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gettinjiggywithit
jiggy
Registered: 07/20/04
Posts: 7,469
Loc: Heart of Laughter
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ahhh. I was thinking about that last night, where for some, they have to get away from it all, to start peling away the layers others laid on them. Yet, you are the type who hasn't filled yourself up yet and need to expose yourself to new things and new people to get more of an idea of what you like and want.
So many know what they don't want and like, and for them, its a matter of peeling away the ayers that hold them down. Many others still don' know what it is they really want and like. They need more life experience and options to pick and choose from of what they want to fill themselves up with. Being isolated doesn't help that part for sure.
At least you have discovered one thing about yourself and that is that you like being around people and social activity. Now you just need to go be where the peeps and action are. Make some decisions for what it would take to make that happen and act on them. Is there someone who wants you to be where you are "isolated" that you trying to please? Is that the sucky part you ant to break from?
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rogue_pixie
faerydae
Registered: 07/28/04
Posts: 3,977
Loc: UK
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Yes! I am very much the latter, I'm just procrastinating starting out on my travels.
There is no personal situation that's holding me down at all. So yeah, being indecisive due to not figuring stuff out yet is the trouble with deciding just where to start out the journey!
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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Icelander
The Minstrel in the Gallery
Registered: 03/15/05
Posts: 95,368
Loc: underbelly
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Quote:
rogue_pixie said: weakness
To feel weak is common. That is a feeling and feelings can change. Often just by noticing how you talk to yourself and deliberately changing your self talk.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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nitroguy
SeiZureS
Registered: 05/09/05
Posts: 113
Last seen: 14 years, 3 months
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Re: doing nothing [Re: Icelander]
#4289695 - 06/13/05 12:40 AM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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Im doing nothing except learning and smoke pot... which I can't seem to stop Wish I could be doing something that yields money but Im stuck at college hoping not to screw that up so I gotta study and smoke.
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idiocean
Straggler
Registered: 04/26/05
Posts: 13
Loc: Seattle
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So far, I've gone 3 months doing nothing. It's very relaxing and stress free. Smoking helps too, a lot.
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HarryFlashmanVC
That BeastlyFlashy
Registered: 05/24/05
Posts: 88
Loc: Suffolk, England
Last seen: 18 years, 4 months
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Re: doing nothing [Re: idiocean]
#4291074 - 06/13/05 11:58 AM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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I would say I basically had no or minimal responsabilities from the day I was born until age 23, 1 year after I left Uni.
Certainly Uni where I bummed out bigtime, smoked a whole lot of weed and for the entire third year basically lived like a hermit! Then after I travelled round Asia for a while....
Helped get my mind right? Maybe.... But not as much as full social interaction does.
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uriahchase
Skinny White Boy
Registered: 09/25/04
Posts: 675
Loc: SoCal
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imposssible!!!
in doing no-thing..one does do.
being lazy..doing, being, lazy.. still one does.
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Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are -Kurt Cobain Hotter than the left sink handle.
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WanderingStudent
terminal learner
Registered: 06/02/05
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I'm stuck in a phase like this, but in a different sense. I had to drop out of college when my wife's (then GF) mother died. I had helped her with a lot of problems involved with the property, my wife's father, and various other irritating dramatic issues. I have since gotten a full-time job that is very labor-intensive and graveyard hours.
My days consist of getting home from work in the morning, sleeping for a few hours, waking into a concious sleep, doing a few mundane things, like troll the internet , clean some dishes, watch some tv, and go to sleep for a few hours more before going to work. This is every day for my work week. My weekends are a more extended version of laziness, with a lack of concern for social contact.
I know this doesn't sound like the blissful nothing that most of you have written about, but it's the sort of thing that came to mind when I first saw this post. Empty stagnation of the soul. Unstimulated. Disinterested.
On the other hand, I'm trying to get out of this rut. Trying to do some reading, learning about horticulture , and trying to meet new people.
