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absolute zero
The Hero

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Breakup...
#4904460 - 11/07/05 01:33 PM (18 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well, this past weekend, I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years.
We've broken up before and gotten back together, but this time feels a lot different. I didn't resist. She recently moved about 45-60 minutes away from me, and although I visit twice weekly, the distance has really taken its toll.
I truly believe that she had no intention of hurting me through this, but she's been telling me how unhappy she is lately. She cried and I cried as well, but I told her we should break up so that she wouldn't feel guilty about being the one to do it.
Anyways, I only posted because the more I talk about it, the less it hurts. I'm not a risk to myself or others, just wanted to set down some of my baggage...
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peepeepottypants
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Registered: 04/02/05
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Its really tough. I understand what your going through, but I probably understand better from the girls point of view.
I've found that time heals that pain. I recommend keeping a real honest relationship with her, and be considerate of her emotions, especially since shes the one who has moved, and its probably real tough on her w/o the breakup.
If you start to feel like it wont subside for a long time, remember that everything can look like it will be forever, when you're in it.
I hope you and your ex girl find it easier to deal with as soon as your emotions allow you to.
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Gillette
Jaded


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if it means anything I've stayed friends with all my exes...I mean after spending years of your life with someone how can you shut them out completely...and better yet why? one of my bestfriends in one of my exes, we'd never get back together (despite what bom thinks) because we need eachother as friends more.
Now about breaking up....the pain goes away and things get better, but I can tell you now, its better to just end it, then let it go on and get worse and worse...the emotional damage that a bad relationship can provide takes sooo long to undo...I'm starting to think I may need to do the same thing.
Then again you never know how things will turn out maybe you'll both miss each other incredibly and get back together..who knows.
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daimyo
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Is she hot? If you want, you can give me her name/number and I'll try and keep her mind off of you so you can move on 
J/K. Good luck with whatever you do. Hopefully your next encounter doesn't turn into a waste of time. Try and remember that you are young and it is not time for you to waste large portions of your life on women. You will run into plenty of ladies that can hold your heart. But instead of throwing away your time on love, concentrate on making money and securing your future. You can fall in love with any female. Wait until you have yourself situated before you try and do it again.
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"I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man."
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