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 sublime40oz
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 Question for the ladies 
#4252113 - 06/03/05 12:23 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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Alrite here's the dilema; I've been with my girl for alittle over two years now, not an extremely long time, I know, however seeing as I am only 19 it's a long relationship relative to my perception of things. At the end of this summer I am moving for reasons that I can't dodge. The question is should I wait until the end of the summer and spring it on her about a week before I leave, or tell her now. Normally I would ethically see it wrong to just spring it on her at the last "minute," but considering how she is I think it might be best for her. I love her and hope that we will be able to get back together at some point in the future. I know she feels the same way about me if not stronger and she will be devastated that I have to go if I tell her now, maybe even to the point of not being able to enjoy her summer. She works her ass off in college and I don't want this shit on her mind all summer, she deserves to relax and enjoy herself. Should I just shoulder this burden for the summer and let her know at the end or tell her now? This is my first post in the pub, I believe, so I might as well throw out a "Hello" as well. peace.
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Edited by sublime40oz (06/03/05 12:24 PM)
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252129 - 06/03/05 12:28 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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I would strongly advise you to tell her as soon as possible. It'd be really wrong to spring that on her at the last minute. I don't know her personally but I think 99% of the population would appreciate some notice!
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252134 - 06/03/05 12:30 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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id wait like a month before i left to tell her. but then again i dont know how she is so, go with ur instinct
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252141 - 06/03/05 12:31 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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You've got to tell her dude. That's the right thing to do anyway.
And you would have all summer to maybe figure out a way to stay there or take her with you.
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252147 - 06/03/05 12:36 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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Tell her now. A high school boyfriend did the same to me. He was moving and waited until the last moment to tell me. I went a little psycho once I found out he was leading me on for two whole months.
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sublime40oz
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: MOTH]
#4252156 - 06/03/05 12:41 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thanks for the quick replies, I am alittle saddened to see that you're all telling me to do what I also feel I should, I'd just hate to ruin her summer. I know she will flip out if I tell her at the last minute, but it would atleast let her enjoy her summer, and I am hardly leading her on, I truely do care for her and wish her only the best.
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252181 - 06/03/05 12:47 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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What would you want somebody to do if you were in her situation? I'd be really fuking pissed off if I was with a girl and, at the last minute, she said "Well, I'm off to college! See ya!"
You'll still have the Summer to enjoy yourselves, she'll probably still want to spend it with you and it may be even MORE meaningful. (since it's your last few months together for a while)
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: mantis]
#4252236 - 06/03/05 01:05 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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I know she'll want to spend it together, thats not the problem. She gets neurotic with shit though and she will be a mess and have it constantly on her mind until it happens, but I guess it's better shes a mess now than when she has to get back to school and handle business. I think if I decide I have to tell her that it will be better to just end it so it's not like this summer is a damn countdown to the end of our relationship. This is no light matter for me either I am pretty sad that I have to go, basically across the whole country, and I know she will be alot worse over this than I am. I have to say that I'm able to deal with this kind of stuff a lot better than her.
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252290 - 06/03/05 01:28 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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are you leaving due to another woman?
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252295 - 06/03/05 01:30 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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i would tell her now.
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: alakona]
#4252607 - 06/03/05 02:55 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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No I'm leaving due to circumstances which dictate I have to move more than halfway accross the country.
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252632 - 06/03/05 03:05 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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tell her now... I think it would be better for the both of you... You wouldn't have it constantly lurking in the back of your mind, and she would be able to get used to the idea before you up and leave.
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Re: Question for the ladies [Re: sublime40oz]
#4252680 - 06/03/05 03:23 PM (18 years, 10 months ago) |
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tell her when you want to, just realize that WHEN she
finds out the exact time that you knew about this and
the dates don't match up...you're in for some shit, g.
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