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WeAreAllOne
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"Her"
#4400462 - 07/13/05 04:03 PM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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I turn to you today, my fellow shroomerites for comfort and support.
I held her and kissed her but once. But that is all it took. She is the pure manifestation of kindness and beauty. I have never known another like her. It took but one fleeting moment... a moment spent under the waning moon in a park... and I knew she was right for me.
The problem is this. She had begun dating one of my best friends a month or two ago. I had admired her from afar before this, and all through their relationship. We still talked often and hung out occasionally. However, all this time, I could feel myself growing closer and closer to her. And she said she felt the same about me. She no longer felt the same feelings for her boyfriend, but said she loved me.
At the moment I kissed her, I felt nothing but bliss. Afterwards, however, I felt like a liar and an asshole for betraying a good friend. But if she no longer has feelings for him, is it wrong for me to feel this way while they are still in a relationship?
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AbstractHarmonix
Love is like a train...
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there are always more sea in the fish, .
try not to take your bros girl unless he is cool with it.
bros before hoes niggah
-------------------- A plethora of music aspirations control my temptations of future revelations beyond "now". The percussion, and the heart beat of my love and devotion. The rhythm goes beyond, prying into the third eye, releasing the creativity held so far inside. The melodicies, through the out of tune pianos and broken classical guitars...there lies a beauty. A beauty as prevelent as the fire inside. To release these energies is pure ecstacy, to deveop these gifts is sacred. The vocality, so pure as can be, shying away from herself, lies within me. For the underlying serenitity, this is what I live for. I plea for harmony, and nothing more. Music equals love. Creation of love leads to the procreativity of the World, and it's spirals and puddles prevailing.
Edited by XOIIAresIIOX (07/13/05 04:22 PM)
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dnL
stranger thanstrange
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i don't think it's wrong for you to feel anything
but personally, even if i'm super attracted to any girls that are with my friends, i don't act on it ...
good friends are harder to come by than a good looking girl
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WeAreAllOne
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Re: "Her" [Re: dnL]
#4400498 - 07/13/05 04:12 PM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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eh, now that i think of it. the dude's an asshole to me. and his favorite drug is alcohol. enough said.
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Infrared
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if she feels the same way... nuff said.. hit it
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Burke Dennings
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I think you should mind your own business. And so what if his favorite drug is alcohol?
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Krishna
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are they still together? if so, i'd stay away... you don't want to lose your friendship over a chance.
if they aren't together, then talk to your friend about it... i'm not saying that he is going to say 'oh sure man, it's fine!' (a friend of mine made out with an ex a few weeks after we broke up, and although i knew that he didn't really do anything "wrong", it really really hurt me at the time) - but it's probably better to discuss it with him than it is to go behind his back.
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WeAreAllOne
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Re: "Her" [Re: Krishna]
#4400529 - 07/13/05 04:18 PM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Thanks, Krishna. I trust your advice more than most.
electrode, alcohol either makes you slow, stupid and docile or a two-faced, belligerent asshole. Neither of which are very admirable in a person if you ask me.
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Burke Dennings
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Yeah, girlfriend thieving friends are much more admirable.
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dnL
stranger thanstrange
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so if your friend is an asshole to you, why is he your friend
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Burke Dennings
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Re: "Her" [Re: dnL]
#4400545 - 07/13/05 04:22 PM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Because TheyAreBothOne.
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afoaf
CEO DBK?
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you need to stop what you're doing until she sorts shit out with your friend.
9 times out of 10, you'll lose a good friend over what will eventually turn out to be a cheesy ho.
just wait till she stops having feelings for you and starts running around with your friend...then you'll understand.
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AbstractHarmonix
Love is like a train...
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Quote:
electrode said: Yeah, girlfriend thieving friends are much more admirable.
-------------------- A plethora of music aspirations control my temptations of future revelations beyond "now". The percussion, and the heart beat of my love and devotion. The rhythm goes beyond, prying into the third eye, releasing the creativity held so far inside. The melodicies, through the out of tune pianos and broken classical guitars...there lies a beauty. A beauty as prevelent as the fire inside. To release these energies is pure ecstacy, to deveop these gifts is sacred. The vocality, so pure as can be, shying away from herself, lies within me. For the underlying serenitity, this is what I live for. I plea for harmony, and nothing more. Music equals love. Creation of love leads to the procreativity of the World, and it's spirals and puddles prevailing.
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WeAreAllOne
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Re: "Her" [Re: dnL]
#4400560 - 07/13/05 04:24 PM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hmmm.. I guess friend is not a good term. He's more of an acquaintance whom I would rather not hurt. AKA he is a lot stronger than me and could kick my ass.
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Krishna
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hehe, first of all, thanks for the compliment!
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WeAreAllOne said: electrode, alcohol either makes you slow, stupid and docile or a two-faced, belligerent asshole. Neither of which are very admirable in a person if you ask me.
but while this is very often the case, it's not always so. sometimes alcohol can make you merry, goofy, and loveable. as with most drugs, it depends a lot on set and setting. although as alcohol is much more socially acceptable, people (myself included, more times than i'd wish to admit) easily use it as an excuse for jackassed behaviour. i've tried to learn myself and not drink while down in the dumps, or really stressed out about things. however i tend to think that people who are naturally aggressive would be much better off without the drink - i have a very good friend who is normally a bit of a chest-thumping 'hard-core' type of character (not to me, mind you, but esp when he is around many people) - and whenever he gets drunk, he thinks that everybody is trying to provoke him, and gets 1,000X worse. it really saddens and annoys me to see somebody who i know is a really laid back and loveable guy acting like the biggest dick i know.
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Spooge
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I've had similiar situations and it is damn hard not to act on it. You gotta put your bros first man. At least wait until they aren't together.
I have a problem with friends who make a big deal for me wanting to date an EX. If it didn't work between them, what's the big deal at me taking a shot? I wouldn't mind at all if my friends tried to date my ex's.
I wouldn't pursue it further until they've officially called it quits. If she really loves you, she'll realize that the current guy she's with, isn't for her and break up.
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WeAreAllOne
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Re: "Her" [Re: Krishna]
#4400580 - 07/13/05 04:27 PM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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I suppose alcohol could bring out good characteristics in a person, however I have not had any experiences where that is the case.
With that thought in mind, sorry electrode, for insulting you (if that is, in fact, what i have done).
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Burke Dennings
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No, you haven't insulted me. What would give you that impression?
For a guy with the screen name 'WeAreAllOne', you're mighty quick to pigeonhole people.
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WeAreAllOne
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What would give me that impression? Perhaps the defense mechanism. Forget I said anything, please. I didn't post this to argue with you.
Edited by WeAreAllOne (07/13/05 04:37 PM)
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afoaf
CEO DBK?
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don't be such a pussy.
insult electrode.
insult him all fucking day long.
that guy is a total homo anyways.
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