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InvisibleRandalFlagg
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Friends with benefits
    #3873407 - 03/05/05 03:23 PM (19 years, 28 days ago)

Meaning friends who have sex.

I have been in friendships like this and it was cool. I felt no romantic attachments. I did not get jealous or pissed if the girl in question started dating some guy or decided that the "benefits" should end. Yet, it seems to me that the girls usually are more "attached". They are more likely to get pissy or jealous if you start seeing someone else.

Can girls have a "friends with benefits" relationship and not develop an attachment?

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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #3873487 - 03/05/05 03:50 PM (19 years, 28 days ago)

I think it's totally dependent on the person. I'm a guy, but I'm not so sure I could hang with being friends with benefits and not get too attached. By the same token, I'm sure there are many girls out there who could hang with that easily.


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: Silversoul]
    #3873566 - 03/05/05 04:10 PM (19 years, 28 days ago)

I have had a couple of those types of "relationships" with men who were considered to be nothing but friends. I don't think there is anything wrong with this. If the other person is reacting ignorant about the situation, then that's when it should end.


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: CaRnAgECaNdY]
    #3874047 - 03/05/05 06:28 PM (19 years, 27 days ago)

It's funny I used to think I was one of those girls that could handle that type of relationship, but as I got older I don't know if I just learned otherwise about myself, or simply matured.


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #3876103 - 03/06/05 03:32 AM (19 years, 27 days ago)

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RandalFlagg said:
Meaning friends who have sex.

I have been in friendships like this and it was cool. I felt no romantic attachments. I did not get jealous or pissed if the girl in question started dating some guy or decided that the "benefits" should end. Yet, it seems to me that the girls usually are more "attached". They are more likely to get pissy or jealous if you start seeing someone else.

Can girls have a "friends with benefits" relationship and not develop an attachment?




i tried this and it was horrible for both of us. never again.


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #3876215 - 03/06/05 04:24 AM (19 years, 27 days ago)

Yeah, i dunno, it may be possible. But i think that's pretty rare, especially in the long run. Actually, every single relationship like that I've known about like this has failed horribly. Some fairly quick, some just took a little longer. And then their friendship ended along with the fucking.


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: Locus]
    #3876591 - 03/06/05 09:41 AM (19 years, 27 days ago)

Fuck buddies! I'm personally against it. I don't want to willingly give myself to someone I don't love.

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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #3877213 - 03/06/05 12:46 PM (19 years, 27 days ago)

It can get weird I guess, I'm kinda in a "relationship" like that now. It gets kind of ambiguous, but she's a cool girl so it's all good :smile:.


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: heywait]
    #3877302 - 03/06/05 01:20 PM (19 years, 27 days ago)

so you can't love your friend eh?


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Re: Friends with benefits [Re: Locus]
    #3877339 - 03/06/05 01:26 PM (19 years, 27 days ago)

i like the term Casual Sex Partner


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