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CosmicJoke
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To somebody who knows better..
#422451 - 10/11/01 08:41 PM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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Do you think there are any psycho-spiritual rammifications for finding yourself in a lot of casual sex relationships? Do you think it impedes with your spiritual growth? Sometimes I'm really not sure what I want as a young adult. Are long-term relationships something you usually pursue, or do you just wait until something happens and develops "naturally".... I don't really pursue casual, promiscuous sexual relationships, but they sure seem to spontaneously occur to me all beatnik romanticist psychedelic adventurous style.... a lot.
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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Adom
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: CosmicJoke]
#422646 - 10/11/01 10:48 PM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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I think casual sex makes un-wanted emotional bonds between two people who want nothing more than just pleasure, but thats just my opinion and I've seemed to experience this a few times, so I usually save myself for more "serious" relationships. Control is strain. And every strain creates tension, and tension creates necessity, a need to release... Lose Control!Edited by Adom on 10/11/01 11:50 PM.
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gnrm23
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: CosmicJoke]
#422943 - 10/12/01 07:05 AM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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"go on an' kiss her!!! --- aaaahhhh, youth is wasted on the young!!!" (from "it's a wonderful life" ) ~~~ mmmm... looking back... well, i suppose there's a couple of 'em that i did that i shouldn'ta... and a couple of 'em that i didn't but prolly coulda & maybe shoulda... and then a few that we did and behold it was good... shucks, that wasn't much help, now, was it? body, heart, mind... tugging in at least 3 different directions... "is this one another one, or the one?" "do i want another one? is 'the one' just a dream?" too many hard questions... "don't hurt each other" might work, i suppose... some shelter from the wind... or a partner to help you walk through the storm... ~~~ then there's a martian nest... (but polyamory is not a sustainable option (unfortunately???) for most of us in the current culture...) ~~~ (ah, to be half my age but know what i know now...) live, laugh, labor, love... and try not to lament... ~~~ later///gnrmi
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CosmicJoke
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: Adom]
#423444 - 10/12/01 04:43 PM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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it's not that i just want to get off, i want to be uplifted and enlivened and intimate. i can be very poetic and romantic and tenderhearted, and aim to live and learn through my experiences. i admit i am often self-centered and concerned with my own health and well-being. i'm very absorbed in my own creative interests and practices, and would find it hard to devote the time away from my interests towards a relationship. i often desire to discharge energy through sex though, but not just sex - it's the whole summating experience that leads up to sex. i haven't gotten myself into unsatisfying experiences where i and my partners haven't been brought closer together in a positive way. i don't think i'm distorting my self-image.... but, i do wonder if i should take interest into practicing celibacy and finding ways to raise my sexual energy upwards to more spiritual purposes. that sounds like risky business that i'd have to be very commited to. as of now, sex is quite important.
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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CosmicJoke
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: gnrm23]
#423460 - 10/12/01 04:54 PM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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i'm a goin' out yonder west after i finish school. going to grad school at berkeley or santa cruz (may go into their consciousness studies program). will set up residency there for a year and then go back pack it through the sierras all dharma bums kerouac style and just live on the road. i'm not lookin' for "the one", but maybe just a slightly more committed relationship thingy maybe yea...
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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gnrm23
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: CosmicJoke]
#423807 - 10/12/01 05:42 AM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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cool
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gnrm23
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: CosmicJoke]
#423810 - 10/12/01 05:43 AM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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heh... read some gary snyder...
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gnrm23
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: CosmicJoke]
#423813 - 10/12/01 05:45 AM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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in an ideal world there would be far more friendly sex going on...
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CosmicJoke
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: gnrm23]
#424136 - 10/13/01 01:02 PM (22 years, 11 months ago) |
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mmm, like starwoods and rainbows... so friendly, but so, so, so easy. magical settings which make magical mind sets have inevitably led me to magical nights. finding the magic in the less than ideal world.... that's the confusing part. i just don't settle well with less than real magic. somethin' really isn't better than nothin', 'cuz i've had 'em both.... so black and white... the color is in the real magic not the illusionists trick. yadayada. may we'z find da funky magic dis weekend peace/cj
-------------------- Everything is better than it was the last time. I'm good. If we could look into each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. It takes a lot of courage to go out there and radiate your essence. I know you scared, you should ask us if we scared too. If you was there, and we just knew you cared too.
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Zeus
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Re: To somebody who knows better.. [Re: CosmicJoke]
#425294 - 10/14/01 03:09 PM (22 years, 10 months ago) |
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the road of excess leads to the path of wisdom (or some realy bad std) ;-])
-------------------- " I'm somewhere where I don't know where I am. " "Experience is the meaning to life" -me
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