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InvisibleDelyrium
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Eating disorder problems.
    #3392668 - 11/21/04 12:05 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

I've been dating this guy for like 3-4 months now. We are really thrilled w/ each other and have an awesome time.

I just am having problems trying to hide and conquer my disorder. after going to the doctor and having her pretty much yell at me for not eating and trying to lose weight, i thought that maybe i should atleast start eating... but healthy.

so i have. i've been eating maybe 1 or 2 meals a day. yesturday i was bad and just had coffee in the morning. i just forced myself to eat 3 small waffles this morning.

my problem is - i dont think he really understands how i feel about my body. he doesn't understand that it's not just "eww i'm fat" it's more like a disease where I can't just SNAP out of it.

i also sometimes say things that i shouldn't. he notices that when we get intimate, i cover myself up at every chance i have. also when he touches me and is cuddling with me and i feel him give me a lil squeeze around my waist, i immediately push him away and tell hiim to stop touching my fat. he always says "It's not fat. it's skin and i wouldn't want you any thinner." i still dont believe it. i've heard him mention his ex girlfriends and how they had amazing bodies. he mentions how some girl in a video has an amazing body, blah blah blah. i dont know how to tell him that when he says these things to me, inside i start thinking of more ways to lose weight and how long i can go w/o eating. that's my reaction. it's sick and pathetic but it's really impossible for me to control.

how do i deal with this? i don't even know. i also feel like he deserves a beautiful girl with a beautiful body. i just feel like im not pretty enough for him. he says that i'm beautiful and pretty but then he also starts joking around and says that i look like a boy when i wear hoodies (bc i have short hair - however he doesn't think it would look good grown out).

fuck.

i'm so insecure about myself - i hate it. WHY can't i just enjoy who i am? WHYYYY?


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InvisibleArmFromTheAbyss
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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3392703 - 11/21/04 12:34 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

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i'm so insecure about myself




Well you know the problem. Thats good.

It will be hard but you've got to learn to be comfortable with yourself. If you do that, you will feel good about yourself. You'll realize that your man does find you attractive for just being you. You don't have to change yourself to be happy and in love.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3392758 - 11/21/04 01:01 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

I'm SURE you're just paranoid about him 'squeezing your wrist'. That is ridiculous, trust me.

Now you mention something about an eating disorder. I don't know if it means you think you're eating too much a day, or not able to enough.

Eating 1 or 2 meals a day isn't very much at all. If you're trying to force yourself to eat more food, but can't, I'd suggest cannabis. I wouldn't normally suggest drugs if you're trying to be healthy, but this is in fact a drug message board. :smirk:


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: HeavyToilet]
    #3392765 - 11/21/04 01:06 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

It just stems down to this, if you want to be healthy and look good, monitor your diet so you are in a caloric equilibrium, eating every 3 hours, and eating healthy. You won't be hungry, you won't gain weight, and you will be happy. By thinking "if i skip breakfast i'll get thin and hot", just refer back to your health plan to get adjusted. Skipping meals out of guilt doesn't work.


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InvisibleGijith
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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3392798 - 11/21/04 01:26 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

Delyrium,

Sorry I don't know any background information on you're situation.

How long have you been dealing with self image problems?
Does it come and go, or has it been a constant thing?
Has your medical doctor been the only person you've spoken to?
Do you weigh yourself a lot?


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Gijith]
    #3392816 - 11/21/04 01:33 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

"food cause shit"
-unknown :P hihi :heartpump:


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Offlineld50negative1
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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3392831 - 11/21/04 01:40 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

At least you can admit you have a problem - I know someone that has gone through a whole lot of shit and still won't admit to having an eating disorder.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3392997 - 11/21/04 02:40 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

knowing your problem is a big step ahead :thumbup:

many people have eating disorders and people die from it every day! It's something very serious that you need to pay attention to now you know it.
I read that you already make sure you eat more now than you used to, that's a good thing.
Maybe you should ask around about how much other girls of your age eat and use that as a guideline for your food intake.
your body needs a certain amount of calories every day, if the intake is lower that the amount you need it will be bad for your body, you might not notice it for a long while though.

now about your boyfriend: you should start believing what he sais, I bet he's just being honest with you. also it's skin and not fat (every person has a certain % of fat, and it's just for isolating and protecting things in your body, it doesn't mean you're fat!). Also his ex-girlfriends had amazing bodies and he's with YOU now.... and already for 4 months so he definately thinks you're hot and a very nice person. Also I think you should talk to him about you having an eating disorder and that it's some kind of desease. He might understand it better when you put it like that.

Now like I said eating disorders are a serious problem and if you can't deal with it yourself you shoudl consider seeing a psychologist. I believe there are psychologists that are specialized in eating disorders (but I'm not 100% sure here). Sometimes an opinion/advice from a professional can let you see things better than when your friends tell you the same thing.

sometimes I can't get out of my words with posts like this in english so if anything sounds negative in this post it's not! :smirk:

good luck :sun:


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3394892 - 11/21/04 11:41 PM (12 years, 21 days ago)

Its an irrational thought process. Just recognize it as stupid and irrational and tell yourself that every time it comes up.

I had some other types of irrational thoughts start bothering me and i thought i was getting OCD. it started after a heavy trip, but i just forced myself to understand that its irational and it stopped after a very tought month or two of thinking im loosing my mind.


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InvisibleDelyrium
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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Gijith]
    #3395300 - 11/22/04 12:34 PM (12 years, 20 days ago)

Quote:

Gijith said:How long have you been dealing with self image problems?
Does it come and go, or has it been a constant thing?
Has your medical doctor been the only person you've spoken to?
Do you weigh yourself a lot?




