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r3volution.gurl


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I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls 1
#28636929 - 01/27/24 01:14 PM (6 hours, 47 seconds ago) |
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By lose, I mean his attention.
We had date night yesterday and there was a group of 3 girls and he just couldn't stop being interested in what they were doing. I know he enjoys the attention from them because maybe he didn't get many girls when he was younger and/or he's just an attention whore like me, but it makes me feel embarrassed and I really don't like other women looking at me in that light.
I spoke to him about it and he said he'll change and be more discreet from now on to which I explained I don't care that he looks or I see that he looks.. I care that THEY see that he's looking.. I have been those girls many times.. and I know what I was thinking about it and that's really why it's so upsetting. Just pure disrespectful to me. And I know what I'm thinking is correct because of what one of those girls did which I will share:
Two of them got up from the table to go to the bathroom.. instead of going the very obvious route behind my boyfriend and walk around, they walked up to me sitting at our table with the bar right behind me (it's a tight restaurant) to where I would have to get up and push my chair all the way in to let them through. So, getting both my boyfriend and my attention, I looked at the one girl dead in the eyes with a very clear look of "um wtf" without actually saying anything and she says "oh, we have to go around".. like no shit Sherlock. He then made a joke that girls always go to the bathroom in pairs to which I wish I said.. "yeah girls.. not women" unfortunately I didn't think of that on the spot because I was so angry. It's so obvious to me that this girl wanted to take the route in his view without even looking at the route itself.. and yes the bathroom was in that direction.
Idk about anyone else but I don't walk up to someone's table to figure out I can't get though, I look before I get the fk up. At that point I just really had enough and once they left I brought it up to him in the restaurant and because him and I both are loud everyone heard our conversation..
I know he loves me and wouldn't cheat etc. etc. It's just this isn't the first time he's done shit like this, it's almost everytime we are out because well.. if there's a group of hot girls, I've lost..
It started with literally catcalling them infront of me.. saying things like "can I see your IDs".. and this other time where I went outside of a place to meet him and bunch of girls passing by me saying "they are mormons" that told me without telling me he said something to them on the way out. I have spoken out everytime and each time he got a little better, but he expressed to me it's funny to him and the positive attention makes him feel good.. I tell him I get while also explaining how it makes me look really bad. This time I really hope he gets it..
We are supposed to go out tonight for his friend's bday and I am scared honestly.. everytime I am excited for going out with him I get dumbfounded because I forget this crap even happens since we have so much fun together and love each other.
TLDR:
I care what people think about me lol
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28636962 - 01/27/24 01:46 PM (5 hours, 29 minutes ago) |
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Is this the same 'man' that 'left' his wife for you or was that like 10 penises in the past?
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r3volution.gurl


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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28636978 - 01/27/24 02:16 PM (4 hours, 59 minutes ago) |
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Yeah.. he did leave her and we live together.
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28636992 - 01/27/24 02:31 PM (4 hours, 44 minutes ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: Yeah.. he did leave her and we live together.
Not according to your post from 2 weeks ago. You got with an adulterer. You got the adulterer package. He is doing adulterer things. Have you ever heard the expression, "They leave you how you got 'em"?
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28637061 - 01/27/24 03:20 PM (3 hours, 54 minutes ago) |
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He can stop or you can accept it. They approach him because he is approachable. He makes eye contact, smiles, flirts, whatever it may be. But he does something that signals it is ok. Either he stops or you have to accept it. And your right... it sucks. I am sorry.
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28637062 - 01/27/24 03:21 PM (3 hours, 54 minutes ago) |
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Thats the catch-22 of a guy being in a relationship: a guy will appear more attractive for being with a woman who is in a relationship with them (or appears to be). The temptation is great to not indulge in the extra attention. Competition is tough.
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28637069 - 01/27/24 03:32 PM (3 hours, 43 minutes ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said:
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r3volution.gurl said: Yeah.. he did leave her and we live together.
Not according to your post from 2 weeks ago. You got with an adulterer. You got the adulterer package. He is doing adulterer things. Have you ever heard the expression, "They leave you how you got 'em"?
Link?
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28637072 - 01/27/24 03:35 PM (3 hours, 40 minutes ago) |
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Anonymous #2 said: He can stop or you can accept it. They approach him because he is approachable. He makes eye contact, smiles, flirts, whatever it may be. But he does something that signals it is ok. Either he stops or you have to accept it. And your right... it sucks. I am sorry.
Yeah absolutely, he gives them attention for sure.
Thanks
He said he will change and also said how can he fix things without being given the chance to since our date night. I'm just having an issue with putting myself in any sort of position like that again.. at least this soon such as tonight.
I also want to point out our tables we're really close together so they necessarily didn't approach, but definitely wanted to be in his line of sight. A girl has never ever actually approached him infront of me. Majority of them laugh off the attention and basically pity me.
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Edited by r3volution.gurl (01/27/24 03:41 PM)
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28637075 - 01/27/24 03:39 PM (3 hours, 36 minutes ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Thats the catch-22 of a guy being in a relationship: a guy will appear more attractive for being with a woman who is in a relationship with them (or appears to be). The temptation is great to not indulge in the extra attention. Competition is tough.
Couldn't agree more. And I explained to him about how much more attractive he would be if he didn't cut me off in conversation to look at them moving around.
I remember eating out once and this guy was extremely attractive with his woman. He was on his phone or talking to his woman the whole time, didn't look at me or any other girl more than once at all. Most attractive thing I can respect.
I made my mistakes in this relationship logical chaos and that's exactly why I have no credibility or respect unfortunately. Hoping to build it back up.. just the fact he knows I've hooked up with 500 guys makes him think he has an argument and can bring that up to say he feels the same way about me and other guys.
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: r3volution.gurl]
#28637087 - 01/27/24 03:48 PM (3 hours, 26 minutes ago) |
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I definitely get that. Its tragically ironic because it sounds like you want to be less like your past self and be attached while he wants to be more "available" so to speak to other ladies. It can br tough for a guy who has had little attention in the past to ignore any new attention he gets in the present. Take a lot of Will power to resist
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Re: I always lose my boyfriend to a group of hot girls [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28637126 - 01/27/24 04:32 PM (2 hours, 43 minutes ago) |
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Tragically ironic is the perfect description for sure
He's really trying now because I just got super depressed over all of it.
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  "Souls love. That’s what souls do. Egos don’t, but souls do. Become a soul, look around, and you’ll be amazed-all the beings around you are souls. Be one, see one. When many people have this heart connection, then we will know that we are all one, we human beings all over the planet. We will be one. One love. And don’t leave out the animals, and trees, and clouds, and galaxies: it’s all one. It’s one energy." -Ram Dass
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