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Thin White Duke
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Why do I get these horrible thoughts?
#5291188 - 02/12/06 11:19 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Everytime one of my loved ones leaves the house, I get horrible thoughts like 'They're going to die and you'll never see them again' and other shit like that.
WHY?! This annoys me to no end and doesn't make me feel so good either.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5291193 - 02/12/06 11:21 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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It sounds like classic separation anxiety. Have you ever lost a loved one, or someone very close to you? That can cause feelings like the ones you're experiencing.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Liz]
#5291197 - 02/12/06 11:23 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Well my cat died around this time last month, but I was experiencing the same things before.
It has intensified since though.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5291203 - 02/12/06 11:28 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Before it was probably just some basic anxiety (lots of potheads seem to have a bit, which isn't really always a bad thing). But ya, IFallApart hit the nail on the head.
It sounds like you care deeply about people, I don't think you should let that make you feel bad.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5291205 - 02/12/06 11:29 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Maybe talk to a therapist about it...I have friends who have similar symptoms, but most of them started experiencing them when they lost of family member or something.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5293389 - 02/12/06 11:54 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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like normal thought, and/or intruding?
just do not identify with them, and do not identify them with anything else either.. just let them be/ignore them.. 
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5294084 - 02/13/06 09:04 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Every time I am about to board a plane I always get the feeling that the plane is going to crash. I always get on, and I have never crashed.... plummeted once in a puddle hopper for about 15 seconds, but that was the closest I have ever come.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5294198 - 02/13/06 10:01 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Sounds like either separation anxiety or anticipatory grief. I'd check out a therapist or a good online resource. Journaling could be useful too.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: dblaney]
#5294273 - 02/13/06 10:34 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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definitely separation anxiety, but i'd even say it sounds more like a control issue ... i've dealt with the same problem for years, until i just started letting go and realizing that worrying will not help even if something DID happen ...
there's a quote that goes something like:
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."
this quote has helped me through many a tough situation ...
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: HB]
#5295208 - 02/13/06 02:58 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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That quote sounds like what the AA/NA people say.
It really is quite good.
I don't know what to say but I have those fears sometimes too.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5298149 - 02/14/06 05:46 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I have had those same thoughts from time to time. They happen so infrequently to me that I allways felt that it was some kind of omen or something whenever I got them. It would really scare the shit out of me and cause me much grief while I was having those thoughts.
The good news is, none of those "omens" ever proved to be true and everybody that I had those thoughts about is still alive and well.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: gregorio]
#5298468 - 02/14/06 09:19 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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You know what pilot trainers say man.."You have control"...
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Silverwolf]
#5307248 - 02/16/06 02:24 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Everyone has had those feelings before, but you can also focus on reality and probability. Maybe you feel guilty I dont know if im helping or not?
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: CerebralFlower]
#5307868 - 02/16/06 05:17 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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It happened today, but I managed to overcome it.
My mother announced she was going out (cue thoughts flooding into mind), but I just thought 'It's all in your head, calm down'.
Seemed to help.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5311614 - 02/17/06 06:54 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Hmm. I've been looking at these sorts of things, and I am 99% sure I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The description matches what I do perfectly:
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OCD is a neurobiological disorder defined by recurrent, unwelcome thoughts (obsessions) and repetitive behavior (compulsions) that OCD sufferers feel driven to perform. People with OCD know their obsessions and compulsions are irrational or excessive, yet they have little or not control over them.
God I'm a fucking mess.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5312595 - 02/18/06 02:02 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Everytime one of my loved ones leaves the house, I get horrible thoughts like 'They're going to die and you'll never see them again' and other shit like that.
if thats a horrible thought.. then i have some issues.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: kotik]
#5312711 - 02/18/06 03:57 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Man, I left the houe once, when I came back one a my loved ones was dead. Now whenever I leave the house I always feel like I am gonna die.
Its Ok, everytime I leave I make sure to let everyone know that I love them. I also never hanfg up the phone without tellin me loved ones I love them.
Phumy, that is all you can do. Tell those you love the truth. Tell them you love them and try not ot let fear paralyze you, ya dig?
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5321010 - 02/20/06 06:15 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Phumfeinz said: Hmm. I've been looking at these sorts of things, and I am 99% sure I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The description matches what I do perfectly:
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OCD is a neurobiological disorder defined by recurrent, unwelcome thoughts (obsessions) and repetitive behavior (compulsions) that OCD sufferers feel driven to perform. People with OCD know their obsessions and compulsions are irrational or excessive, yet they have little or not control over them.
God I'm a fucking mess.
No shit! I had serious O.C.D it is no fun at all.
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Re: Why do I get these horrible thoughts? [Re: Thin White Duke]
#5322135 - 02/20/06 10:19 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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the important thing may not be "why". it's what will you choose to do about it? until you find out the "why", do what you can--ignore thoughts that do you no good. life's too short to waste time!
besides i love you.
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