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Cory Duchesne said: "Now, the way I see it, stupidity is a form of assault. What is assault? What is rape? Rape is the invasion of your body without consent, any part of your body. Could be your genitalia, but could also be your brain.
Secondhand smoke is respiratory rape, because someone forces smoke into your body. Ambient noise pollution is auditory rape. The great unwashed is olfactory rape. Unwanted touch, invasion of private space are tactile rape. Not fully consensual sex is rape, pure and simple.
All forms of abuse constitute emotional rape. And in my view, stupidity is a rape. It is an intellectual rape. Someone forces his idiocy, his criticism, his moronic views into my brain without my consent and permission. He is raping me intellectually.
Rape should be criminalized in all its forms. Rape should be penalized in all its forms. The perpetrators should be relegated to penal colonies, virtual or otherwise."
Beware the Stupid Takeover! (Sam Vaknin Rant)
https://vaknin-talks.com/transcripts/Beware_the_Stupid_Takeover_Sam_Vaknin_Rant_Read_PINNED_COMMENT
I am aware that these words are being painted in the canvas of your mind. I'm aware that I am participating in creating your mind at this moment as you read these words. You don't know what the next thing I'll write will be, and cannot consent to what I may say.
All things are interdependent. Creation and destruction are the same thing. The wind blows, the trees move, my mind becomes trees dancing in the wind. Life is intimate.
We are created out of each other's stupidity and intelligence. Each of us has stupidity and intelligence that helps create each other. This is just how it is; we can't change that. We can learn to accept it.
I think violence is different than this basic interdependence. When exposed to violence we can be harmed in ways that disrupts our basic functioning. To equate these things not only minimizes the impact of violence, it puts ourselves in a position of victimhood in relation to interdependence, to life itself.
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Freedom
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Cory Duchesne said: I find it staggering how many people are not free in this world, myself included. The special connection and friendship you are referring to would be some kind of freedom. We're living in a partly unfree world. I don't believe I have any special connection that would lead to safe, enjoyable sex. I might have had it when I was younger, but I lost contact with those ladies. I had an alcohol problem when I was 17-20 years old, which would have been the time when I was most sexually active. I had another chance at a sexual relationship when I was 33, but I had a psychosis while with her. I've been diagnosed with bioplar disorder, schizophrenia, paranoid personality disorder.... so there's really nothing I can say that makes sense. Congrats to the people who have freedom in their relationships and can have sex without terror or tears. I find myself isolated and not really able to work very effectively. Here in Canada, they are offering maid for people with mental illness, and I really don't see the point of my existence. Would like to have a peaceful death, considering I can't seem to find much peace in life. I think it boils down to cognitive impairment. We really are living in a world with people who do have some measure of impairment when it comes to empathy, and their grandiosity gets in the way of them appreciating the moment for what it is.
I think this captures a huge issue in modern society. People are, in general, very out of touch with themselves. Because we learn from each other, we are constantly getting reinforcement to be out of touch with ourselves.
A couple years ago I had a girlfriend that got frustrated when I wanted to take things slow and really get to know each other physically and psychologically. Its like she just wanted to fuck without being aware of each other.
I think thats fine to do that sometimes, but I also wanted to really know each other with sensitivity. The relationship didn't work out.
People can only open up to you as much as they've opened up to themselves, and most people don't seem to trust themselves enough to get to know themselves and see all the layers of their mind. Like shame, or anger, or fear, or judgement, certain things are chronically and habitually avoided by almost everyone it seems.
And yet to open up its so helpful to do it with another. I think this is why therapy is becomming more popular, yet doing this an hour a week isn't really a lot of time, and then we continue to have the reinforcement from others in social situations.
For years I simply avoided people who didn't seem to have much athenticity, and was lonely, but I think I needed to do that to see through myself and live more authenticlly.
It took years to find the confidence to express myself in a way that is counter to how other people seem to, to cut through the bs and show I actually care, and see, feel, that I love etc
and then it takes even more time to learn to do this in skillful ways that don't threaten others or step on their toes
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Re: stupidity is a form of assault [Re: Blue_Lux] 1
#28634759 - 01/25/24 05:41 PM (2 days, 19 hours ago) |
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People can only open up to you as much as they've opened up to themselves, and most people don't seem to trust themselves enough to get to know themselves and see all the layers of their mind. Like shame, or anger, or fear, or judgement, certain things are chronically and habitually avoided by almost everyone it seems.
People need actually someone who can break past their 'defenses,' which are really structures of association, which act with a natural defense. Notice when people are in love... They fall in love. Something pierces through to them. The unfortunate thing is the sort of defenses people can acquire... And not be able to see around them or change them. You can see this in people who constantly repeat horrible relationships with different people. It is really annoying to watch. There is a playfulness in love, but if someone isn't playful, they are going to be hard to love, even if you can see their inner playfulness, for instance. That isn't enough, because only someone else may be able to provide elements that allow all of that to come out and restrengthen. Once this happens, a person may actually think back to people who had feelings for them but they previously didn't likewise have feelings for... and may have feelings about it.
I think this is part of why so many spiritual teachers have had sexual misconduct. When you learn to get comfortable letting down your defenses, which is a large part of spiritual practice, you then start to be able to help do this with others, and they can fall in love with you but its more like they are falling in love with their reflection as you as a mirror.
This is also why therapists need strong boundaries.
Taking advantage of someone in this situation is really harmful because they've let their defenses down.
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Re: stupidity is a form of assault [Re: Rahz] 1
#28634797 - 01/25/24 06:16 PM (2 days, 19 hours ago) |
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Rahz said:
Bad drama seems better than no drama to some and in some curious manner of logic considering people trust what they know, bad drama can be more trusted than good drama.
at a certain point I realized i was creating suffering in my life in lots of ways because my mind was conditioned in an environment of suffering, and there was familiarity in that. I would return to similar circumstances because I felt I knew how to navigate and protect myself in them, even though they were miserable.
It took a scary leap of faith to try new things, still does
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