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A Totally Harmless Belief
#3801971 - 02/19/05 12:03 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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"We need to protect the children."
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3801983 - 02/19/05 12:04 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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why only the children?
and what about the retards? or are they included.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Zekebomb]
#3801995 - 02/19/05 12:06 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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he said the children so he means the children!
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: p4kSouL]
#3802050 - 02/19/05 12:14 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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ever notice how, when there's a 16-car pile-up on the freeway, the news reports come in: "twelve people died in the wreck, including two children."
they only say that because of our heartstrings, right?
(this is my 900th post)
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Zekebomb]
#3802078 - 02/19/05 12:19 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah, its not like they ever say "twelve people died in the wreck, including two retards."
because we need to protect the children protect them from the retards
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: infidelGOD]
#3803034 - 02/19/05 11:07 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's very important to protect the children, we don't want them going around experiencing things.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Trespasser]
#3803133 - 02/19/05 11:56 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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the children (or the retards) are us, our own selves in our more vulnerable (and cuddly) aspects.
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How bout, we "we need to give our children a world that wasnt fucked over by us, and now were just handing that responsibility on to them" Though I guess thats what each generation's been doing eh?
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3803363 - 02/19/05 01:28 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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Protect them from what? How far do you take it before running into paranoia and restricting children from living free to explore and discover their world?
Is paranoia a harmless place to be? Some parent might keep guns in the house to protect their children from intruders and then a kid accidental gets shot playing with the gun.
Is it harmful to the potential development to restrict children from leaving their homes to keep them safe? Some parents get so germ paranoid that they wash away healthy bacteria and their kids end up getting sick more often.
Where is the line drawn between freedom and restriction?
If we are all to live a relatively full filling life, we are all going to be taking risks and engaging in risky behavior for the potential gain of greater experiential fulfillment.
What's next? Planetary lock down of all beliefs so no one gets hurt?
Breathing is dangerous. When oxygen is burned for fuel in the body, it emits free radicals that can cause harm. We believe in doing it anyway.
How far are you going to take this protecting people from harmful beliefs swami, until no one is living a life or breathing anymore? How tightly can you close people in on themselves in the name of safety before they are crushed to death?
I believe in keeping clean, but showers and bath tubs are dangerous places, people get hurt in them. Maybe I should switch to sponge baths.
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yeah swami, protect this (*extends middle finger)
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3803535 - 02/19/05 02:29 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Are they armed with AK-47's?
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Alan Stone]
#3803563 - 02/19/05 02:36 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Our children represent the future of human kind. Its a normal attitude to want to preserve them, its even instinctive. They represent what he have accomplished until now and what we are yet to accomplish.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: exclusive58]
#3803655 - 02/19/05 02:56 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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So at what age does someone not become a child, and gets off the "protection" list?
"your children, are not special"- BIll Hicks "your not a human being, until your in my phone book" - Bill Hicks
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3803676 - 02/19/05 03:05 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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When somebody says "we're doing it for the children" I usually take it with a grain of salt. Hardly is it ever just "for the children"
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3803679 - 02/19/05 03:07 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yes, let's protect them from all the horrible sex, violence, cursing, evolutionism, secularism, and other such influences which might expose them to ideas other than what they are taught.
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Quote:
psilocyberin said: So at what age does someone not become a child, and gets off the "protection" list?
When they lose their inherent "innoncence" i guess.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: exclusive58]
#3803793 - 02/19/05 03:42 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Or when they are out of the statutory rape laws.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: DNKYD]
#3803835 - 02/19/05 03:56 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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When somebody says "we're doing it for the children" I usually take it with a grain of salt. Hardly is it ever just "for the children.
Bingo! Millions of herb users in jail on this rationale.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: exclusive58]
#3803853 - 02/19/05 04:04 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well, keeping them ALL safe and preserved is not even something everyone agrees on or we wouldn't be dropping bombs on Iraqi children right now. Or are Americans risking the lives of those children to preserve their own?
