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Phishgrrl
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Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex
#3008949 - 08/16/04 12:41 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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to have lunch alone together if they're friends? Do you think this is appropriate or not?
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3008961 - 08/16/04 12:43 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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why not?
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3008963 - 08/16/04 12:44 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Why not? What is the problem? Being friends with the opposite sex is off limits once you get married?
I am not married so don't listen to me but I don't think Trust shouldn't be an issue if you're married so what would the problem be?
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Phishgrrl
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: barfightlard]
#3008965 - 08/16/04 12:44 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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I don't know why not....that's why I'm asking you guys.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3008971 - 08/16/04 12:45 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Ok on this I have experience. I have a very good looking neighbor who lives across the street. Even though I find him attractive, when he and I go to lunch or a movie I never feel like I am going to jump on him or act inappropriately towards him. It just so happens we share a lot of likes and if you find someone married or not whom you share interests with I see nothing wrong with doing some stuff together as long as your intentions are pure.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3008985 - 08/16/04 12:50 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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will the spouses know?
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: chinadoll]
#3009024 - 08/16/04 01:08 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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chinadoll said: will the spouses know?
That's exactly what I was thinking. If you can tell your husband, then there shouldn't be any problem with it. Plus, it won't matter if you get "caught" because he'll know you were just on an innocent lunch with someone.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009040 - 08/16/04 01:19 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Oh this one is touchy.. There are several factors involved here. It depends on the past relationship of the two friends. It depends how often they want to "hang out". Oh and if your spouse thinks this is not something you should not be doing.. then u have to ask yourself is my marriage worth going out to lunch with this friend instead of talking with them on the phone. Oh and in my experience .. alot of these "friends" end up fucking your wife/girlfriend.
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Edited by iluan (08/16/04 01:41 PM)
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: iluan]
#3009058 - 08/16/04 01:27 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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iluan said: Oh and in my experience .. alot of these "friends" end up fucking your wife.
very true!
in my case, it would depend on what she looked like! My gf would freak out if i wanted to have lunch with any kind of hottie, but if she was ugly and fat my gf would have no problem with it!
i don't get it!
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009082 - 08/16/04 01:33 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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if you can't even have lunch can you be friends and not see each other? seems weird to me. ofcoarse you can have lunch silly!
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: chinadoll]
#3009087 - 08/16/04 01:33 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well, MY spouse would know. The thing is, I don't know if this guy has any intentions other than friendship. I do like him AS A FRIEND and I am going to lunch with him next week, I have worked for him a couple of times, and have known him for a couple of years. We have mutual friends. I don't know his wife but have met her a couple of times. My husband is fine with me going to lunch with him, I just feel a teensy bit weird about it because I think he might "like" me. I guess we will see.....
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009138 - 08/16/04 01:43 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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All depends on the trust level.
Oh and if he is a guy... then well he probably has the hots for you.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009142 - 08/16/04 01:44 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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OK, I guess the real question should be: in your opinion; is it OK, if you're married, to be friends with someone who likes you more than a friend?
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009149 - 08/16/04 01:45 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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I just feel a teensy bit weird about it because I think he might "like" me. I guess we will see.....
If you feel uncomfortable don't go....or don't go alone, invite a mutual friend.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009151 - 08/16/04 01:46 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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yeah if you can control yourself and things dont get aquaworld.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009157 - 08/16/04 01:47 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Phishgrrl said: OK, I guess the real question should be: in your opinion; is it OK, if you're married, to be friends with someone who likes you more than a friend?
I guess you can, they'll get over it. but make sure to keep a sertain distance and make clear nothing will happen between the 2 of you.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: chinadoll]
#3009160 - 08/16/04 01:47 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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chinadoll said: I just feel a teensy bit weird about it because I think he might "like" me. I guess we will see.....
If you feel uncomfortable don't go....or don't go alone, invite a mutual friend.
Good point! .. If it's just 2 friends having lunch.. make it 3 or 4 friends having lunch this solves alot of problems. 2 people going out for lunch alone.. sounds bit like a date to me, and may sound like that to someone that likes you for more then a friend.
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Edited by iluan (08/16/04 01:48 PM)
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: ]
#3009181 - 08/16/04 01:52 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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If anything "funny" happens, either talk to him and drill into him that you are in this for friendship or LEAVE.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: stefan]
#3009202 - 08/16/04 01:56 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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stefan said: [quote I guess you can, they'll get over it. but make sure to keep a sertain distance and make clear nothing will happen between the 2 of you.
Yeah, that is what I think I will do.
All you guys and girls have good advice. I am not CERTAIN he likes me more than a friend but I kind of get that vibe. Anyway, he's a nice guy and I'd like to hang out with him here and there but I just don't want him to think I want an affair or anything, ya know?
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