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Icelander
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4552243 - 08/18/05 03:42 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Leery11, this will all turn out all right. Listen to me. I made it out and I was totally sexually repressed. If I made it you will too. This will all turn out all right. It will take some time, you will be depressed about it, some shadows may remain, but this will all turn out all right. You're a good guy and that will win out in the end. It will be all right. Keep the faith. Learn to love yourself as you are now. When you begin to accept yourself and start even a little to love yourself like you are now. Things will begin to shift for you.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4552476 - 08/18/05 04:51 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Icelander man, you should be a therapist.
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Icelander a therapist. I can see it now. Some guy with bipolar disorder and psychosis comes into his office with a knife, wearing a cat who's entrails he scooped out for a hat, singing "I am the Walrus." and looking around for library agents working with the CIA and the icelandic national gaurd to hunt him down for his ability to communicate telepathically with frogs, and icelander going "What you need to do is learn to love yourself right now as you are."
I like icelander, but I don't really think he should be a therapist. Maybe a sex therapist.
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Icelander
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: tomk]
#4552895 - 08/18/05 06:53 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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He does need to love himself as he is. We can work on it while I have him in a headlock.
Tomk, just because I advocate loving oneself as is. I don't advocate acting out dark impulses.
Glad to know you like me. I like you too. I think you would make an excellent therapist. I may have mentioned this before.
Thanks Redtailedhawk. That means alot comming from you. For now it's self therapy though. Using lots of
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
Edited by Icelander (08/18/05 06:55 PM)
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leery11
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4552987 - 08/18/05 07:15 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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I agree loving myself is critical... i usually only love myself when i'm on drugs (this does not mean i don't un-love myself sober) [which i'm about to be if hbwr can really be taken sublingually]... i just stare into the mirror and talk to myself... and such.
but anyway... I think once school starts I'll just have to like, position myself next to some nice looking girls in my class and maybe say a "hi" .... but "hi" is about all I've figured out how to say as I'm not a small-talk person.... so... there's nothing legitimate to say really....
any tips on that?
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
Edited by leery11 (08/18/05 07:16 PM)
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Icelander
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4553043 - 08/18/05 07:25 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Psychedelics did that for me also. Use them wisely and they can help you and guide you all along the way.
Tips. Well I'm of the mind that says if you want to find a girl who will be real then be real yourself. You need to be prepared for the ones who aren't being real to reject you. Just remember this. The whole truth is that they are more scared than you are. They may never feel safe enough to be real and you being real will frighten them. When humans are frightened they often attack. Try not to take them personally.
So if you are nervous around some girl you fancy. Just say it if you can. "look, im kinda shy and nervous here, but I really like you and want to get to know you". any variation on that. Be real and be friendly. It's ok to be nervous and scared. I wish someone had told me this back then. You may find better lines and better advice from others. I'm still shy as hell around pretty girls. But I've had a few now and I know how to handle my fear somewhat. My current partner (Veritas) came after me. We were friends for quite awhile before we hooked up as lovers.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4553721 - 08/18/05 10:13 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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mannnnn
i feel the acid love.
it feels so pure and.... just super nice.
but i don't have anyone to give it to.
I know that I shouldn't live my life alone.... that
these great moments should be shared.
i am incomplete ..... when i'm not like this.
i'm incomplete..... when i live my life... not enjoying living life.
but what do i do?
just try i guess?
I don't know.
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4554649 - 08/19/05 07:13 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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That summary you just gave sums up my life perfectly as well.
The only different thing is that I am not a "repressed Christian."
I'm just a fucking loser. Whatever. I don't care.
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4554806 - 08/19/05 09:06 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
leery11 said: mannnnn
i feel the acid love.
it feels so pure and.... just super nice.
but i don't have anyone to give it to.
I know that I shouldn't live my life alone.... that
these great moments should be shared.
i am incomplete ..... when i'm not like this.
i'm incomplete..... when i live my life... not enjoying living life.
but what do i do?
just try i guess?
I don't know.
mannnnn, I hear ya. But I don't agree. You are complete. You just don't know it yet. Right now you need to discover this by loving others. That's cool, and what is happening to you in your life is exactally what needs to be happening for your growth.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4555984 - 08/19/05 04:05 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Until a few months ago I was having the same problem - wanting to cuddle with someone, spend time with a girl to relieve loneliness, etc. However I really had no excuses such as being raised in a sexual repressing family.
Right now it's progressing towards the better, though like you, I can't really get into a more intense relationship with any girl that I like, sometimes just because I was too afraid to tell her the truth, or sometimes when I would tell a girl that I wanted to get to know her she would just seem indifferent to it.
Contrary to most people's opinions here, I think it would be easier to talk to and have sex with a girl you didn't know. If she's been a longtime friend of yours it's not easy to just all of a sudden confess your undying love for her, etc...
Anyways how you can fix this. Realize that there are a lot more guys and girls in the same boat as you (such as myself), it's better to know that you aren't the only one. I'm no psychologist or expert so that's all I can give you. I saw a lot of excellent responses before mine so listen to them.
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Icelander
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Quote:
WeAreAllOne said: That summary you just gave sums up my life perfectly as well.
The only different thing is that I am not a "repressed Christian."
I'm just a fucking loser. Whatever. I don't care.
Of course you care. Otherwise you wouldn't be calling yourself a loser. Which you are not.
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4556831 - 08/19/05 09:07 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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You're right. I do care. I wish I didn't, but I do.
I'm working on it though. Been spending time with a very
special girl. Can't remember being this happy in a long
time.
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Icelander
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Sweet. Lovin is good for you.
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4564036 - 08/21/05 07:25 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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well i'm back in the normal world tomorrow, i guess i can try sitting next to some fine chicks during classes.....
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4564226 - 08/21/05 08:04 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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I found my partner when I quit looking for her. She is the most amazing person I ever met. And that you are, Veritas.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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leery11
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4564231 - 08/21/05 08:06 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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stopping looking means giving up all hope of ever finding anyone.
at least that's what it means to me.
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4564267 - 08/21/05 08:18 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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You might be surprised to find out the more intense the need the farther away the prise.
You can be open to every opportunity that comes up. Just don't worry or push the river. If you are relaxed about where you are the ladies will notice it.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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leery11
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: Icelander]
#4566420 - 08/22/05 12:26 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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what am i supposed to do when no one ever talks to me though?
what am i supposed to say? how do i tell how a girl feels about me? I've been conditioned to feel like a stalker that no one finds interest in.....
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
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Re: Sexual Repression [Re: leery11]
#4566517 - 08/22/05 01:14 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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leery11 said: what am i supposed to do when no one ever talks to me though?
what am i supposed to say? how do i tell how a girl feels about me? I've been conditioned to feel like a stalker that no one finds interest in.....
When in doubt, whip it out.
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leery11
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the cops don't like that ....
well, some of them do.
-------------------- I am the MacDaddy of Heimlich County, I play it Straight Up Yo! ....I embrace my desire to feel the rhythm, to feel connected enough to step aside and weep like a widow, to feel inspired, to fathom the power, to witness the beauty, to bathe in the fountain, to swing on the spiral of our divinity and still be a human...... Om Namah Shivaya, I tell you What!
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