I've been dealing with these self image problems for a LONG time. It's only really become a problem in the last three years.

I do go on fasts and stop eating for lengthy periods but it's a come and go thing.

I haven't told anyone. I mean, people have noticed it and my best friends noticed but they saw it as "you're an idiot - go eat" when it's not that easy.

Not eating has become a game w/ me. I enjoy the feeling, I enjoy the idea of controlling my mind and body.

I weigh myself about 2-3 times a DAY. We have a scale at work that I constantly go on - usually in the morning and then after lunch/dinner. I also am always on the scale after a workout at the gym. It's an obsession for me.

I hate psychologists. I hate them. Can't go to them.

I wrote a little blurb about all this in my livejournal and my boyfriend brought it up last night. He read it and got pretty concerned. He said that anytime he'd say anything negative - it was just a joke and to be taken lightly but now he knows that because of my mental state... i don't take it like that. I mean I will ACT as if I got the joke and i don't care.. but I go home and stand in the mirror for a while trying to find all that's wrong.

Okay I need to get to work. That's another thing - I picked up a second job and I wake up at 4:30am for my first job, have an hour between jobs and then 1-9 for my second job. Long hours, I find myself snacking a lot on unhealthy stuff. Then I go home and cry. I have been to the point where I'd purge at times. It's embarrassing. :frown: i would binge at dinner and then purge before going out w/ my friends or going to a party.


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InvisibleGijith
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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3395631 - 11/22/04 10:40 PM (12 years, 20 days ago)

I have to think that the next step for you should be seeking help.
It's very rare for a person who's had a long term eating disorder to be able to cure it on their own.

stefan mentioned psychologists that specialize in eating disorders. There are plenty of them all over the country, so one should be easy to find. If you're gonna go down this road, I'd definitely recommend seeing a psychiatrist instead of a psychologist. This is a medical problem and should be looked at by someone who's been to med school. Apparently you don't like analysis though. So a good alternative might be attending groups for people with eating disorders. If I'm not mistaken there are many of them meeting all over the country and they follow a step by step program like AA.

Also, it sucks you have a scale at your work. If you also have one at your home, I'd recommend getting rid of it.

I don't think anyone's going to be able to offer a simple solution to this problem. It's too deep rooted. It's gonna have to be a long process.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Gijith]
    #3396146 - 11/23/04 12:35 AM (12 years, 20 days ago)

Does anybody know if a PPO insurance plan covers seeing a psychiatrist for anorexia completely?


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: DNKYD]
    #3403576 - 11/24/04 02:24 PM (12 years, 18 days ago)

its a mental disorder and therefore totally beyond someone who doesnt have its ablitlity to understand.

i see these grossly skinny girls and im thinking, youll look better if you eat! your not fat! you need to eat to live! this isnt helping anything!

but, they cant or wont listen, so what can i do?


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3404144 - 11/24/04 04:15 PM (12 years, 18 days ago)

Time to go see a shrink, Del. Normal people don't think things like this.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: adrug]
    #3412654 - 11/26/04 04:33 PM (12 years, 16 days ago)

Throw the scales out a window and only get mirrors that are small ones.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Delyrium]
    #3412744 - 11/26/04 05:11 PM (12 years, 16 days ago)

Quote:

Delyrium said:

I enjoy the feeling, I enjoy the idea of controlling my mind and body.




I hope you didnt mean that you control your mind and body now... Because you're obviously not.
I saw pictures of you. You could take 20lbs and you would still be slim in my book.
Very few guys find that skinny girls are the best, at least here. I certainly dont find it sexy to see all your bones because you just have them and some skin on top :wink:

With your second post it became OBVIOUS to me ( and some others who posted after it ) that you absolutly need help, a drug-related forum wont help here. What the hell! 3 times a day ?!
And why do you hate psys? Because they tell you the truth about yourself I bet.

Seek help now or continue to live a sad and very unheathly life.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Gus]
    #3421744 - 11/29/04 01:51 AM (12 years, 14 days ago)

gus speaks truth


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Todcasil]
    #3421747 - 11/29/04 01:52 AM (12 years, 14 days ago)

i could have sworn i responded to this thread earlier?

oh well... listen to these people Del. they know, and you know,


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Todcasil]
    #3421905 - 11/29/04 02:57 AM (12 years, 14 days ago)

Yeah, in reality guys don't like the Somalian hunger strike look. I think it is pretty sad when girls get that drilled into their heads. Having an ass is good.


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Re: Eating disorder problems. [Re: Corporal Kielbasa]
    #3433686 - 12/01/04 06:24 PM (12 years, 11 days ago)

Quote:

SHEIKofSHIITAKE said:
Throw the scales out a window and only get mirrors that are small ones.




um, yeah, that scale thing is big problem.  if you can find a way to increasingly become less impulsive about your weight/appearance then maybe you can break out of the habit. 

get rid of that scale, it is constantly telling you that you aren't good enough.  i've had people in the past tell me i'm not good enough and it ate me up inside and cause me a lot of depression.  i rid them from my life and things became well again.

i weigh myself at the gym alot too, but that's because i'm trying to put on weight.  its a body image thing for me too.  i go to the gym alot with the hopes of perfecting my outer shell even though i know my inners are the only things that matter.

if you are excercising please EAT so you can have something to burn other than soft muscle tissue (your heart being one of the main sources).

:heart: :heart: :heart: please see a specialist because i think they'll be able to help you more than a bunch of mushroom enthusiasts  :grin:...its good to get this all off your chest but we can't help you like a professional can.  GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE :heart:


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