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KristiMidocean
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STD's and my story
#4455435 - 07/26/05 12:30 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well I am very uncomfortable with telling all of you this but I feel it is my job to after what I just went through.
I am a girl that loves sex. loves loves loves loves loves sex. I have been in an on again off again relationship for almost 2 years now. When we would break up I would find a guy to "play with" even if it was just for one night.
Well I had to go to the hospital one morning because Of a major pain in my side and I could hardly move. Well I get there and they give me a catscan a piss test and a few other test. Well it turned out I had a kedney infection. But the doctor said that my pee was a little cloudy so she wanted to run a few more test...... so she does....
She comes back and tells me that I had a thing called vaginities. Which is cause by an STD or from foams, douches, soap, or a hormonal imbalance.
I do you a contraceptive foam which could have caused it, but the fact was I wasnt sure what cause t because of the fact that I had had more then one sexual partner unprotected. So after I let the hospital the doctor sent me to be tested for STDs(sexually transmitted disease)
I took ever single test you could imagine.... But the results wouldnt come for 3 weeks!!! the wait was unbearable.... I thought about taking my life for getting this and possible spreading something deadly. It was bad.
well I just got the result back today. AND found out that I am completly clean no STDs for me. THANK GOD!
So I ll I have to say to you guys is please don't be stupid like me please use protection. The worry of it could have killed me. Not knowing is soo scary.
If you don't care about your body then at least care about other and use protection. STDs are very real now adays. I got very luck that I didnt have any at all.
Also if you have had multiple partners that you didnt use protection I highly suggest you get tested asap. because NOT KNOWING is so unsafe.
Come to find out I am allergic to the contraceptive foam and that was it. But it could have been much much worse. So be safe my friends
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drtyfrnk
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Good story. I mean, that sucks really bad, but it's a good lesson to be learned for everyone. Thank you for sharing.
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KristiMidocean
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: drtyfrnk]
#4455532 - 07/26/05 12:52 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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it is hard for me to tell people because I don't want them to think I am a huge slut. I just have the sex drive of a man.
I am very happy that I didnt get anything but I am happy this happened like it did. because it taught me a really good lesson.
So thank you for your support. I just don't want others to go through this same thing , or even actually get an STD. I just want everyone to be safe. If not for yourself for your partner
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HarryFlashmanVC
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it is hard for me to tell people because I don't want them to think I am a huge slut.
Why on earth would anyone think that?
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The_Green_Glow
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*Mod edit: this is a place of support. If you don't have anything useful or supportive ot say, then don't say it!*
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Edited by EllemyshShade (07/27/05 02:23 PM)
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Quote:
HarryFlashmanVC said:
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it is hard for me to tell people because I don't want them to think I am a huge slut.
Why on earth would anyone think that?
haha
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Nemo_Hoes]
#4455959 - 07/26/05 02:33 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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But condoms aren't gangzta
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Thank you for sharing that Kristi. I love sex as well. Maybe more then most girls. I don't sleep around though and I do use condoms. It's so scary to think about what's out there and what can happen. Although I use protection....I probably should get tested anyway.
I'm happy the results came back in your favor.
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drtyfrnk
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If a girl likes sex, a girl likes sex.
It doesn't make her a slut IMHO. But off topic there, glad you shared and glad to make sure your OK
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The_Green_Glow
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: drtyfrnk]
#4456147 - 07/26/05 03:24 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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yeah, it's one thing to like sex, then another thing to be in a supposed 2 year relationship and go off fucking random guys everytime in a little argument. to me that is not even a relationship and what seperates liking sex and being a slut.
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MOTH
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Well, being a close friend of Kristi, I can say that she has no reason to suspect her "man" is ever going to come back whenever he shrugs her off. He does it 1-2 times a week sometimes, over stupid shit.
I'm SURPRISED she goes back to him every time.
Just saying Green Glow, you don't know the situation.
Interesting how you immediantly pegged the blame on the girl though...even though from reading her post she never mentions who breaks up with who....
