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christopera
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Purple sunset] 3
#28624396 - 01/17/24 09:49 AM (11 days, 5 hours ago) |
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I just divorced, well it was over a year ago, and I have managed to find a person I'd consider my girlfriend. I will say, I met so many women that would share their number. We'd talk about going out, would cross paths in overlapping social scenes, then nothing. Gone in a week. Then when I see them again I always make a habit of asking when we would get that date in. Not because I want it, but I want them to think about the fact they ghosted me instead of saying, "hey, it's not going to work out." And i'd be like "okay, cool, very nice to get to know a little bit. Good luck!"
Anyways, I find it pretty easy to talk to women. I am 5'6", a little overweight (not terrible), 38 and divorced as a single father, but I try to present semi well. The point is, I am not some stud of a man the pussy just falls into my lap, I have to work for it. If I see a woman I find attractive at like a concert and I get chance to say hi I just do it. Even stupid tricks like thumb wrestling a woman or playing hot hands can get you in the door. A while back I brought home a 56 year old from out of state simply by asking her if she wanted to hear a joke. The joke was an original written by me, that started the convo, a few hours later we were smashing. We've kept in touch, but I am a little taken now. You have to put yourself in social situations that attract women you like. For me, I kind of follow around local jam band scene as there a lot of single women in my dateable age group. Yes some have kids, but I have one too. Not having kids and not wanting the mate to have kids at these ages are really limiting your range of options. Also, I have never done datings apps. They are a waste of time, but when I have told women this they often find it attractive. It's adds exclusivity, they know you aren't trying to fuck around. So tell them you don't use the apps, that its nice to meet them, and ask for a number. Start some sort of convo before that. Or something.
Finally, as for the girlfriend, we met at my sons bus stop. She asked me for coffee. We didn't go too hard for a while, but things are getting there now. It's nice that we are neighbors too. We get to sneak around while the kids are off to school or whatever. haha
Long story short, it's all about demographics and find your way to get the ones you like. It could be as simple as Dungeon and Dragons, Magic the Gather, festivals, weed.
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GenesisCorrupted
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: christopera]
#28625138 - 01/17/24 07:23 PM (10 days, 19 hours ago) |
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So let me get this straight. You’re going to tell us this great life advice. But you aren’t going to tell the joke?!
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christopera
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I never claimed to write great jokes, though I do often write jokes.
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Patlal] 3
#28625157 - 01/17/24 07:35 PM (10 days, 19 hours ago) |
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Just don't sex.
21 year old virgin, so speaking from experience. Sex is overrated, try drugs instead!
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Peopleschoice] 1
#28625170 - 01/17/24 07:38 PM (10 days, 19 hours ago) |
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Somethings are just better left unknown
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GenesisCorrupted
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Peopleschoice] 2
#28625175 - 01/17/24 07:40 PM (10 days, 19 hours ago) |
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Peopleschoice said: Just don't sex.
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Patlal]
#28625217 - 01/17/24 08:01 PM (10 days, 18 hours ago) |
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Try meeting people in person instead of online. Online dating is hell, don't do it. Meet people in person instead. Any kind of in-person dating is better than every kind of online dating put together.
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Big_Dub
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In my 30s. I am a smart, tall attractive man. I have no problems talking to girls... my problem is I just live outside of town.
I drive into town for work and then head home to take care of my animals. On the weekends I usually gotta do housework.
I have a great living situation and I'm saving lots of cash, but at the expense of not being able to meet lots of people.
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Big_Dub]
#28625297 - 01/17/24 08:53 PM (10 days, 18 hours ago) |
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Big_Dub said: In my 30s. I am a smart, tall attractive man. I have no problems talking to girls... my problem is I just live outside of town.
I drive into town for work and then head home to take care of my animals. On the weekends I usually gotta do housework.
I have a great living situation and I'm saving lots of cash, but at the expense of not being able to meet lots of people.
Are you me minus the animals? Lol
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Big_Dub]
#28625298 - 01/17/24 08:54 PM (10 days, 18 hours ago) |
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I thinking meeting girls (or guys) in person instead of online is good advice. I find that people are usually very different in real life compared to their online persona. It really sucks to talk to someone for quite a while, only to find that you are not attracted to them when you meet. And I don't mean they looking nothing like their pictures that they showed you. They can be totally ok-looking in real life but somehow you just aren't attracted. This to me is a huge time-waster.
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Big_Dub
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Joh.Ke]
#28625367 - 01/17/24 10:15 PM (10 days, 16 hours ago) |
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I know it's an excuse, but I am a teacher so I am talking all day long. So by the end of the day I am mentally exhausted and the last thing I want to do is try to meet people.
I have been trying to go to a coffee shop and do something for about an hr b4 I go home tho. I go to gym about 5 days a week, but not really trying to meet people there
Small town living is great, but not for meeting ppl
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Big_Dub]
#28625372 - 01/17/24 10:25 PM (10 days, 16 hours ago) |
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Quote:
Big_Dub said: I know it's an excuse, but I am a teacher so I am talking all day long. So by the end of the day I am mentally exhausted and the last thing I want to do is try to meet people.
I have been trying to go to a coffee shop and do something for about an hr b4 I go home tho. I go to gym about 5 days a week, but not really trying to meet people there
Small town living is great, but not for meeting ppl
Same
I don't like talking at the gym
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: Patlal] 1
#28625375 - 01/17/24 10:34 PM (10 days, 16 hours ago) |
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I'm 38 and I'm still not sure if I wanna date anyone my life got too fucked up......
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: JonBongGroovy]
#28626351 - 01/18/24 06:38 PM (9 days, 20 hours ago) |
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Being a grown up is fucking lonely. All your friends are at work, you can't meet anyone because they're at work or they're at home because they're too tired from work. Nobody has time to make friends. It's bullshit.
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^ But how much is that unique to our generation. What happened to the days when the clan would get together and PARTY!!!?
Now everyone stays inside, eats an edible, and plugs their brain into a device.
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OutsideOfMyMind said: Being a grown up is fucking lonely. All your friends are at work, you can't meet anyone because they're at work or they're at home because they're too tired from work. Nobody has time to make friends. It's bullshit.
I have designated days to hang out with some of my friends. A lot of times I'll just have one of my good friends come over and chill at my place, no need to go out and do stuff.
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Big_Dub
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Re: Dating in your 30s is hard as fuck. [Re: spirit_shadow]
#28626449 - 01/18/24 08:27 PM (9 days, 18 hours ago) |
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My long time friends either have kids/wife (understandable) or never amounted to anything i.e. no job, money, etc
I made lots of friends during uni, but geography separates us
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