and I agree, it sounds like it's over. I give you the same advice... Don't chase her, you'll end up alienating her. If you love her let her go, if she comes back, she's yours.
Good luck, man.
Almost word for word what you said.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: benrules92]
#5298680 - 02/14/06 10:42 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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But ya not all girls are like that .... But thier are alot of them out thier
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Fungi_x]
#5298701 - 02/14/06 10:47 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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yeah... i have considered retiring my dick like the guy in 40 y/o virgin as well... but well...
stay strong fungi... that life comment didnt sound good at all... pm me if you need to talk...
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
#5298708 - 02/14/06 10:48 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Maybe she's not mature enough to understand yet that a long term relationship will not be 100% hot all the time.
Most girls in their twenties seem to get easily distracted when their mate starts to seem unappealing. This unattraction can be caused by anything (too much stablity/routine can be a reason).
A woman's cycle can even influence and change what she's attracted to.
She's likely just not interested in you for the time being. In my experience, mature women will generally stay loyal even when they're in this state of mind. They've learned that it will pass and in a few days/weeks they'll be just as "in love and lust" with their partner as they've always been.
Immature women begin feeling discontent and get the flight going, seeking something more exciting and new.
Or maybe she genuinely is conflicted about her feeling for you. In this case, I too would suspect she has someone else in mind. Unless she is a girl of integrity, which only she knows.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: FungusMan]
#5298758 - 02/14/06 11:03 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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FungusMan said:
IMO, that means shes already got a backup handy. You shouldve done the same. Thats the thing with women...A week ago you might have been the star quarterback, but there is always a benchwarmer waiting for his time,lol.
this is the case 90% of the time.
I have seen this happen so many times in my 45 years on this planet... I can't even recount all the times this has happened to me and my friends.
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when a chic says she needs time or space... she really isn't into you.
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Sorry bro!~
and good luck with your exams... don't let this mess them up!~ your education is more important than a flaky girlfriend.
tc
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
#5298848 - 02/14/06 11:30 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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what a bitch.
flash judgement: you're better off without her.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: DoctorJ]
#5298864 - 02/14/06 11:35 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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women are psycho and should have brain implants
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: DoctorJ]
#5298880 - 02/14/06 11:38 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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in the infamous words of mr snoop dizzle.
bitches aint nothin' but tricks and ho's.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: coda]
#5298894 - 02/14/06 11:41 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Snoop said in '94 "We dont love dem ho's"
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: FungusMan]
#5298900 - 02/14/06 11:42 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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The in '97 he said "I love my dear wife, I'd do anything for her."
O, how the times are changing.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: MOTH]
#5298906 - 02/14/06 11:43 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Elle...
Very impressive and enlightening. Well said.
Thank you for the education.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#5298910 - 02/14/06 11:44 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Also what snoop said:
I quit doing drugs... I smoke tha chronic I quit doing drugs... I smoke tha chronic I quit doing drugs (then appears in an issue of Hightimes)lol
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: FungusMan]
#5298912 - 02/14/06 11:45 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Snoop lives for Jesus now. He's reppin.
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Liz]
#5298987 - 02/14/06 12:06 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I could have seen this coming, all these comments...
I don't know if I should laugh about, or feel sorry for all you distrustfull, dishonest and immature people who talk about getting other women behind her back etc. grow up man. It really suprises me that I see all this negativity and ugly assumptions in this thread. Ofcoarse there are women (?nd men) who are like that, but definitely not all of them.
I trust my girl and there's no way she has some-one 'lined up'. You can have a different opinion but you don't know her.
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Stefan, give her space, lots of it. Give her a true taste of what life is like without you there. If she loves you, she'll miss you and come back, and it's your call whether to accept her back at that point. Or, if feelings have really diminished, over time you'll both move on, and hopefully be mature enough to remain friends.
that's the case indeed and what I planned to do. I'm giving her space, I know she needs it (we talked about this).
I'll just have to be patient and see what happens. She will let me know wether she wants this relationship to continue or not. I'm having a realistic view on this situation and know that there is a good chance that she decides to end it 
thanks to you who give serious and helpfull replies 
oh randal, this one's for you 
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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
#5298998 - 02/14/06 12:08 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Women are kindalike chows. They are great fun but they can turn on you at any moment.
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Edited by kilroy69 (02/14/06 12:14 PM)
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