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girl trouble just doesn't end
#4928261 - 11/13/05 07:32 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Alright so there is this girl I really like and she seems into me whenever we are around each other. That all sounds good right? But she has a boyfriend...so I think I may be just wasting my time. I really don't want to get my hopes up but i like her alot. Any suggestions. I can't tell if she is just toying with me or what.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928266 - 11/13/05 07:35 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Good luck
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928304 - 11/13/05 08:13 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Several possible scenarios:
1. She is unhappy with her current coyfriend and she is scoping you out as the new guy. She will possibly leave her boyfriend for you.
a. If this happens she will probably continue to string along her old boyfriend as a backup guy.
b. She will probably do the same thing to you (continue going out with you and scope out a new guy) when she gets bored.
2. She is just out to get some dick and some guy attention from several guys.
a. If this is the case, she is not going to leave her boyfriend for you. You will be her "on the side" guy that she can run to when she needs laid or when things are not perfect with the boyfriend.
10% chance it is #1. 90% chance it is #2. Trust me on this.
Get your dick in her as many times as is possible and the second it becomes too much trouble to deal with her or that you sense games are being played, throw her ass to the curb.
Edited by RandalFlagg (11/13/05 08:14 AM)
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: RandalFlagg]
#4928315 - 11/13/05 08:21 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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She may be unhappy because I have seen her get really upset about her boyfriend but that may just be how the relationship is. I will just wait it out and see I guess. Should I try and talk to her and tell her how I feel?(I am really bad at this kind of stuff)
Edit: Oh. another thing. I am I guess what you call skinny and don't have any muscle tone adn I am thinking of working out. I dunno but i always get a feeling that me not having muscle tone turns alot of girls off.
Edited by Tangerines (11/13/05 08:26 AM)
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928331 - 11/13/05 08:29 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Tangerines said: She may be unhappy because I have seen her get really upset about her boyfriend but that may just be how the relationship is. I will just wait it out and see I guess. Should I try and talk to her and tell her how I feel?(I am really bad at this kind of stuff)
I would advise against talking to her about your feelings because she will probably just lie to you anyway.
Train wreck waiting to happen....
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928337 - 11/13/05 08:32 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Don't steal anothers gf
oh she's into you eh?
so you date her....and she'll be into someone else...move on
Edited by goobler (11/13/05 08:58 AM)
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: goobler]
#4928345 - 11/13/05 08:38 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'll just wait and see what happens.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928357 - 11/13/05 08:46 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Tangerines said: I'll just sit around while she fucks me over and breaks my heart
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928384 - 11/13/05 09:05 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm in a situation quite similar to yours.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Kenny7822]
#4928396 - 11/13/05 09:11 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Kenny7822 said: I'm in a situation quite similar to yours.
Congratulations!
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4928408 - 11/13/05 09:22 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Like you, I really like this girl. I still talk to her as a friend but have given up trying to get her to date me because I realize even if she did date me she would probably do the same thing to me as she did to her current boyfriend.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Kenny7822]
#4928423 - 11/13/05 09:41 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Son, hit it and quit it. Listen to the wisdom of us older guys.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: RandalFlagg]
#4928678 - 11/13/05 12:00 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Girls are an interesting breed. The reality of it all is most of them all seek one thing. ATTENTION. Maybe she isn't getting it from her current bf? It seems like she has you to get that attention when she needs it.
She could very well be toying with you, but not be conscience of it. Sadly, it doesn't matter which way you color it, you're still getting toyed with. It seems that she has an interest in you, but does it further from her curiosity in how far she can take it and to see what you do, or how you react? Girls are Intense..They may intitially want something, and then when it gets to that point they change their mind...wait, thats human nature. Anyhow, women have the ability to bring a man to his knees..make you want to do whatever with total dissreguard to reality. I guess I should rephrase that to Love as well. On another hand, you could be looking into to much of whats going on...your feelings good have an influence in what is going on causing a slightly scewed view. Don't show her so much attention, or try playing that hard to get and you'll see if theres really a genuine interest...If she does, well crap, you're at that point of no return where you have to bring it into a DTR....(determine the relationship) talk and its sticky there.... cheers-
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4929033 - 11/13/05 01:59 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Never ever be friends with a woman unless she is SIGNIFICANTLY older than you. I.E. You think of her as your long-lost grandma.
Tangerines, this girl is whats known as an ATTENTION WHORE. I'm guessing she's on the younger side of age. Which means she is not looking for anything serious, unless its a serious big dick or a serious amount of cash. Do not be anything more to her than a dick, in more mays than one, if you get my drift.