See how freaking far people will go to keep their children safe? They will kill other peoples children.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3803863 - 02/19/05 04:07 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, unfortunately Swami is hella right. Herb is illegal to "protect our youth from dangerous narcotics" or some other heinous sentence, but our children are only being fucked over when they are caught, not when they smoke.
So the only thing ruining the children are the anti-pot laws. Every time you arrest some kid cause he was smoking, you ruined his life and you protected no one.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3803932 - 02/19/05 04:36 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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hahaha, I knew you were going to come in with how its not a harmless belief and I beat ya too it! hell yeah a lot of harm comes from that one.
Non the less, life is about risk taking and risk assessment. A life without risks is a dead one.
Harm comes out of good and good can come out of harm. How does anyone separate the two? If you figure it out, let me know.
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what's the difference between a truckload of bowling balls and a truckload of dead babies?
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Zekebomb]
#3806648 - 02/20/05 12:39 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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You can't unload bowling balls with a pitchfork.
The difference betwen 10 dead babies and a Cadillac???
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#3806656 - 02/20/05 12:42 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't have a Cadillac in my garage.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Swami]
#3806768 - 02/20/05 01:25 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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"What about the veterans of childhood?" -Bill Maher
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Silversoul]
#3807336 - 02/20/05 03:47 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Paradigm said: I don't have a Cadillac in my garage.
Sir, we are still going to have to check the trunk....
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#3807435 - 02/20/05 04:08 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Huehuecoyotl said: You can't unload bowling balls with a pitchfork.
Wanna bet? he he
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The difference betwen 10 dead babies and a Cadillac???
You dont have a Cadillac in your garage?
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: Gomp]
#3808163 - 02/20/05 07:04 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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On the contrary, Swami.
To hold the belief you have stated can cause alot of harm because someone might hold the belief in a violent light and protect thier children violently. Then there are those who are paranoid and want to hurt before being hurt in the name of protection. Then there are also those who would go the extreme in protecting thier children and lock them in a room for thier whole lives. There are many scenarios that could involve harm against others or the children themselves.
"We must Love the children" is a much more harmless belief
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: MAGnum]
#3808246 - 02/20/05 07:24 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
MAGnum said:
"We must Love the children" is a much more harmless belief
What about the parents that hit their kids and then say they do it because they love them?
There is never a reason to hit a child other then that an adult has lost patience and control of themselves and in turn, harmed a child, in the name of love.
A harmless belief would be one like, I believe the color purple is pretty.
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gettinjiggywithit said: A harmless belief would be one like, I believe the color purple is pretty.
HeeeHeee, Barney is purple.... Harmless....?
(yes I know, he *could* be any color, but he isn't....) (AND children do "believe" in him.... Kinda~ ironic huh....?)
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: PhanTomCat]
#3808434 - 02/20/05 08:07 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Barney kicks ass for kids! It's all about caring, sharing, please and thank you and taking turns.
What's your beef with Barney, for children anyway? I do understand why a lot of adults raised with Tom and Jerry and the Road Runner want him snuffed out of their family rooms.
Oh shit, no belief is sacredly harmless these days. I said believing that the color purple was pretty was a harmless one right? (I still think it is but some don't, read on)
Because it is a "pretty" color girls wear it and like it. Somewhere along the line it became a color for girls and flamboyant men. So the Teletubbies hits the scene, totally awesome for kids as well in my book, but some Christian radicals, think that because Tinky Winkie is a boy tubby and Purple and carries bag, he must be gay and encouraging boys to become gay. They thought a purple male tubby was harmful to their boys sexual orientation.
Since beliefs are subjective, I say there is no such thing as a universally harmless belief. They are all evil waiting to spawn in someones world.
So, maybe we should go into a planetary lock down of all beliefs after all just to be safe.
This reply belongs in the absurd post actually!