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HarryFlashmanVC
That BeastlyFlashy
Registered: 05/24/05
Posts: 88
Loc: Suffolk, England
Last seen: 18 years, 4 months
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Okay! We always "do" things. But I think the difference comes when "doing" involves reponsability and productivity.
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rogue_pixie
faerydae
Registered: 07/28/04
Posts: 3,977
Loc: UK
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I don't want to get a job
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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HarryFlashmanVC
That BeastlyFlashy
Registered: 05/24/05
Posts: 88
Loc: Suffolk, England
Last seen: 18 years, 4 months
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Jobs are stepping stones to all of the excellent shit you can do.
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rogue_pixie
faerydae
Registered: 07/28/04
Posts: 3,977
Loc: UK
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the only jobs I'll get are dead end, horrible ones with stupid people.
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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HarryFlashmanVC
That BeastlyFlashy
Registered: 05/24/05
Posts: 88
Loc: Suffolk, England
Last seen: 18 years, 4 months
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Quote:
the only jobs I'll get are dead end, horrible ones with stupid people.
Yeah, keep up that positive mental attitude!
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rogue_pixie
faerydae
Registered: 07/28/04
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Loc: UK
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it's called realism.
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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HarryFlashmanVC
That BeastlyFlashy
Registered: 05/24/05
Posts: 88
Loc: Suffolk, England
Last seen: 18 years, 4 months
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If thats your reality you have my sympathy.
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rogue_pixie
faerydae
Registered: 07/28/04
Posts: 3,977
Loc: UK
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pah
empathy is better.
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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HarryFlashmanVC
That BeastlyFlashy
Registered: 05/24/05
Posts: 88
Loc: Suffolk, England
Last seen: 18 years, 4 months
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bah.
The thing is I don't empathise with that view.
But I can sympathise that you're what? 18/19? Haven't done any serious work in your life and are pretty miserable about leaving your childhood and becoming an adult. I'll say it again: Work gets you to other things, good things. Whether you hate the work or not it creates a life for you. For example when I left Uni I busted my hump for a year landscaping 60+hour weeks.... the pittance I earnt was saved and put into the trip of a lifetime travelling around South East Asia.
Cheer up please
Edited by HarryFlashmanVC (06/13/05 04:57 PM)
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Huehuecoyotl
Fading Slowly
Registered: 06/13/04
Posts: 10,689
Loc: On the Border
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The main reason people fall into dead end jobs (like the one I had for 15 years) is that they have no clear goal or idea of what they want to do...so they just take what comes along. Clarify your goals and then proceed with clarity and decisiveness. Things will change.
-------------------- "A warrior is a hunter. He calculates everything. That's control. Once his calculations are over, he acts. He lets go. That's abandon. A warrior is not a leaf at the mercy of the wind. No one can push him; no one can make him do things against himself or against his better judgment. A warrior is tuned to survive, and he survives in the best of all possible fashions." ― Carlos Castaneda
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ajna
Hunter
Registered: 01/02/05
Posts: 410
Loc: Qld, AUS
Last seen: 14 years, 10 months
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i took 6 months off at the start of this year, and i agree that it was the most productive and enjoyful period of my life. i discovered so much about myself and the world, and i'm actually having trouble going back to sticking at any kind of work.
"The main reason people fall into dead end jobs (like the one I had for 15 years) is that they have no clear goal or idea of what they want to do...so they just take what comes along. Clarify your goals and then proceed with clarity and decisiveness. Things will change."
this is true. a month of factory work forced me to find what my goal was in life, and i'm now planning to start a horticulture course in july. if all goes to plan, one day my only boss will be mother nature
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psyillyazul
verbal doubleedged sword BFTD
Registered: 12/13/04
Posts: 412
Loc: zion
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Re: doing nothing [Re: ajna]
#4302456 - 06/16/05 01:43 AM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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Don't get a job. Acquire a skill. Then go. Value yourself and what you can do with your brain.
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