Like Randal said, hit that shit if you can, but DO NOT get attached to her. She won't let you and you don't want to either. Girls like this will not settle down until they have had numerous sexual encounters with guys they consider "hot, dangerous, mysterious." After they have had their fill, they'll eventually come to realize that you really can't settle down with a guy like this and then thats when the nice guy comes in. Who has been burned many times and said fuck it to women and has decided to improve himself in his life, career, financial situation, knowledge, experience etc.
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THIS SHIT, IT IS NOT WORTH IT AT ALL.
LISTEN TO US.
Your girl trouble will NEVER, EVER end. Get used to it.
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girl trouble ends if you stop chasing girls
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: porcupine]
#4929232 - 11/13/05 03:18 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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But I'm not the one giving her attention really. She just walks up to me and says she loves me and i make her happy and puts her arms around me. I don't really know what to do because she has a boyfriend.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4929237 - 11/13/05 03:19 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yes, girl trouble ends at the asshole, think of it that way and the trouble just doesn't seem that bad does it?
Everybody here is spot on. This is a classic case of attention whoreitis. Get your dick wet and don't call her back, or if it fails don't call her back anyway. She and you both deserve it. You can continue being her tea buddy/girlfriend and hear all the bullshit drama from her all the while you secretly are going through with it on the off chance you might be able to be with her.
Its not worth it. Move onto new fish, see how she reacts to you are giving another female attention (preferrably one that keeps the games to a minimum). I'll bet she will then find a new girlfriend with a penis to get attention from. You'll see how into you she is then.
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Edited by DirtMcgirt (11/13/05 03:23 PM)
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4929251 - 11/13/05 03:24 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't listen to bullshit or drama. We just talk about whatever comes to our minds.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4929268 - 11/13/05 03:29 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thats a good sign but this doesn't bode well for you. These kinds of situations never turn out well. Move onto new fish my friend. You don't have to ignore her but use that hormonal energy on something that reciprocates it and is worth your while. Life is too short. If she wants you she'll drop hints. Throw a side comment to her about her appearance every now and again to let her know you are into her physically (obviously you dig each other personally I am assuming) but forget about the chick and move on until a new situation arises.
Otherwise your gonna drive yourself crazy for no reason. If a women is driving you crazy (which is bound to happen) at least get something in return for it.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: DirtMcgirt]
#4929379 - 11/13/05 04:15 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've been in your position too many times and it never worked out. It may not be worth it, but I don't know the situation as well as you.
I'd be there as a friend and if anything else happens, go for it. Otherwise don't keep your hopes up high because she may end up toying with you even if she doesn't mean it.
Working out and watching your diet's a good idea. I'm a skinny guy and I wouldn't say girls aren't attracted to skinny dudes, but if you put a little more meat on your frame then it's no doubt going to be more attractive. I managed to put a lot of weight on since my last gf and the looks I get now are crazy, she knows she's missing out. My current gf always thought I looked great (I'm generally pretty clean, I suppose I upkeep or yeah... I'm just not a sloppy fella, that's for sure), but she realllly doesn't mind me now that I've put on a good 20lbs. She's wild for me now. She said she wouldn't mind me if I got skinnier, and was sort of scared when I started mentioning bulking and working out but now helps me all the time.
It's not hard to start putting on a little weight, it's just a matter of figuring out what works for you and sticking with it. You'll probably build a bit more confidence... and if worse comes to worse, you can kick her bf's ass. lol
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: RandalFlagg]
#4933177 - 11/14/05 04:20 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
RandalFlagg said: Son, hit it and quit it. Listen to the wisdom of us older guys.
Truer words were never spoken.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: drtyfrnk]
#4933641 - 11/14/05 06:19 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well next time we chill I'll get a few in me and see where it takes me.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4935110 - 11/14/05 10:56 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Get away from her unless you want something trivial.
Or maybe ask her about it? She seems dishonest though.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Jaimie]
#4935504 - 11/15/05 12:25 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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As someone mentioned earlier...if she'll leave this guy for you, she'll leave you for a new one..
Girls are fucked up dude..
This is what I do..
Look for ass, Hit it, Hit it again, maybe a few more times.. Then look for a new piece before I get attached...
All the while, meeting various girls scoping out girlfriend material.. When a girl comes on to me, and falls in love with me (the clingy type that'll stay with you until YOU break up with THEM) are the GF material IMO Those are the ones that won't fuck you over...out of every 5 or so of those you meet, usually there's at least one that you can like... Until then, as meeting them is hard at times... LOOK FOR ASS, HIT IT, HIT IT AGAIN, MAYBE A FEW MORE TIMES.. AND START OVER..
Just my 3 cents (yes I said 3)
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: jarroddupont]
#4935521 - 11/15/05 12:31 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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jarroddupont said: As someone mentioned earlier...if she'll leave this guy for you, she'll leave you for a new one..
Girls are fucked up dude..
This is what I do..
Look for ass, Hit it, Hit it again, maybe a few more times.. Then look for a new piece before I get attached...
