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OfflineKristiMidocean
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do it or not?????
    #4040513 - 04/11/05 12:21 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

I have a big problem i need yor help with. I just got a new job as you all know and my manager has a little bit of a crush on me. I think he is a great guy and is really cute but here lately I havent wanted to be with anyone you know me time. I have always been in relationships and I m just ready to have time for myself... ME TIME... but since I wont go out with him he is giving me the worst shifts and making my days off far apart. we only get two days a week of and he spreads mine out as far as he can. Its making me get really sick of working and I just started...... I feel like if i would just stop being selfish and stop having me time then my life at work would be so much easier but I kinda reeally like beng selfish right now. Im focusing on things in my life that I need to get together and I just really like doing my own thing what should I do to make this stop???


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040519 - 04/11/05 12:23 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

Any chance reporting this would help you out? Sounds like what he's doin is really unfair.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040520 - 04/11/05 12:23 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

If he has a manager talk to them about it. Otherwise just ask him if he can make your schedules not as shitty.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040521 - 04/11/05 12:23 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

Call a lawyer, sue the living shit out of his company, and get a new job.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040538 - 04/11/05 12:27 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

Well obviously the very last thing on your list of possible reactions would be to give in to him in any way. No matter what he thinks, we live in a day and age now where, if YOU are persistent enough, he really can't get away with what he's doing. Just don't be passive, stand up to the guy, sounds like he's being a dick whether he's cool or not.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
    #4040555 - 04/11/05 12:32 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

yeah if my boss started trying to screw me and then fucked with my days off because i declined i sure as fuck wouldnt give in to that pussy... he has to learn respect you cant abuse your power like that and mess someones schedule up just because they wouldnt go out with you... but get proof first then take it up the chain of command.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040568 - 04/11/05 12:34 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

its not being selfish

plus dating a manager could make your work life a LOT worse later on if you break up or get into fights etc


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040571 - 04/11/05 12:35 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

that's called sexual harrassment. I'm sure your company has a policy on it. If you have a SHRED of proof that he's doing this, go to a lawyer, and sue the shit out of your company. Nowadays, courts are taking this type of thing very seriously....you'd likely win any case you filed. Don't let him bully you around, thats bullshit.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: Liz]
    #4040604 - 04/11/05 12:40 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

haha date some other guy at work and see what he does... that would be fun to watch... if it wasnt me... or in real life...


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: Liz]
    #4040615 - 04/11/05 12:41 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

ifallapart said:
that's called sexual harrassment. I'm sure your company has a policy on it. If you have a SHRED of proof that he's doing this, go to a lawyer, and sue the shit out of your company. Nowadays, courts are taking this type of thing very seriously....you'd likely win any case you filed. Don't let him bully you around, thats bullshit.




Listen to her. This is VERY illegal. Stand up for yourself.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: CherryBom]
    #4040635 - 04/11/05 12:45 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

I still really new to the company I dont want them to think that
I came into the job looking for trouble you know i dont want to get fired. The other manager works late shift and isnt there when I am my manager makes sure that I work mostly on his shifts... he isnt toucing me or anything just making things hard I have a two year old daughter and I feel like I never get to see her anymore I m always working...... and because I have a kid I dont want o lose my job it was hard enough getting what I have. Jobs dont come easy anymore.... I wish I could stand up for myself but Im afraid everyone will be like what a famine activist bitch you know.... I dont know how I could rove anything either.... I dont know what to do


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040677 - 04/11/05 12:55 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

if you wait untill you have proof then you know what you can do which is take legal action... but if you wait it out it might just blow over in a week or so... if he gives you a tiny shred of evidence though take it to the legal offices... or the other managers and the chain of management command will help too... watch out for a good ol boys club though. if your managers manager is a pig you might have to go higher.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040700 - 04/11/05 12:59 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

The day I started my job (almost a month ago now) the top salesman in the company started hitting on me. He's cute, loaded, but a total asshole. I told him politely that I have a boyfriend, and he responded to that by starting to ask questions about my relationship, and my boyfriend. I told him we had been together 5 months, and he said "oh so its nothing serious then" with a smirk on his face. Then when I told him he was in school, he replied with "oh, so in other words, hes unemployed" The guy's a jerk, but I was new here, and he's the companies golden boy. He does a TON of business, looks like he walked out of an abercrombie catalog, and drives a BMW 7 series. It kept up for the next few days, him making comments about how I should let him take me out, me politely declining...and finally I stopped being polite.

I went over to the filing cabinet (which is by his desk) to grab a loan, and he was talking to another sales person about me, because he wanted me to hear it. He said "yeah, and look at Liz, she thinks she's playing hard to get, but she'll come around" I walked over to where the 2 of them were standing, and absolutely tore into him. I told him I didnt care how important he was ot the company, or what kind of yuppy ass car he drove. I told him every statement that came out of his mouth validated my assumptions that he was a fuckign imbecile, and finally I told him that I truly despised him, and that if he kept it up, I would press charges. He laughed, thinking I was kidding, and the other sales person said "dude, shes dead serious, if I were you, I'd shut up and leave her alone". I didnt file charges, but I did speak to my direct superviser, so that it was somewhere on record that this had been going on. I understand you dont want to rock the boat, where you're new there and whatnot, but I assure you, they wont just brush you aside. Companies hear "sexual harrassment" and they take it very very seriously. Start making a log, writing down stuff he says and does that you feel is unfair, and speak to someone about it, even if it's not to file a formal complaint with human resources. You want someone to know that it;s ongoing, if things should get worse. Don't be scared of him, or losing your job. If they fire you for speaking up, you have no idea what you could do to that company financially.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: Liz]
    #4040820 - 04/11/05 01:25 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

your right thanks for your words you made me feel better. I shouldnt be uncomfortable at my work place. why are guys like that they know exactly how to make us feel soo little sometimes


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040846 - 04/11/05 01:36 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

fuck that. guys like him, who assert themselves in ways like that, are usually compensating for *cough* something. Small man complex, I like to call it. Look him straight in the eye and ask him if he knows what sexual harrassment is, and how quickly he can be fired for it.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: Liz]
    #4040892 - 04/11/05 01:49 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

oh sht i dont know about that he might find reason to fire me but i will figure ou tsome way to get proof and give it to his GIRL superviser she comes in every thursday and monday. If i have to go up there on my day off I will. You knwo its funny cause all teh girls I work wth flirt with him all the time and think he is sucha sweetheart. He s a nice guy he is just make my life harder then it has to be. ALL THE GIRLS THERE WANT TO HOOK UP WITH HIM i dont get why he doesnt just go hit on them?? doesnt make sense to me


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040896 - 04/11/05 01:51 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

makes perfect sense. Guys want what they can't have, and also, you're new there. It's new kid syndrome. When I started here, 2 guys asked me out, and they're smitten, because they have zero shot of me ever dating them. Its all about the challenge.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: Liz]
    #4040926 - 04/11/05 02:02 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

guys are weird


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040929 - 04/11/05 02:03 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

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KristiMidocean said:
guys are weird




and they have cooties.


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Re: do it or not????? [Re: KristiMidocean]
    #4040930 - 04/11/05 02:04 PM (11 years, 7 months ago)

Oh what ever lady. You all are freaks.


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