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Offlinestefan
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my girlfriend wants a 'break'
    #5297927 - 02/14/06 02:16 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

so out of nothing my gf had a talk with me yesterday about that she wasn't sure of her feelings for me and that she needs a 'break' to think about it... :frown:

She wrote it down as that her feelings weren't as strong anymore as in the beginning. My guess is that the 'being in love' fades to 'just' love. This is also the only thing she wants to think about. We are always honest to each other and having a lot of fun everytime we see each other. great sex too :grin: We both can't imagine that it could be any better.

...I'll just have to be patient I guess and let her think :smirk:
Also I have two exams this week, one tonight and one on friday. I hope I can still concentrate :crazy:


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5297930 - 02/14/06 02:17 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

Nice of her to do it two days before Valentines day.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: MisterMyco]
    #5297934 - 02/14/06 02:20 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

1 day before, it's valentines day now :smirk:


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5297984 - 02/14/06 02:50 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

let her breathe, but prepare for the worst. you know? i don't think the statistics for "breaks" end up in favor of your party... usually


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5298064 - 02/14/06 04:39 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

I wouldn't get mad about it--respect her for her honesty, these things happen.

It is much better that she was up-front and honest about it than for her to lead you on, and then to find out down the road that she has been B.S and cheating on you all the while.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: gregorio]
    #5298067 - 02/14/06 04:43 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

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gregorio said:
I wouldn't get mad about it--respect her for her honesty, these things happen.

It is much better that she was up-front and honest about it than for her to lead you on, and then to find out down the road that she has been B.S and cheating on you all the while.




very true, as much as it hurts, its better that she told you and broke it up instead of staying in a realationship which her heart was not fully in.

we all go through similar shit, you can handle it  :heart:


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5298134 - 02/14/06 05:39 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

Your best move would have been to tell her straight up that you've been trying to tell her the same thing, but were worried it would hurt her.  Say you've been interested in other women, and you've been confused lately as to what you want.


The problem here, is that while you were enjoying your little love fest, you've been convincing her over and over that she's got you 100%. 

Let her know she doesnt in subtle ways, and tell her you could really use the break too.  *Then just stay out of contact with her.*


If she does not contact you within the span of a month, she's an alien.



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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: RuNE]
    #5298174 - 02/14/06 06:01 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

She has someone else in mind, guarenteed.
girls don't need time to think. They know what they want instinctively. "thinking break" is code for "transitional break-up"
It's unfortunate. if you try to "win her back" you will find her surprisingly resistant to the idea.
If you persist, you'll find quite quickly the resistance turns into subtle hostility and avoidance.

all im saying is don't put your heart on the line.
i've seen this SO many times. and also, ive been there enough to have it drilled into me.

the "thinking break" pretty much as you described it word for word. its a gentle prelude to an ugly deception.

it always happens in the "honest and open" relationships with the "great sex" thats the real loop of the matter.

you'll probably end up in the shitstorm of it all anyway.
good luck. dont let it break ya.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5298205 - 02/14/06 06:24 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

tough break, man... i know what your going through, believe me... take time for yourself and try not to obsess about it... good luck with your exams!


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: In(di)go]
    #5298212 - 02/14/06 06:30 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

IMO, that means shes already got a backup handy. You shouldve done the same. Thats the thing with women...A week ago you might have been the star quarterback, but there is always a benchwarmer waiting for his time,lol.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: FungusMan]
    #5298243 - 02/14/06 06:59 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

Well, looks like it's time to call up all the bitches you said sorry I have a gf to.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5298319 - 02/14/06 07:38 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

That bitch!


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5298412 - 02/14/06 08:36 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

Yep, everyone is right.  Sorry, Stefan, but she's got something else already lined up.  Sucks man, but we've all been there. 

Rune is right.  She knows she has you whenever she wants you.  While this 3rd party that she's got going on, she's not sure about it.  So she wants to give it a shot. 

My guess is that she'll breakup with you and she'll be back within a year or so, saying how much of a mistake she made.

You're good man, just keep everything in perspective.  :wink:


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: stefan]
    #5298428 - 02/14/06 08:42 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

This situation is so heartbreaking and yet so common.

It may or may not be that she has her eye on another guy, but it definitely is that the attraction has diminished.
She's either falling out of love with you, or her lust for you is gone.

At this point, what's going on in her head is anybody's guess, but as everyone said, and I agree, it sounds like it's
over. I give you the same advice... Don't chase her, you'll end up alienating her. If you love her let her go, if she
comes back, she's yours.

Good luck, man.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
    #5298429 - 02/14/06 08:43 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

why won't you guys just stop making assumptions? i know you speak out of experience... i mean hell i've been there, too... got my heart crushed about a year ago... same kind of situation... but stefan don't make assumptions about what you don't know... take what she says as the truth... if you feel the need, ask her about it... assumptions just bring unnecessary pain...

but i agree with what everybody said... don't chase her... give her the distance... but don't fool yourself... if you feel like going out with other women, do it... but if you are anything like me youll just find out that if you do you are cheating on your own feelings...


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: In(di)go]
    #5298547 - 02/14/06 09:54 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

hey, you have to assume something.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: MisterMyco]
    #5298567 - 02/14/06 10:01 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

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MisterMyco said:
Nice of her to do it two days before Valentines day.




Fucking ruthless.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #5298573 - 02/14/06 10:04 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

I got dumped today.  :crazy:

I saw it coming though. Fuck it, nothing lasts anyway.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
    #5298576 - 02/14/06 10:04 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

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McKennaDMT said:
My guess is that she'll breakup with you and she'll be back within a year or so, saying how much of a mistake she made.




Yeah, I hope I don't ruin her too much before she goes back to stefan.


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Re: my girlfriend wants a 'break' [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #5298605 - 02/14/06 10:19 AM (17 years, 11 months ago)

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Quote:

McKennaDMT said:
My guess is that she'll breakup with you and she'll be back within a year or so, saying how much of a mistake she made.




Yeah, I hope I don't ruin her too much before she goes back to stefan.




if i was stefan,
i would punch you in the eye for that comment.
joking or not.


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