All the while, meeting various girls scoping out girlfriend material.. When a girl comes on to me, and falls in love with me (the clingy type that'll stay with you until YOU break up with THEM) are the GF material IMO Those are the ones that won't fuck you over...out of every 5 or so of those you meet, usually there's at least one that you can like... Until then, as meeting them is hard at times... LOOK FOR ASS, HIT IT, HIT IT AGAIN, MAYBE A FEW MORE TIMES.. AND START OVER..
Just my 3 cents (yes I said 3)
But a girl is fucked up for doing the same thing?
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Taskenti]
#4935590 - 11/15/05 12:48 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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As men, already perceived as sexist pigs by women, what about this is not to be expected from us?
Call me a hypocrit, but guys are already considered "fucked up" for this..
Yes, there may be a minority/exception of guys this doesn't apply to.. Maybe this guy actually...
But I said, "just my 3 cents"
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: jarroddupont]
#4935642 - 11/15/05 01:00 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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she wants to get the relationship shit from you but the dick from her boyfriend.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: zenmunk]
#4935709 - 11/15/05 01:17 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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...even more lucid
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4936131 - 11/15/05 06:14 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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First thing first, get your confidence up. Females sense insecurity and don't like it. You come off as confident and you are halfway to baggin the skeezer. Go ahead and start working out. Makes you feel good, and will naturally raise your confidence. Which translates to more pussy.
Second, as others have pointed out, she's probably not worth pursuing a relationship with. But as you'll find out in life, most aren't. Just don't go in looking for something serious. Let it come with time.
If you want to get her, just talk to her. Make her laugh and try to avoid talking about her boyfriend unless she brings it up. And even then, don't dwell on it. Just show her a good time. If she's currently unhappy, then making her smile will work wonders. That's the kind of thing that sticks in a ladies head at night. Help her realize that you are better than what she's currently with Find out what she likes to do for fun and do it with her. Be easy at first. Don't fiend her every day. After you talk to/chill with her give it a day or two to simmer. After a week or two, make a move.
Oh, don't forget to throw in some compliments. That's where being slick comes in. If you see she changed something(her hair, new clothes, painted nails) let her know it looks good. Not only did you compliment her(who doesn't like a compliment?), but you also NOTICED her change. You care enough to notice things like that, and she'll notice you noticing her.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: zenmunk]
#4937262 - 11/15/05 01:49 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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zenmunk said: she wants to get the relationship shit from you but the dick from her boyfriend.
DING! DING! DING!
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: RandalFlagg]
#4937276 - 11/15/05 01:52 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I didn't read everything but the first post. Your wasting your time. Why? Shes already caused you distress. Look at her flirt while she has a boyfriend. Do you want that in a girl. Get over her, find a new girl, unless they don't come around often. Yeah you get a girl your like "damn this is one i want", but put it aside, you will find more, this is not the last girl you will see.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: factory81]
#4939148 - 11/15/05 08:50 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well thanks for all the input. I should have seen this cause it has happened before(other girls). This weekend I am going to chill with her and if nothing hits off then I'm done trying.
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4939647 - 11/15/05 10:36 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Good idea ^
*dammit, 3rd post 30 seconds after 2nd* <- and I was doing so good today...
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: Tangerines]
#4941711 - 11/16/05 01:37 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Several possible scenarios:
1. She is unhappy with her current coyfriend and she is scoping you out as the new guy. She will possibly leave her boyfriend for you.
a. If this happens she will probably continue to string along her old boyfriend as a backup guy.
b. She will probably do the same thing to you (continue going out with you and scope out a new guy) when she gets bored.
2. She is just out to get some dick and some guy attention from several guys.
a. If this is the case, she is not going to leave her boyfriend for you. You will be her "on the side" guy that she can run to when she needs laid or when things are not perfect with the boyfriend.
10% chance it is #1. 90% chance it is #2. Trust me on this.
Get your dick in her as many times as is possible and the second it becomes too much trouble to deal with her or that you sense games are being played, throw her ass to the curb.
LISTEN TO THIS, HE IS SPEAKING THE TRUTH!!
PS. I have never heard this layed out so simply before! Awsome!, just simply awsome!
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: FlusH]
#4941742 - 11/16/05 01:45 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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FlusH said: PS. I have never heard this layed out so simply before! Awsome!, just simply awsome!
*Randalflagg struts around the forum*
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Re: girl trouble just doesn't end [Re: RandalFlagg]
#4949794 - 11/18/05 12:23 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Damn. Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.
Yeah there are some good ones out there but this doesn't sound worth your while.
I think it's kind of funny that guys are supposed to be the shallow immature ones but for the most part we tend to be much more honest and sincere. Or at least simple. Girls are so manipulative and crafty.
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