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Edited by gettinjiggywithit (02/20/05 08:10 PM)
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I wouldn't call beating your kids love at all. Because people conquer in the name of God and murder in Gods name, is it God who is conquerring? If I believe that beating my kids is Love, I am simply believing a lie. The two concepts of beating and love dont mix.
Violence and beatings are born of following a ritual born of hate. Anger is "to feel things aren't the way you want them." It is born out of concept of hate which is "to wish into inexsistance" because the way thing are isn't the way you want them. Love is "to wish into exsistance."
Bottom line: You cannot possible say you beat your kids out of love no matter what you beLIEve.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief [Re: MAGnum]
#3808560 - 02/20/05 08:32 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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I agree, but millions say it and believe it and its why I say the harmless belief you proposed about "we should love the children" can be harmful if people believe loving your children means smacking them around to show you care.
Can anyone here come up with a universally harmless beleif?
Swamis thing is to keep people from harmful beliefs. I say any belief can be seen to cause harm or actually cause it.
So what do we do, banish ALL beliefs to keep everyone safe? I say, life is a risk and its all about risk assessment. Living without beliefs is the same as being dead so what does one have to loose?
Hey swami, isn't believing that some beliefs are harmful a harmful belief itself? Whats going on here?
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Edited by gettinjiggywithit (02/20/05 08:35 PM)
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A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: gettinjiggywithit]
#3809126 - 02/20/05 11:26 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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gettinjiggywithit said: Barney kicks ass for kids! It's all about caring, sharing, please and thank you and taking turns.
What's your beef with Barney, for children anyway? I do understand why a lot of adults raised with Tom and Jerry and the Road Runner want him snuffed out of their family rooms.
Well, I was just kidding.... But IMO, you don't need a purple stuffed Barney creature to teach children anything.... They should, or I should say, I *think* they should learn those fundemental values from the people that they are *supposed* to love and respect.... Their parents.... Now, I don't have kids, so my opinion is less meaningful as I am not experienced.... So, take it with a grain of salt....
My beef with Barney, I have none, it was supposed to be funny.... But, I can find flaws if I think.... The music is annoying(to me), as are the songs.... In the "classic" violent cartoons I grew up on, I did not learn respect, caring, sharing, and loving from them, as that is not what they were meant for.... (I did learn how to order and Acme rocket and have it delivered to the middle of the dessert tho~...! ) They were entertainment, and backed by tons of Classical Music compositions - not simple 3 note runs.... They allow you to be part of a "dream world" for a little while, and I *think* that breeds creativity in the mind - along with the music selection....
As for spanking, I was spanked as a child when I needed it, wasn't very often, but I learned respect.... I ain't talkin about being "slapped around" here, spanking were for serious offenses like lieing, or talking back.... So, I felt a little pain for a few minutes as I reflected on why my parents thought it was so important for me to understand something that I would be caused pain by their hand.... Guess what...? It worked.... But, they also gave me the time, attention, and the love to teach me what Barney is teaching the kids of today.... I am greatful to have grown up with those qualities instilled in me.... Simply put....
Now, I am sickened to watch how some parents allow their children to walk all over them while in public.... No respect whatsoever.... How many times does a child have to hear, "If you do that ONE MORE TIME...." And then they do it again.... Why....? Because they have "tested" their parents enough to know that they are not going to follow thru~ with their "threat"(used in a loose sence).... Now, I don't know if that has to do with a lack of attention and nurturing, or a lack of discipline thru spanking - or perhaps both.... Or just a lack of consistancy in lighter disciplines like "time out" or being "grounded"....? When I was told "If you do that ONE MORE TIME", I knew what was going to happen if I did.... I have not done an actual study on it or anything.... I just know that I would NEVER have done that to my parents, nor would they have allowed me to do that to them....
I am not implying you are a bad parent by letting them watch Barney, nor am I saying that I know how to raise children.... But, I would prolly~ follow by example of the people I respect the most in this world, my parents.... As I don't see having any kids anytime soon, they are prolly~ safe from getting any ass whoooopins~ in the near future.... You asked for "beef", I delivered....
