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doubledutch
Morado PR

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Loc: Puerto Rico
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Re: Not going anywhere. [Re: LiquidSmoke]
#4780487 - 10/10/05 01:24 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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You guys've helped me so much. Reading this thread's SO helped me out. I'm also 20 - in college... bum around all day - I'm about to drop half my classes and probably take Fs in the others. I seriously haven't been to class in at least a week now. Sad. I smoke too much pot, too. Thanks for the words though you've helped me out a lot - and threadstarter... I know EXACTLY what you're going through.
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QuantumMeltdown
Space Monkey



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Re: Not going anywhere. [Re: doubledutch]
#4782846 - 10/10/05 02:16 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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One quick reply to Hella. I think myself and others here are actually guilty of egging him on but Hella no wonder why you haven't done any homework or studying you have 50,000 posts in only two years jesus christ buddy I think you are trying to beat a record or something. Sometimes we just need to give the shroomery a rest.
-------------------- -QuantumMeltdown Total abstinence is so excellent a thing that it cannot be carried to too great an extent. In my passion for it I even carry it so far as to totally abstain from total abstinence itself. -Mark Twain "The time has come the walrus said, little oysters hide their heads, my Twain of thought is loosely bound I guess its time to Mark this down, Be good and you will be lonesome Be lonesome and you will be free Live a lie and you will live to regret it That's what livin' is to me That's what livin' is to me" Jimmy Buffett
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chino
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I know exactly where youre coming from man. I've been through it before. i know exactly how it feels to want to not be a slacker, but lacking any motivation what-so-ever to get off my ass. I'm 19 going on 20, and attending community college. I've been lazy my whole life, and throughout highschool I slept through every class and played everquest every waking moment. My freshman year of college I did ok first semester, but my second semester I started selling pot (I had been smoking for a while). The heavy pot smoking I was doing, combined with a natural lazyness, made me drop out of all my classes midway through my semester. I had started to do poorly because of the pot and my innate apathy, and eventually I got so disgusted with my poor grades that I just quit because I would've failed anyway. I was heavily depressed because of my failure, which only made me smoke more pot, which made me more depressed. A vicious cycle. I was high 24/7 , often times too high from the night before to even get out of bed. My depression and apathy were out of control. I had no desire to participate in the real world. Marijuana had allowed me to not feel anything. It was the cause of, and the cure for my depression. I would get high so I didnt have to feel, but in the end it just made it all worse. I am a naturally lazy and apathetic person, and pot threw me over the edge. It was like fight club, I had to hit rock bottom before I could come back up. Eventually I became so disgusted with myself that it motivated me to quit selling and smoking. I hated myself for being so lazy. I re-enrolled at college, and I am working through the classes I dropped out of right now. It feels so good to finally have motivation to accomplish my goals. My motivation stems from the fact that I WANT to do good. I hate the person I used to be, and that is what motivates me. The other thing that has helped me is the gym. I got a YMCA membership and I love to go and work out. Once you start accomplish your goals in the gym, and not allowing yourself to quit no matter what, that will rub off into your real life. Achieving your fitness goals will give you the confidence and motivation to achieve other goals in your real life. So the two morals of my story are dont smoke weed, and go to the gym. If you smoke pot, quit. Period. It will demotivate you. Pot allows you to be apathetic and justify your laziness. I love weed, but I know it is not good for a naturally lazy person like me. I have friends who smoke more than me and have 3.5 GPAs. They will face a fatass blunt and go and study. I can't do that. I still smoke, but i am going to quit for good soon as i have slowed my usage considerably.A
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Drink_Punk_Soda
Now with ExtraVaganza!?

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Re: Not going anywhere. [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#4790457 - 10/11/05 11:22 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I haven't read anyones replies.
Hella, you're 20? I'm 22 and always thought you seemed older than me.
Fucking up in school is tough, I have experienced that first hand. A big part of it is studying something that actually interests you. Take a couple months off with nothing to do, an interesting scholastic topic is like a breath of fresh air.
Just the fact that you're worried about being apathetic means you aren't. If it seems present enough to bother you, you're aware of it, and you can work on it.
And hey, if your parents are supporting you, say thank you and take all the help they can give.
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Toboggan
I Am My OwnSavior


