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Tasty_Smurf_House
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An obstacle I can't get around
#3673738 - 01/24/05 06:36 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's about a girl. I met her a few years ago. We've dated 5 times so far. anyways blah blah and now she's all like no I never want to go out with you again. And i don't understand it. I love her more then anything and when she says she doesnt want to go out again, it just seems like it's defying the universe. thats not the right answer. and she's like i probably wont know you in 10 years and i cant figure that out. i dont want to not know her. she's too special to me and i dont ever want to let go. and. yeah.
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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then im bout to bawl, and then all of a sudden everything is fine. i dont feel anything and i can just lie to myself and tell myself i can keep trying and get her back
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Delyrium
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ya it's weird - you never wanna just lose the people you love.
my ex and i dated for 3 years. i couldn't imagine life w/o him - even if we broke up and he was a friend. it hurt. i felt sick when i thought about it.
well we did break up and ya know... it just fades out. other people come into your life - fill the void. i will always love him and if the chance arose - i'd go see him - but that's not likely.
as time goes on - you change - as does others.
don't force anything. let her do whatever she feels is good for herself.
love is selfish. u can keep trying but u might push her away even more.
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: Delyrium]
#3673785 - 01/24/05 06:47 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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but i want her around forever she's the best person in the world
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Delyrium
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have you told HER this?
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: Delyrium]
#3673803 - 01/24/05 06:51 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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yes
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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I'd do anything for her, or anything to be with her, but there's nothing I can do and so I don't know what to do
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funkymonk
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well, why have you two cats broke up in the past?
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Delyrium
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well do what she wants then. back off. move on. it sucks but that's life.
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: funkymonk]
#3673821 - 01/24/05 06:55 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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i dunno. different reasons. but they were like she was always scared to commit or was concerned about me using drugs or she was having problems and i gave her some time to deal with shit or something. now she's all like i just dont love you anymore and i cant understand that because i still love her so much and i cant see any reason for her to just not love me. it's like, she's the best and it feels like we're not spossed to be apart. i dont know how to deal with it and im frustrated and hurt.
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: Delyrium]
#3673828 - 01/24/05 06:56 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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well i do want to back off because it would make her happy and if she's happy then i should be too but i want to make her happy and be with her.
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Hendostan
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dude, you might be coming off as desperate to her..how can you love her more than anything after only 5 dates? i can understand being attached to someone and wanting to continue getting to know them, but real love comes with time and effort. what you have is an intense affection for this girl..if she doesn't want to persue it, don't push her. if you just play it cool, try to keep getting to know her, who knows what time can bring. and if it brings nothing, don't worry about it. time will heal the wound, and you'll end up meeting many more women. Edit: a lot of shit was posted while i was typing this, so it may be out of context. sorry!
Edited by Hendostan (01/24/05 06:58 PM)
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funkymonk
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People do change though dude, it's one of the hardest things to learn...I kind of went through the same deal...but back off, do your own thing, and if it's meant to be, you don't have anythign to worry about.
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: Hendostan]
#3673840 - 01/24/05 06:58 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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no not five dates. we went out and broke up 5 times. over a few years
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: funkymonk]
#3673844 - 01/24/05 06:58 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah i guess you're right but if it's not spossed to be, i dont know how to understand that
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funkymonk
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if it's not suppose to happen, there will be someone else for you. someone that wants you the way you want her.
it's love dude. when it's good it's good, but when it gets bad it hurts
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: funkymonk]
#3673857 - 01/24/05 07:00 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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but it hurts so much. im like. completely crushed. i feel bad.
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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Should I go get really baked?
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Boom
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YES
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Tasty_Smurf_House
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Re: An obstacle I can't get around [Re: Boom]
#3674555 - 01/24/05 09:02 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah. that definately puts a different perspective on it all. it's all about positive thinking. why be sad to love her, and just love her anyways and be happy to have such a good friend and i can meet other people and i dunno. besides why feel bad when i can feel good? i mean. really. plus being sad will just not get me anywhere.
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