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mandrax360 said: When I first met my wife she earned more than me . From the day we moved in together we opened a joint bank account and went 50/50 on bills, paying more into the account than what was needed as a nest egg .
A year later we bought a house together knowing that after that year of renting we could live together. By this time I was earning more so I suggested we just have 2 joint accounts, 1 for bills and savings and 1 for spending. We have never looked back, relationships are about trust. 20 years later and I never question her on what she spends nor does she ever question me .
We have friends who have been married years who have separate accounts and all they ever do is argue about 💰 . If you truly love your wife money shouldn't make any difference. Till death do us part doesn't seem to have much meaning in this day and age.
No judging, just my opinion. It's only money, I'd still love my wife if we were homeless and begging for money.
I'm in 22 years and we just dump our money into one account and let it go where we want it to. Neither of us is an overspender, so no worries there. It would feel weird to argue about money or be concerned about it.
That said, what I read from OP was a wife who offloaded her cost of insurance on to him even though they had an agreement and it cost more in long run (sounds selfish and, worse, dumb) and also wants full access to his cash while the relationship is crashing after only a year.
I'd limit all losses and cut bait before she tries the baby trap. Saw that happen to a friend. His wife quit working within days of finding out she was pregnant. She admitted years later that she got pregnant to "save the relationship" and faked a hard pregnancy so she could get extra attention and stay home. Kids are all in school now and she still stays home on her fat ass all day while he works OT to pay for her daily Dunkin. He's miserable. Says he doesn't love her, never did.
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