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Fliquid
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: InsatiableThirst]
#4198203 - 05/20/05 01:54 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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InsatiableThirst said: If he doesn't make you happy, then you shouldn't be with him.
That's some pretty fast judgement you got there. It's not really realistic, it always depends on more then one thing.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198257 - 05/20/05 02:16 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Some guys think "cute" IS sexy! Also, some like smaller boobs as well. Your BF is an insensitive lout.....
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CrazyBusiness
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Le_Canard]
#4198270 - 05/20/05 02:20 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think you're beautiful, from what I've seen, and I'm sure you know that. Sounds as if something is clouding your guy's judgement. Maybe outside factors are affecting it, or maybe there is some hidden contempt. Communicate about it, yo, it has to be resolved, that kind of shit never stops building until its dealt with, and in late stages its devastating for everyone.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: BanJankri]
#4198372 - 05/20/05 03:47 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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BanJankri said: cuteness is above sexiness and hotness in my book
I agree.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198419 - 05/20/05 05:44 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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ok. this post might come off as unbelievably bitchy, or whatever, but its my opinion. you're a very pretty girl...you shouldn't need validation of this. if you're insecure to the point that you need to post pictures of yourself in your underwear on myspace, you've got issues. From posts of yours that I've read, I have no idea why you're with your boyfriend. There was the post in the physical and mental health forum saying how he treats you like crap, and you're still in love with your ex...then the one in the gathering forum saying how you're coming to the NE gathering, but you need to do it without your boyfriend knowing, because he wouldn't approve. So you're sneaking around behind his back, he treats you like garbage, says rude shit to you...I mean what's the point? You guys obviously don't have a very healthy relationship, so why be with him? You don't need anyone to tell you you're sexy and hot. You should just know it. But if someone you're with doesn't make you feel good, you need to re-evaluate the situation. You should take that picture down, and have some self respect...I think you're way better than that, I really do. Who cares who else thinks you're hot and sexy? you should be fine with who you are and what you look like regardless of who says or thinks what. Find yourself a guy who thinks you're the hottest, sexiest, most beautiful creature on earth...one who you don't have to lie to to go party with some friends. Then post a picture of the TWO of you on myspace, for your ex to see. Maybe then he'll realize what he messed up.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198433 - 05/20/05 05:56 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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You seem like a great person with a good heart and you are not unattractive at all. You are certainly insecure though, I've seen so many posts similar to this one by you. You have no reason to be insecure about yourself, you are a beautiful person inside and out, you know this and need to recognize it--who cares if someone else doesn't? I know, easier said than done, but its something all of us must overcome in life.
Your b/f needs to accept you for who you are. You also must accept him for who he is. If neither of you can/or are willing to meet in the middle, then it may be time to end the relationship.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198456 - 05/20/05 06:11 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Ah Del you know you'll always be awesome in my books!
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198474 - 05/20/05 06:23 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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your beautiful
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Liz]
#4198498 - 05/20/05 06:41 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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ifallapart said: ok. this post might come off as unbelievably bitchy, or whatever, but its my opinion. you're a very pretty girl...you shouldn't need validation of this. if you're insecure to the point that you need to post pictures of yourself in your underwear on myspace, you've got issues. From posts of yours that I've read, I have no idea why you're with your boyfriend. There was the post in the physical and mental health forum saying how he treats you like crap, and you're still in love with your ex...then the one in the gathering forum saying how you're coming to the NE gathering, but you need to do it without your boyfriend knowing, because he wouldn't approve. So you're sneaking around behind his back, he treats you like garbage, says rude shit to you...I mean what's the point? You guys obviously don't have a very healthy relationship, so why be with him? You don't need anyone to tell you you're sexy and hot. You should just know it. But if someone you're with doesn't make you feel good, you need to re-evaluate the situation. You should take that picture down, and have some self respect...I think you're way better than that, I really do. Who cares who else thinks you're hot and sexy? you should be fine with who you are and what you look like regardless of who says or thinks what. Find yourself a guy who thinks you're the hottest, sexiest, most beautiful creature on earth...one who you don't have to lie to to go party with some friends. Then post a picture of the TWO of you on myspace, for your ex to see. Maybe then he'll realize what he messed up.
i cannot help but agree with you ifallapart...
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: mathflower]
#4198512 - 05/20/05 06:51 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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mathflower said:
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ifallapart said: ok. this post might come off as unbelievably bitchy, or whatever, but its my opinion. you're a very pretty girl...you shouldn't need validation of this. if you're insecure to the point that you need to post pictures of yourself in your underwear on myspace, you've got issues. From posts of yours that I've read, I have no idea why you're with your boyfriend. There was the post in the physical and mental health forum saying how he treats you like crap, and you're still in love with your ex...then the one in the gathering forum saying how you're coming to the NE gathering, but you need to do it without your boyfriend knowing, because he wouldn't approve. So you're sneaking around behind his back, he treats you like garbage, says rude shit to you...I mean what's the point? You guys obviously don't have a very healthy relationship, so why be with him? You don't need anyone to tell you you're sexy and hot. You should just know it. But if someone you're with doesn't make you feel good, you need to re-evaluate the situation. You should take that picture down, and have some self respect...I think you're way better than that, I really do. Who cares who else thinks you're hot and sexy? you should be fine with who you are and what you look like regardless of who says or thinks what. Find yourself a guy who thinks you're the hottest, sexiest, most beautiful creature on earth...one who you don't have to lie to to go party with some friends. Then post a picture of the TWO of you on myspace, for your ex to see. Maybe then he'll realize what he messed up.
i cannot help but agree with you ifallapart...