Edited by EllemyshShade (07/26/05 03:45 PM)
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RandalFlagg
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Man...I've had some close calls too. I'll admit I've fucked some girls who had "questionable" reputations and I didn't use a condom. I don't do that shit anymore though. One day I said, "I am not doing this anymore...it is not safe." I then got tested like a zillion times over the next two years to make sure I didn't have anything (HIV doesn't show up for six months). I am 100% clean and I am lucky as fucking hell. I should have at least gotten clamydia or something.
But...I hate condoms. Condoms suck so much that I would almost rather masturbate than use them. I love unprotected sex where the girl is on the pill or something so you can just ejaculate in her.
Dammit! Just saying that last sentence is making me have the urge to go have unprotected sex. Damn you, Kristi!
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: MOTH]
#4456367 - 07/26/05 04:16 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Kristi
It's not that you have the sex drive of a man. You just have the sex drive of a woman who isn't buying all the bs about repressing her sexuality. Good for you that you act on it. The opinions of guys who don't get sex on the moral status of your sex life is irrelevant. Christians and others who are afraid of being in their own bodies make up this narrative where girls don't have a sex drive and are just objects for men to use for cleaning and sex and fetuses to use as a life support machine until such time as a man can take over child rearing duties. Fuck that shit, Kristi. Good for you for responding to your body and not what idiots like these guys think. You shouldn't buy into the narrative that your sex drive is abnormal or even manly, or that you are a less moral person because you decide to have a lot of sex.
Do you really want to base your self-perception of your sex life (a huge part of how much you enjoy your life) on what guys like those two assholes above think of your activities? Fuck that. I think their responses tell us a lot more about their issues with women and control then it does about your situation. Ignore idiots like that. Does Anyone think sex with thegreenglow is going to be anything but a repressed guiltfest?
I'm glad you tested negative but you should also know that many STDs including HIV have a 6 month incubatory period before they would be detected. To be considered to have tested clean, you must test negative for all STDs twice within a six month period. If you had unprotected months within 6 months of your STD test, you need another one in 6 months before you can be 100% you are clean.
They make female condoms now which can be used vaginally or anally and are easy to put in and don't interfer as much with sex.
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: tomk]
#4456460 - 07/26/05 04:41 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Amen!
Kristi, I always felt that my sex drive was "too manly" for a woman, and rarely shared my full sexuality with my partners. I now realize that this judgment is unfair and utterly sexist! If anything, women are made to be MORE sexual than men! We can have multiple orgasms, have sex all night long without becoming "incapable" of intercourse, and rarely want to doze off the instant we cum.
Don't buy the party line! Your sexuality belongs to you, as does your health. It sounds like you are reclaiming them both, and that is beautiful. Have fun & treasure your precious body.
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The_Green_Glow
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Veritas]
#4457325 - 07/26/05 08:34 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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*Mod edit: your flamey remarks are not welcome.*
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Edited by EllemyshShade (07/27/05 02:25 PM)
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Mitchnast
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"it is hard for me to tell people because I don't want them to think I am a huge slut. I just have the sex drive of a man. "
hey, as long were reinforcing negative sexual steriotypes, i'd like to point out you still have the accountability of a woman......
Edited by Mitchnast (07/26/05 08:50 PM)
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Mitchnast]
#4457404 - 07/26/05 08:49 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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If every chick had the sexual drive of most men.. nothing would ever get done.. and I would be happy.
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Mitchnast
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Shroomism]
#4457449 - 07/26/05 08:56 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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hmm i disaggree with the 'most men" part
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MOTH
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The_Green_Glow said:
E-Shade, im not blaming the girl, are you STUPID?????
As stupid as the next human being.
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tomk
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Does being gay have anything to do with the topic at hand?
I think it's pretty obvious something about Kristi's situation is triggering something in your past thats making you react so harshly to her. When you say " what i am disgusted by is SLUTTINESS. If you love someone, great, have sex with THEM. It's when you go out fucking random guys and being like OMG i might have an STD now, OMG OMG OMG who did i get it from, OMG, that i think you are a completely stupid son of a bitch who asked for the shit. COMMON FUCKING SENSE. what lesson is there to really learn? did you not go to jr high????" it's pretty obvious you are talking about someone else in your life, not Kristi. Did some girlfriend of yours sleep around on you during a fight or something? I would bet my left nut that you are projecting something onto your responses to kristi.
