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Anonymous #1
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Question for men
#28626396 - 01/18/24 07:16 PM (9 days, 22 hours ago) |
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If a mans struggling with premature ejaculation and getting and staying hard. Why would he not take viagra? I've bought some. Asked him to take them. And doesn't take them. How do I address this?
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AspectOfTheCreator
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Theres no such thing as premature ejaculation. You always cum right when youre supposed to and whether its premature or not is determined by the other person or by society.
Sounds like someone has a porn addiction though.
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Anonymous #1
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30 seconds?
Could be porn....
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LogicaL Chaos
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Probably feels some stigma to taking them. Some guys are afraid to admit to issues they may have.
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koraks
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Anonymous #1 said: 30 seconds?
Could be porn....
That's not very uncommon, really. And no, I don't think porn is the culprit. That sounds like an out-of-the-blue suggestion with no clear empirical basis.
Time to cum varies pretty wildly in humans; anything below 15 seconds is technically considered premature. 4-8 minutes is considered typical, but many guys fall in the 15 seconds to 4 minute bracket.
@OP, I assume you've talking about it one or two times and you both have your arguments why viagra should/shouldn't be used. Could you sum it all up for us? We could guess all day but in the end, only you and your partner have the answers. Then depending on the arguments/considerations, see if there are alternative solutions or perhaps a compromise can be struck.
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Re: Question for men [Re: koraks]
#28626702 - 01/19/24 03:21 AM (9 days, 14 hours ago) |
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As long as he makes sure that you're satisfied before entering you, it's his problem if he chooses not to accept a bit of help.
Tell him to keep it in his pants until you're done!
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Anonymous #1
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He just said I don't know Makes him uncomfortable
Been happening a few years
Also said he has no interest in sex like he used to
The problem is he is the only one who orgasms
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oursoulsinmotion
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15 seconds
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Sounds like he needs what my wife and I've got. A cock locked in chastity that never cums but is kept always eager to please, and a strap on with an identical clone of my cock (though slightly shorter due to being in the strap on) that also never cums but can keep fucking her all the way through her orgasm.
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Anonymous #1
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How does it prevent ejaculation?
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Anonymous #2
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How does what prevent ejaculation?
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Freedom
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It might be treating the symptom but not the cause
it can be a really vulnerable area for men to talk about or even admit to themselves
there can be layers of defenses. identity, shame, etc
it might feel really off to him if you're suggesting a drug to treat the symptoms but haven't shown interest in the cause
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Re: Question for men [Re: Freedom]
#28626960 - 01/19/24 09:58 AM (9 days, 8 hours ago) |
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Freedom said: It might be treating the symptom but not the cause
it can be a really vulnerable area for men to talk about or even admit to themselves
there can be layers of defenses. identity, shame, etc
it might feel really off to him if you're suggesting a drug to treat the symptoms but haven't shown interest in the cause
I believe it's exactly this He has been less secure since it started
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LogicaL Chaos
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Anonymous #1 said: 30 seconds?
Could be porn....
Ironically, it could the opposite problem. For example, if a guy is horny and never watches porn or never spanks his monkey, then that guy then goes straight to penetrating a woman (arguable the most pleasurable thing a straight man can get), hes gonna blow his entire wad nearly instantanously.
Its commonly called hyper-sensitivity and one cause is a lack of regular sexual pleasure. Imagine not smoking weed for a whole year than one day taking a huuuuge dab from a dab bong. You're getting really really high. This is why some dudes have wet dreams even in adulthood, its the unconscious mind doing the work when the conscious mind neglects that D.
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Could be a combination of all. But has been going an a few years
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Hartford
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Tell him to do his Kiegel exercises (regular and reverse kiegels) as often as he can remember them and to wear a special necklace or ring to remind him. Every time during the day that he sees the ring or notices his necklace (like a sizable stone pendant necklace) he will do the kiegels and his endurance will increase.
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Anonymous #3
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Anonymous #2 said: Sounds like he needs what my wife and I've got. A cock locked in chastity that never cums but is kept always eager to please, and a strap on with an identical clone of my cock (though slightly shorter due to being in the strap on) that also never cums but can keep fucking her all the way through her orgasm.

You should get a strap to pull it close to your body and help with the back swelling. I negotiated frequent unlocks rather than permanent and the release is explosive
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koraks
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Anonymous #1 said: He just said I don't know Makes him uncomfortable
Been happening a few years
Also said he has no interest in sex like he used to
The problem is he is the only one who orgasms
Sounds like you guys have some more talking ahead of you. The "don't know" black box will have to be unpacked to see what kind of feelings and considerations are hidden in there.
Also, his lack of interest in sex is something you guys need to address; it's way more important than the ejaculation thing. Odds are something's up with your relationship/bond and it manifests in a lack of interest in sex, but part of the problem is likely elsewhere.
Time for some thorough 360 degree analysis of your relationship and some brutal honesty with yourselves.
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Anonymous #1
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Ii think he's got medical stuff going on and refuses to see a dr
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koraks
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Anonymous #1 said: Ii think he's got medical stuff going on and refuses to see a dr
Maybe. Maybe not. You don't know until you have a straight talk together.
Your problem so far is evidently lack of effective communication. I'd work on that first because there's not a whole lot you can do until you improve that aspect of your relationship.
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