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Re: Not going anywhere. [Re: chino]
#4800781 - 10/13/05 09:02 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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chino said: I know exactly where youre coming from man. I've been through it before. i know exactly how it feels to want to not be a slacker, but lacking any motivation what-so-ever to get off my ass. I'm 19 going on 20, and attending community college. I've been lazy my whole life, and throughout highschool I slept through every class and played everquest every waking moment. My freshman year of college I did ok first semester, but my second semester I started selling pot (I had been smoking for a while). The heavy pot smoking I was doing, combined with a natural lazyness, made me drop out of all my classes midway through my semester. I had started to do poorly because of the pot and my innate apathy, and eventually I got so disgusted with my poor grades that I just quit because I would've failed anyway. I was heavily depressed because of my failure, which only made me smoke more pot, which made me more depressed. A vicious cycle. I was high 24/7 , often times too high from the night before to even get out of bed. My depression and apathy were out of control. I had no desire to participate in the real world. Marijuana had allowed me to not feel anything. It was the cause of, and the cure for my depression. I would get high so I didnt have to feel, but in the end it just made it all worse. I am a naturally lazy and apathetic person, and pot threw me over the edge. It was like fight club, I had to hit rock bottom before I could come back up. Eventually I became so disgusted with myself that it motivated me to quit selling and smoking. I hated myself for being so lazy. I re-enrolled at college, and I am working through the classes I dropped out of right now. It feels so good to finally have motivation to accomplish my goals. My motivation stems from the fact that I WANT to do good. I hate the person I used to be, and that is what motivates me. The other thing that has helped me is the gym. I got a YMCA membership and I love to go and work out. Once you start accomplish your goals in the gym, and not allowing yourself to quit no matter what, that will rub off into your real life. Achieving your fitness goals will give you the confidence and motivation to achieve other goals in your real life. So the two morals of my story are dont smoke weed, and go to the gym. If you smoke pot, quit. Period. It will demotivate you. Pot allows you to be apathetic and justify your laziness. I love weed, but I know it is not good for a naturally lazy person like me. I have friends who smoke more than me and have 3.5 GPAs. They will face a fatass blunt and go and study. I can't do that. I still smoke, but i am going to quit for good soon as i have slowed my usage considerably.A
I love a story with a happy ending 
Hella, there are two ways your life can be turned around: you can either stay on the path you're on now until you hit rock bottom like Chino said where you will either do nothing or try to change your whole lifestyle all at once, or you can start now with small changes and build up some momentum and quickly become the person you want to be.
Start making small changes and setting easy goals (I'll excercise 3 times this week, I'll do this assignment tomorrow instead of at the last minute, etc.) and start doing some things routinely. If you dont jog i suggest you start. Begin by jogging for 10 minutes 3 times a week and then increase the distance every couple weeks. Like someone already said getting out of the house away from distractions is a good way to study.
I generally have a really hard time doing work at home cuz theres so much stuff to distract me. I sometimes get into these phases where i procrastinate everything (actually i think im usually lazy and i get into phases of motivation ), like last night i was up until 5am doing lab reports that were due today, but when i think about the future and how i want it to be i can focus on the work because i know i can do good if i actually try.
Remember, its good to visualize doing well and make PLANS but nothing is going to happen until you take action yourself.
You can do it if you try Toboggan
-------------------- "A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd"
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TheProphet
Strange alienposing as ahuman... seekinganswers

Registered: 10/13/05
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Re: Not going anywhere. [Re: Toboggan]
#4806650 - 10/15/05 07:55 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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dude being in a rut is terrible, very hard to get out...
stay in school, get a respectable degree and a career that will help get you out of the "rat race"...
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I'm not going to sugar coat anything of what i'm about to say, so don't take it as me being an asshole.
Listen man, first and formost, lay off the pot. I know it's hard, and you'll probably end up ignoring this advice, but trust me, it's crushed alot of people's dreams.
Secondly, a computer certification program really isn't going to get you that far, n o matter how optimistic you are about it. I suggest heading back to school and getting a USEFULL degree. Not just ANY college degree.
Thirdly, you have to realize that everyone has dreams of making cash money. Your aspirations are not uncommon, infact, it's probably the same dream everyone has. And yet only a select few actually end up achieving those goals.
You have to understand that the people who become the most successfull are also the ones who generally sacrificed the most of their youth and so-called "MTV Real World days".
I spent my 20th and 19th birthday studying organic chemistry. There were uncountable nights when I had friends holding parties or girls calling me up to come over because they were drunk. But guess what, I chose to go the unglamorous route and buckle down and study.
There is no "hiddin secret" towards reaching your financial goals and lifelong success. Hard work. Hard work. Hard work.
And finally, perhaps the most brutall honest thing I can tell you.
Going down the path you are right now, you're going to end up working a shitty cubicle job, with some asshole boss yelling at you, where you really aren't in touch with the purpose of your work, or even the relevance behind your progress.
And then...
And then you'll look back on these years and have the most deeply-rooted feeling of frustration and regret you'll ever feel. And that feeling will haunt you on a daily basis for the rest of your life.
Every time you come home from work. Every time you get your measley paycheck. Every time your wife and kids bug you to buy them something. Every time you see some snot-nosed kid driving a car which costed 5 times what you're driving.
You will feel that regret.
^^ that was well said!
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