When you say "which obviously from what you said she would always see coming, so definitely no excuses there, she WANTED to be out fucking other guys" you buy into the patriarchal bullshit that women need an excuse to have sex or give into sexual impulses. They don't. She doesn't need to justify her sexual behavior to anyone. You emphasize 'wanted' as if her sexual desires condemn her. They don't. You're emphasizing her desires as if her giving into them makes her deserve STDs. Your attitude reminds me of the people who think AIDs is here to punish gay people or pregnancy is there to punish non-virgins.
The only thing Kristi deserves to be condemned for is practicing unsafe sex. Bad Kristi! Play safe and play often!
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you seriously don't have to be an asshole about it green glow. if you're not going to contribute anything useful, don't post.
i hate condoms too. they are the worst. i've only had one one night thing without a condom before, the only other time i havent used a condom has been with girlfriends. i know it's a huge risk without a condom, and you made me think about it Kristi. i'm not ever going to go condomless on one night only things anymore. from this day forward i'm only gonna go without them if i'm in a relationship. i figure if i'm going out with someone and having a lot of sex with a condom, chances are i'm going to catch something if they have it anyway because condoms aren't 100%.
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KristiMidocean
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hey everyone I really thank you for your kind words. I really do.
for those of you who want to call me a slut that is your thing. I know who I am and I know that many people would think I was a slut because I was tested for stds but you know what that is your opinion.
My boyfriend and I are very much in love. However ( and I know this is sad) he has great fear of commettment and often times when things start to et really serious with us he breaks up with me. My heart gets crushed every time because I do love him so much.... If I sit at home waiting for him to call me I go nuts... crazy crazy crazy.......
in the two years we have been together I have only slept with one other guy.. and we were broke up when it happened.... I had just met thee guy but it was a friend of my best friend... I dont go to a club pick some guy up and take them home.. thats dirty... and as far as I knew he was a sweet guy looked clean and I was totally into him.... He helped me keep my mind off of the pain I was in.....
If that makes me a slut then oh well Im saying IM A SLUT.....
I truely love sex. if it can distract me for a few hours from jumping off a bridge then its good for me.... when my boyfriend and I got back together I told him what I did... Its not like I kept it a secret. I am coompletly honest with him.
My biggest regret however is that I didnt use protection... and that I could have possible have spread that to my boyfriend.
Anyways I didnt write this thread to start any fights I just wrote it to help people see how important ( no matter how clean the other person looks or how shity it feels) it is to protect yourself thats all
I love sex and I always will. Maybe Im not like what people say I am suppose to be but you know I was raised to be fake by my parents and in the last 3-4 years I have fought hard to be myself. Now that I am who I am I am not ashamed. So call me what you will because you can't break me down
Thank you to all of you who understand
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KristiMidocean said: Thank you to all of you who understand
Hey, you and I are just horndogs. Nothing wrong with that.
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KristiMidocean
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you are so silly
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HarryFlashmanVC
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I truely love sex. if it can distract me for a few hours from jumping off a bridge then its good for me....
If you mean that truthfully, seek help. You're head is not right if the only thing that will stop you topping yourself is a length of cock.....
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Mitchnast
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yeah really. if you need sex in place of peace of mind for whatever reason... futhermore if you can keep justifying torturing yourself with a boy who cant grow up...
then youre really nothing special. youre every other woman who never ammounted to anything and blames it all on men.
because your pivoting your value upon a dick. and they wont always stand up for you.
you know those old ladies who got married a few times and gave up? old and lonely and occasionally dating semi-insane burn outs? they were you at your age. couldnt figure out what to do for themselves, depended on a guy who couldnt commit and just never got it. never developed an adults common sense. and never were accountable.
its too late for them, not for you, but somebody no doubt told them this stuff when they were you and they never wised up, will you?