Discuss....?
And purple is pretty, I have a purple Paul Reed Smith.... Very pretty indeed.....
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: PhanTomCat]
#3809157 - 02/20/05 11:34 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think Barney is a little bit idiotic... I mean love, sharing, cute dinoasurs are one thing, but how about mental stimulation?
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: Zekebomb]
#3809239 - 02/20/05 11:59 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, you have a point that the show is very numbing. Perhaps if they blended Barny and 3-2-1-Contact (if you remember that show)?
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: MAGnum]
#3809242 - 02/20/05 11:59 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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3-2-1-Contact
is that the show that had Mathman...mathman...mathman
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: PhanTomCat]
#3809281 - 02/21/05 12:11 AM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yes TomCat,
You have seen the nasty outcomes of inconsistent parents with no follow through. I only have to ask my daughter to do something once and its done. Shes never even been yelled out, let alone spanked. She is probably one of the most well behaved self disciplined children you will meet. It's about time I get back to writing the book I've been wanting to on parenting.
Barney is not required. Of course kids can learn those virtues from their parents and they do. Barney, because it appeals to them, just helps to reinforce the values of caring, sharing, taking turns between the examples other children are setting in a format that appeals to them.
That show was creator by teachers who left the public school system because they saw, parents were not taking care to teach their children these virtues early on and they were a nightmare to deal with in elementary school.
Children look to their peers big time. Find a good kid to set an example and they are worth their weight in gold. Unfortunately, children who care and share and know how to take turns are hard to find. Thank the creators of barney for putting them out there to set an peer related example.
Zeke,
Barney only interests most kids up until age 3. I think teaching sharing, caring and taking turns sets a good foundation for the 3 Rs up ahead. I can give a rats ass if Johnny can multiply by age 4 if he is biting other children and taking their toys away from them.
Barney is a 20 minute show. To play a video only 3 times a week, leaves plenty of room for parents to provide plenty of mental stimulation. My daughter was put in the gifted programs in Kindergarten when she went to public school for the last half of that year. I've been homeschooling since we moved to a new area.
If you are referring to parents who expect TV and the school system to teach and stimulate their children alone, then, that's another problem to be sure, almost epidemic if you ask me.
Bare in mind, children need emotional stimulation to and examples of healthy emotional expression and dealing with their own feelings and others in a constructive manor.
Children who run into emotional arrested development end up to be sad adults like Micheal Jackson.
Blah blah I should be typing this for a book instead. Boy if we didn't get off topic Sorry Swami.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: gettinjiggywithit]
#3809391 - 02/21/05 01:01 AM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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Barney is a 20 minute show. To play a video only 3 times a week, leaves plenty of room for parents to provide plenty of mental stimulation.
right... that's true isn't it. I don't know, maybe Barney is forever poisoned for me because I was a young teenager when he first busted onto the scene. You know how wise young teenagers can be, I was one of the wisest. and so I decided Barney was creepy and idiotic... something I can't help but still believe... but which I'll admit is probably totally arbitrary
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gettinjiggywithit said: A harmless belief would be one like, I believe the color purple is pretty.
Isn't it funny what can unfold out of a simple random statement used as an example...!?
Life....!
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: Zekebomb]
#3809525 - 02/21/05 01:34 AM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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I understand, a lot of adults, especially dads, just don't vibe with the whole Barney thing. How bout Whinnie the Pooh?
It doesn't matter so much where they get the examples and teachings for caring about things, showwing respect, sharing and taking turns, just that they do. I have found with my daughter, she is quicker to learn from the examples her peers set then by me setting the same one.
She saw me using the potty. Her diaper she would not part with until she saw her friend Kelsey do it. She saw me swim without water wings and hers would not come off until Kelsey took hers off. She saw me riding a bike without training wheels. She wouldn't part with hers until Kayla did.
