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MOTH
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Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand?
#5282395 - 02/09/06 04:12 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I had my final one on one evaluation today at grooming academy, and my instructor said that while she feels I've made tremendous progress, especially with animal handling and hand-scissoring, she thinks I need to trust myself more.
I know self-love is something I am forever working on and never "getting" (apparantly) and I was wondering if self-trust has a lot to do with that too. What do you think?
Does one have to trust to love, or love to trust?
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spud
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: MOTH]
#5282411 - 02/09/06 04:16 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I never understood how someone could be incapable of trusting themselves. Distrust comes from either ignorance of capability or the realization of alternative, undesirable motives.
If one is fully conscious and aware of their own capabilities, I don't see how you could possibly not trust yourself. In fact, I've always saw self as the only one thing you could truly trust.
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TheHateCamel
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: MOTH]
#5282687 - 02/09/06 05:35 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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If you can't trust yourself how can you trust your mistrust of yourself?
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gregorio
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: MOTH]
#5284768 - 02/10/06 06:47 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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EllemyshShade said:
I know self-love is something I am forever working on and never "getting" (apparently) and I was wondering if self-trust has a lot to do with that too. What do you think?
Self-love and self-trust taken together can end up being am unhealthy and even dangerous combination. Can self-love create a false sense of self-trust?
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Does one have to trust to love, or love to trust?
With others; you have to love to trust, I feel pretty positive about that.
Do you have to trust to love? It helps. But not absolutely necessary.
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fireworks_god
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: gregorio]
#5290787 - 02/12/06 04:50 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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gregorio said: Self-love and self-trust taken together can end up being am unhealthy and even dangerous combination. Can self-love create a false sense of self-trust?
What exactly makes it a dangerous combination?
How does one discern the difference between a sense of self-trust and a false sense of self-trust?
I trust myself and my abilities. I also appreciate and am fully aware of myself and abilities. How is this an unhealthy combination? It more resembles a beneficial, confident attitude necessary to fully engage in life and its endeavors.
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If I should die this very moment I wouldn't fear For I've never known completeness Like being here Wrapped in the warmth of you Loving every breath of you
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: fireworks_god]
#5290917 - 02/12/06 08:01 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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We can love those we don't trust and trust those we don't love. I have good friends that I care for, but don't implicitly trust. I also know people that I don't care for personally, but that I can trust to do what they say they will.
I guess when it comes to ourselves the issue seems to become infinitely more complex for some reason.
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MOTH
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: PsychoChipmunk]
#5291539 - 02/12/06 01:51 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I had a shroom trip last night. I had lots of thoughts and reflections about self-love and trust. I'm still piecing the experience together and trying to make sense of it, but I think good things happened.
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dr0mni
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: MOTH]
#5292337 - 02/12/06 06:50 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I think that your issue here is self-esteem... am I right?
Insecurity may lead you to not trust your own judgement or actions. Like you have a constant doubt about everything you do. How could you love that?!
Loving yourself begins with acceptence of your flaws, and I think that includes understanding where your boundaries are with self-trust. Up to a point it is healthy and inspirational, but past that it becomes cockiness and naivity.
..Finding your flaws and then working with them and having faith that your flaws aren't flaws at all, but instead are intrinsic to WHO YOU ARE.
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The_Hobbit
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Re: Do trusting yourself and loving yourself go hand in hand? [Re: dr0mni]
#5292676 - 02/12/06 08:35 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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dr0mni said: ..Finding your flaws and then working with them and having faith that your flaws aren't flaws at all, but instead are intrinsic to WHO YOU ARE.
Yep. There are many times when I've done hours of self exploration through meditation and exercise just to find out that 1 thing - and it was all about perspective. When you see that 1 thing and realize what you need to accomplish to overcome it, that's all you need for the whole day. Just keep living it up.
This is why I'm such a big fan of meditation and exercise. Finding a balance can give you more strength than you would imagine. You will say holy moly I know.
-------------------- Smoking my hobbit leaf... Please keep in mind that I am just a human being. Please read my posts carefully and interpret their meaning for yourself.
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