when youre alone you go crazy right? you dont have a mans sex drive. even the most wroreish of men dont contemplate suicide when they arent getting laid. theres something far more insidious in there. what you have is classic transference of your own problems onto men. youre terribly insecure. your jelous of girls who seem to be happy and have sex in their life, and it eats you, you want that normalicy, so much that you forgo relationships and personal safetey to get it. im not calling you a slut. that would make it to easy for you to deflect. a slut isnt "real" its just a subjective and malicious opinion. you got too much beating up on yourself to do to bother letting others do it with words.
i think you need to find some sort of meaning, some positive focus that has nothing to do with sex.
honestly i cant think of anything tho. not much i can think of that you couldnt try to endevour sexual relations through.
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Mitchnast]
#4459903 - 07/27/05 11:57 AM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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honestly i cant think of anything tho. not much i can think of that you couldnt try to endevour sexual relations through. _____________________________________________________
How about a theraputic dose of shrooms?
Good post by the way.
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The_Green_Glow said: Mod edit: Your flamey comments are not welcome.
This is off topic but...
Man you need to learn some manners if you want to continue posting in this forum. This forum was set up as a SUPPORT forum, to help your fellow members who are in emotional/mental/physical distress.
It is not a forum for you to insult people or judge others according to your own narrow viewpoint.
If you can't say something constructive...don't say anything at all (at least in THIS forum). If you can't abide by that simple rule, I'm sure one of the mods/admin will be more than happy to click that "BAN" button.
Just a friendly reminder
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Edited by EllemyshShade (07/27/05 02:37 PM)
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drtyfrnk
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: trendal]
#4460250 - 07/27/05 01:43 PM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks for posting that Tren, we all appreciate the reminder.
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MOTH
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: trendal]
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trendal said:
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The_Green_Glow said:Mod edit: Your flamey comments are not welcome.
This is off topic but...
Man you need to learn some manners if you want to continue posting in this forum. This forum was set up as a SUPPORT forum, to help your fellow members who are in emotional/mental/physical distress.
It is not a forum for you to insult people or judge others according to your own narrow viewpoint.
If you can't say something constructive...don't say anything at all (at least in THIS forum). If you can't abide by that simple rule, I'm sure one of the mods/admin will be more than happy to click that "BAN" button.
Just a friendly reminder
You're totally right, Trendal. I guess I need to start cracking down more on flamey remarks in this forum.
Edited by EllemyshShade (07/27/05 02:37 PM)
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KristiMidocean
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Mitchnast]
#4462520 - 07/28/05 12:03 AM (18 years, 7 months ago) |
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I would really love to talk with you!
You said a lot of really true things that kind of hit at my core.
Would you mind if I pmed you sometime/?
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Mitchnast
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sure, i was worried you might take offense.
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ShroomOmatic
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I'm glad your ok and were lucky enough to make it out without any problems.
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The_Green_Glow
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*Edit: please do not comment if you have nothing nice to say.*
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Edited by EllemyshShade (07/29/05 01:03 PM)
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Gijith
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Krisi,
It's great that you've been able to make it clear of STDs. Like other people have said, don't listen to anyone who tries to call you a slut or whatever. When men do it, it's probably cause they're a little threatened. When women do it, it's probably because the vast vast majority of women out there don't have as strong a sex drive and don't multi-orgasm and such. Just jealousy and fear...
One thing to be careful of is to make sure you're not using sexuality to actively seek out any sort of chaos. Sometimes, in girls particularly, an extremely active sex drive can be a sign of sexual addiction brought on by psych issues.... I'm definitely not saying this about you! But a good way to make sure you're being safe is to make sure you're not acting in any sort of compulsive way.
Good luck. Hope things work out with your boyfriend. Be safe.
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hrmmmm....
welll....
yeah i guess. Be careful.
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KristiMidocean
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Re: STD's and my story [Re: Gijith]
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thats exacly what it was and you are right. A lot of he time I do things not thinking of the outcome might come too and this is not good. This has definatly made me think before acting and I have learned many lessons from all of this.
Thank you for your reply
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