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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3009790 - 08/16/04 04:06 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Phishgrrl said: to have lunch alone together if they're friends? Do you think this is appropriate or not?
I don't think that there is anything wrong with it, but I personally would try to have my husband come and eat lunch with us.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3010282 - 08/16/04 06:53 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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sooo when can we do lunch...
*gets out the rufies...*
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Barbi]
#3010291 - 08/16/04 06:55 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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yes
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3010335 - 08/16/04 07:06 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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if youv'e known him for two years or more, here's what you do, analyze his actions.
is he always complimenting you?
how often does he stare at you?
is he an introvert? like know what his personality is..etc. most introverts will never tell someone that they like them (including if the other has a hubby/SO)
if you feel weird..is it because of you...or is it because of him?
if all else fails, do what LF said, have an orgy!!! it'll straighten things out really well
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: kaiowas]
#3010440 - 08/16/04 07:27 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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He wants the sex pure and simple...
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3010488 - 08/16/04 07:34 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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ain't nothin' wrong with lunch!
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: kaiowas]
#3010574 - 08/16/04 07:53 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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kaiowas said: if youv'e known him for two years or more, here's what you do, analyze his actions. is he always complimenting you? No.....but sometimes he does, although not in a rude way. how often does he stare at you? He doesn't stare. is he an introvert? like know what his personality is..etc. most introverts will never tell someone that they like them (including if the other has a hubby/SO) Yes he is, but he sent me an email that kind of hinted that he likes me. if you feel weird..is it because of you...or is it because of him? I don't know, him I guess. if all else fails, do what LF said, have an orgy!!! it'll straighten things out really well LOL, I don't think my husband would be into it unless it was only with him and women! Thanks for making me think though, it should work out alright I hope. I just hate to let stuff like this ruin a friendship. I always have trouble understanding this stuff and how to deal with it.
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Edited by Phishgrrl (08/16/04 08:01 PM)
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3010644 - 08/16/04 08:07 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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There is nothing wrong with lunch and flirting. If you are dedicated to your hubby then even if he DID lust after you it doesnt matter.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Barbi]
#3010720 - 08/16/04 08:25 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Thanks. Now I don't feel so weird about the whole thing.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3011363 - 08/16/04 10:59 PM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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of course if you screw him, there might be soemthing funny going on
(package in the mail btw)
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3012024 - 08/17/04 02:46 AM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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well i would say if your any bit uncomfortable take more people as suggested before. why tempt fate if your satisfied with your current relationship?
ill admit i prolly take a more conservative view of relationships than some(and i also believe you can meet your soulmate, not sure on the more than one thing), but why even push the envelope? unless its what you really want, perhaps subcon. and imo its her mental lust that would hurt me more than any physical lust involving infidelity.
but alas everyone knows themselves better than anyone else. in your heart you already know what the correct answer is for this question you ask.... me thinks.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: oDin]
#3012025 - 08/17/04 02:47 AM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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oDin, when we all hang out, does it bother you or make you feel uncomfortable that I stare at your boobs
If so, we need to stop having sex. Its just not going to work out.
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Barbi]
#3012049 - 08/17/04 03:06 AM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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"does it bother you or make you feel uncomfortable that I stare at your boobs"
sometimes...when i get home.....i shower and shower...but i never...get....clean
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: oDin]
#3012056 - 08/17/04 03:09 AM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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use ajax next time
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: Phishgrrl]
#3012198 - 08/17/04 04:45 AM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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I wanna have this in my relationship but my wife is to insecure and thinks that after 7 yrs of marriage I'd blow it! It is a constant fight between us,sometimes I have to walk with my head facing the other way when I see a beautiful women around because If I even look as if I'm glancing "all fuckin war is coming"
I dont see nothing wrong with it It keeps your flirting/communication side "on" so you dont loose it Being self confident and having fun is what it is all about! When you are married your spouse feels as if "they" should be all you need in life as far as the opposite sex goes! I wannago out on innocent fun lucheons and dinner but my wife would divorce me in a minute
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Re: Is it OK for 2 separately married people of opposite sex [Re: JAMIEK]
#3012475 - 08/17/04 08:15 AM (19 years, 7 months ago) |
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Wow....and I thought my husband was a little jealous! I check out girls with him all the time and we always giggle when I catch him checking out someones boobs. And I am able to tell him when I think a guy is hot.
There definitely is a line that can be crossed though, and it's different for different people. It sounds like your wife may need some self-esteem boosting. I think it is imperative for married women to go out on the town with their girlfriends at least a couple times a month. Does she do that? Do you compliment her and treat her like a princess? Because I have learned that jealousy can be one of those ugly cycles that kills a relationship, like totheSummit states in his thread....if she is feeling hurt, she will treat you bad, then you will feel hurt and do the same, etc., etc., etc., until there is no soul left in your marriage and either you get divorced or just live in misery for the rest of your life.
Just a little thought to cheer you up No, but seriously, I hope you guys can work this out because jealousy really does suck for all parties involved. Good luck, my friend!
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