Bottom line is, they naturally identify with little people who look more like them and they more readily make comparisons of what they can expect to be or should be doing.
Realizing the nature of children to look to their peers is something you can use to your advantage when you want them to learn something by example and what you DON'T want them to learn and what peer examples to keep them away from while they are developing a sense of self and appropriate behavior.
The day also comes where you don't have full control over peer examples and that's why you got to get appropriate behavior down and in and hard from birth. If you think you can do when they are 13, its a tad to late without tremendous struggles.
To date, I haven't had a power struggle with my daughter either and shes 8, she trusts me. I hope to maintain this as she moves into her teen years.
The trust comes from the follow through and consistency. When you say you are going to do something, you better mean it or don't say it and then follow through if you did.
NEVER let them catch you lying and stear clear from using manipulation tactics on them when young or they will be using the same ones on you by age 4.
Always let them know that whatever decisions you are making for them is because you love, care for and respect them. Let them know that this is also how they can love, care and respect for themselves and others and that the should. Every moment is a teaching moment for self love, care, respect and showing the same for others.
Self love and respect creates its own self discipline. I've seen it work beautifully and at best have maybe had to go into a stern voice.
That spanking stuff is just crap. All it does is teach a child that when they loose control and patience and want to make someone do what they say, they should hit them. That's how bullies are made.
Not only that, how can a child believe a parent cares about them when they are the ones hurting them? Fat chance at establishing trust that when you instruct them to do what you do because you care they don't get hurt. They won't beleive you and they will keep running right out into a busy street.
As parents we are the ones they put their trust for their safety in. If we are the ones hurting them, what do they have? They will grow and develop in a very insecure environment. Not the way to go for helping them to develop a healthy self esteem and self confidence and security in life.
If you parents treat you like something so valueless its okay to abuse, where is a healthy sense of self worth going to come from? Kids will grow to think they deserve to be treated like shit and let others treat them like shit.
Who wants to see their children be treated like shit by others? If not, then they need to watch how they are raising them to become accustomed to being treated.
Research even showed that children who are hit develop defensive hard wiring and makes them less receptive in school because their brains are wired to be on the defense, not reception.
Sorry for writing all this, its just a topic, one of the few, I am passionate about.
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: gettinjiggywithit]
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gettinjiggywithit said: I understand, a lot of adults, especially dads, just don't vibe with the whole Barney thing. How bout Whinnie the Pooh?
Anything/anybody named after "Pooo" is kewl~ in my book....!
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: PhanTomCat]
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PhanTomCat said:
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gettinjiggywithit said: I understand, a lot of adults, especially dads, just don't vibe with the whole Barney thing. How bout Whinnie the Pooh?
Anything/anybody named after "Pooo" is kewl~ in my book....!
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Re: A Totally Harmless Belief - Barney Vs. Parental Attention.... [Re: gettinjiggywithit]
#3811581 - 02/21/05 03:09 PM (19 years, 1 month ago) |
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I am definitely a proponent of Winne the Pooh. anyone read the Tao of Pooh? kinda fluffy but also cool. but the main coolness of Pooh is the original A. A. Milne books. not so much the Disney fluff
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Is paranoia a harmless place to be? Some parent might keep guns in the house to protect their children from intruders and then a kid accidental gets shot playing with the gun.
fyi though, it's irresponsible to leave loaded weapons around with children in the picture, or to leave a gun and ammo in close proximity to eachother.. but it's more irresponsible than any of that to not beat into your own children that guns are never, ever, ever to be considered a toy.
i'd wager that any kid that plays with a gun and shoots themself, could have been stopped had their parents not been so fearful of guns themselves that they thought it a totally inappropriate issue to teach their child the ins and outs of.. and mostly the outs. you need to know what not to do with a gun long before it matters if you know what to do with a gun.
uhh ya i'm off topic. i win.
Winnie the Pooh is a win.. Tao of Pooh's great, too
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