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" *DELETED* [Re: boO]
#4198523 - 05/20/05 07:01 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: blink]
#4198549 - 05/20/05 07:44 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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oh I agree completely that at some level, we all need to be told we're beautiful at some point. But, in my opinion, posting sexy pics on myspace in response to a low blow comment from your boyfriend is not the long term solution here. Del, I hope you know I'm not trying to insult you, if I didn't care, I wouldn't bother giving you my opinion or advice on this. I just think that you can do way better that the situation you're currently in, and I think you know it. I know from reading other things that you've written that you don't like to be alone...but the thing is, as I've told other people, until you're ok with just being alone, and being happy that way, its going to be extrememly hard for you to be truly happy with someone else. I think your best bet would be to dump your boyfriend, take some time to yourself, learn to be happy and self confident, and in your next relationship, I think that would make all the difference in the world.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Liz]
#4198569 - 05/20/05 07:56 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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ya no - ur totally and completely right.
the myspace thing is actually just a little joke - in no way am i taking myself seriously... it's a little "photo war" my bf and i have been having.
it's weird - inside i know that a part of me wishes this relationship was different but then again when we are together, you can tell he really cares - he's just a stupid ass w/ a big mouth. ya know? because he is always like "oh comeon, i was just joking about that"... but to me, i AM extremely insecure so i take everything to heart because really.. WHY would someone say something if it wasn't true at all. i always believe that within every joke, there's a thread of truth.
i also feel that with this relationship - i've invested a lot of time in it. we did break up and it was really hard, so we ended up getting back together a week later.
we broke up b/c i met this other guy who is REALLY great - just an awesome guy and we started hanging out as friends. my boyfriend looked at my messages and saw a thing this guy wrote about wanting to be more than friends but understanding i have a bf and he knows where to draw the line... etc...
so my boyfriend told me either i stop talking and seeing this guy or we had to break up. eh... he's jealous but ya know he doesn't show me how much he cares until the breaking point. it sucks.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198581 - 05/20/05 08:03 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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eh, a lot of guys have issues bringing up when something is botehring them before its too late. They (your boyfriend in this case) needs to learn that communication is key in relationships, and if he doesn't tell you what's going on in his head, there's no way you can discontinue doing things that make him uphappy, or on the other hand, do things that DO make him happy. If you really care about him, maybe a good thing to do would be to sit down and have a truthful discussion about how things have been going for you guys. I'm sure that him seeing that picture on myspace with comments from other guys on it, isn't exactly making him feel all warm and fuzzy inside. And on the flip side, when girls comment on him, don't you get a bit jealous, and worry? Heh...I know I do, as I'm sure you've noticed Maybe you guys need to stop playing the mind games, and just level with each other. I don't know your boy, but from what little I know of you, I may have been wrong in my intitial impression of you...you seem like a nice girl. You deserve a happy relationship, and the only way you're going to get that is to talk about whatever is wrong right now, tell him how his comments hurt you, and figure out how to make things better for both of you in the future. Just because breaking up with him was hard, that's not a reason to stay with him. All breakups are hard. But if you really DO want to make it work long term, I would suggest changing the way the 2 of you are handling your issues, and try being open and honest with one another. Feel free to PM me or IM me or whatever, if you want to talk. I mean that.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4198697 - 05/20/05 08:41 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Fuck him if he's going to be that way. You are hot , you know it, I know it, every one knows it.(this isn't that boy from South Dakota is it?, I thought we were raised better then that.) Any way, if he's not going to get you any credit for your looks but say how other chicks are hot, fuck him!!
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: blackroselove]
#4198792 - 05/20/05 09:04 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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hahah no - my western man left me.
this is a good ol NYC boy... and i realize how i need me another country boy ASAP. hehe.
blah - it's always a back and forth thing. i try to sit down and talk w/ him but i feel like im talking to a 5 yr old w/ ADD. honestly... he's like a little kid sometimes. and im used to dating older guys so i dont even have the patience.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4199017 - 05/20/05 10:05 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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hahahaha....too true.
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Delyrium]
#4199157 - 05/20/05 10:52 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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Delyrium....You are attractive enuf to easily find a better guy ..... Sexy is attitude not appearance...look at Tina Turner, she is not a "pretty" woman, but she is a very sexy woman.
The advice ifallapart gave you was right on target. (very wise words ifall...5 for ya )
If this "man" isn't treating you the way that you want to be treated....ditch the prick.
As long as you believe in yourself there is nothing that you cant make better/improve in your life.
Don't stay with a person who doesn't respect your feelings. (especially don't stay around and play head-games w/them.....this just brings you down even more)
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: niteowl]
#4199187 - 05/20/05 11:03 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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thanks
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Re: "you'll never be sexy or hot... you're just cute" [Re: Liz]
#4199195 - 05/20/05 11:07 AM (18 years, 8 months ago) |
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ifallapart you can't just show up one year here and claiming shit starting to threaten about banning people and so on you're such a dirty sneaky person i want nothing to do with you and i want you to have nothing to do with me get off my back and i'll get off yours
ive been here for 4 years now and no stupid little person's gonna come here and start giving me shit like that
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