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OfflineTasty_Smurf_House
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Fathers suck.
    #3273384 - 10/25/04 12:04 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

What kind of asshole tells his kid that it was a mistake naming his middle name after his friend because his kid is a fucking waste and a failure and does nothing but tell the kid he won't make it in life. Fuck I hate my father. You can't even talk to the fucker because he won't listen to a thing you say, he constantly interrupts, he does nothing but get angry, and anything you say that goes against how he feels he just dismisses as bullshit. I can't wait till I can move the fuck out of here.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3273468 - 10/25/04 12:22 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

I can see how that would be pretty disturbing to have a father who tore you down all the time. I mean, whether we like them or not, a parents opinion matters a lot to their kids. If a parent is really verbally nasty to their kids all the time, it just turns into one big negative cess-pool cycle.

I hear you man. I don't have any advice, but I do hope you can get out of that situation soon.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3273487 - 10/25/04 12:25 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

get a job
go to college
save some money
get your own place.

say goodbye to the drama ASAP.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3273506 - 10/25/04 12:30 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

where do you see yourself in 5 years?


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3273522 - 10/25/04 12:34 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Yeah I'm trying to find a job so I can get money and move out. But I still don't have one and every day I have someone to remind me and make me feel like shit about it. Yes I'm working on getting out of the situation but unfortunately I can't snap my fingers and change things. Till I can move out I have to live with this constantly. bah.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3273528 - 10/25/04 12:35 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

That sucks. My dad always had temper problems(which he's going to therapy for now), but never that bad. He was always pretty fair to me. Although I had it pretty good as far as parents were concerned, I always had a problem with the idea that you should just respect your elders. My parents earned my respect, and any parent who hasn't earned their child's respect shouldn't expect to recieve it.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: silversoul7]
    #3273564 - 10/25/04 12:43 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

any parent who hasn't earned their child's respect shouldn't expect to recieve it.

Exactly.

His opinion is I must respect him no matter what and that he should have no respect for me.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3273664 - 10/25/04 01:12 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

i feel you tasty..

my dad has always been passive aggressive in a manner that belittles my life choices.

when i went off to college, the school sent me car window stickers. i stuck them on my family's van and he said "why? we're just gonna have to take those stickers off in 4 months when you flunk out"

when i graduated from college he said "you peaked." the meanest thing anyone has said to me.

we have and always will have a salty relationship, our personalities just dont click at all, i genuinely hate being around him and thats such a terrible thing to feel but i cant help it.

move out, put the drama behind you...live your life, it yours after all.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: MrBump]
    #3273749 - 10/25/04 01:37 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

yeah... from experiences similar to yours, i say be yourself.

it will be no harder living with him if you do what he says or what you want, you know?

no harder one bit.

so just try to do what feels right, remember that genetics doesnt determine personality (and anything you hate about yourself because it reminds you of your father, just realize that you can be the better version of him, not for him, but for you. for the people you decide to love the most).

i took a fucking job at mcdonalds to get out of my place (i hated it, but it was also better than being at home).

nothing else to say except that you are your own God.

peace, and peace of mind for the future.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Todcasil]
    #3273819 - 10/25/04 02:09 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Hm.

My Dad is a complete pussy.

It's kinda sickening.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3274552 - 10/25/04 09:59 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Yeah I'm trying to find a job so I can get money and move out.

what kind of job?


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: ]
    #3274814 - 10/25/04 12:01 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

I love my dad and am grateful to him for giving me life, but for some reason I get extremely annoyed just being around him. I dont know why. Just the way he talks shatters my nerves sometimes. At other times his voice is a huge comfort.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Grav]
    #3275914 - 10/25/04 05:53 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

God I though you were describing my DAD. Noboby can do anything as good as he can. The nickname my father gave me was ZERO. He started calling me that when he tried to climb into my bed and I screamed my head off and my brother cold cocked him. He never tried again but suddenly I wasn't his little princess anymore I became zero. Well I'm out of that Bastards house now and I'll never return. I miss my MOM but she took up for him saying that I misunderstood his intentions.


get out as soon as you can he'll only try to destroy you.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: fungigal]
    #3276091 - 10/25/04 06:41 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

So your father had a fuck and forced a kid (you) to suffer in this world. Then he imposes things on you, makes you feel like shit. So the situation is get a job and waste half of everyday standing at some fucking place doing some repitive shit that means absolutly nothing so you can stop feeling like shit?

Yay lets fuck and then force our kids to do depraved things and then tell them how much they've ruined our lives. I hate old brainwashed fucking idiots who just fuck and have kids without even thinking. Son.. i'd respect you so much more if you earns ome coloured paper.. thats all it takes is a bit of coloured paper and all of a sudden you are a better person.. that is pathetic just like this society.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3279287 - 10/26/04 02:08 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

My dad wasn't the best father either, but I survived in spite of him. That was one of my main goals, not to turn out like him, and learn from his mistakes. He has since died, before I got myself together enough to face him.

Even after you move out, he will still be your father, and he will be a part of your life, whether in the flesh or memory. His disrespect of you will continue in you, so you need to know this is BS. As long as you are doing the best you can, then he has no gripe.

My suggestion is to write down things that upset you, name calling, disrespect by saying and doing XYZ, you need firm examples to make a good stand for yourself, etc and also write down some good stuff that you like about him. Talk to your mom about this and she if she is an alley, which she should be. Practice what you are going to say to him and use notes if needed. Stay calm, and keep the emotions out of it. Start by giving him some compliments like .. you are a good provider, I am proud of you because....., and you will have a better base to start your concerns about the bad stuff.

Finally, know that you cannot control his choices, even after you have brought this to his attention and he chooses to be rude and disrespectful to you... walk away knowing you did what you could and the ball is in his court.

If you don't bring this up it will probably never be resolved, and you have a long life ahead of you. Do yourself and no doubt other ppl in your family, a favor, because I bet your mom hasn't even talked to him about how he treats her and others in his life. good luck


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: annielicious]
    #3281028 - 10/26/04 09:05 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

My mom and dad are divorced. I live just with my dad. My mom doesn't like my dad.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3281323 - 10/26/04 09:58 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

what kind of job do you plan on getting?

do you have any training or skills? do you plan on acquiring any some time soon?


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: ]
    #3281521 - 10/26/04 10:25 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

i'm not sure what i'm going to do.

only skill I have is I can read and write in hiragana and katakana and some kanji in japanese, I can speak a bit but I'd need to review my notes.


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: Tasty_Smurf_House]
    #3281804 - 10/26/04 11:16 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

it would probably be wise to learn a trade, don't you think?


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Re: Fathers suck. [Re: ]
    #3282114 - 10/27/04 12:39 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Perhaps


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