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Anonymous #5
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You said it yourself. Forgiveness is about moving on. Sometimes we have to move on before we forgive. Whether it is ourselves or someone else
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Anonymous #1
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Precisely. It’s just not good for you to carry around a grudge. It’s better to just move past it.
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Anonymous #7
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True Forgiveness is offered more for your own mental health hygiene than as a trophy for the forgiven.
When you truly forgive someone you release the anxiety, hatred, anger, animosity, and other negative emotions that you are harboring within yourself. This cleans up the negative and allows you to focus on the positive aspects in your life that you want to own.
Always be careful not to be manipulated by narcissistic or "dark triad" user type personalities though. Just because you forgave them doesn't mean that you need them in your life, in many situations it is much easier to forgive someone and end all relationship with them as well.
For example if you forgive you gf or bf for cheating on you that doesn't mean that you will take back, especially if the relationship has been toxic. In this situation Forgiveness can mean that you have also acknowledged its time to move on.
Another example would be forgiving a friend from stealing from you. That doesn't mean you leave them alone in your house or car, in fact you may never let them in your home or car again, but that doesn't mean you haven't forgiven them.
Forgiving a bad person for doing bad things is something we all learn to do at some level.
Forgiving is not forgetting and never let someone manipulate you because you want them to know that you have forgiven them, it's not always important that someone know you have forgiven them, especially if it's important for them to know that you can never forget their actions.
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Anonymous #5
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Quote:
Anonymous #7 said: True Forgiveness is offered more for your own mental health hygiene than as a trophy for the forgiven.
When you truly forgive someone you release the anxiety, hatred, anger, animosity, and other negative emotions that you are harboring within yourself. This cleans up the negative and allows you to focus on the positive aspects in your life that you want to own.
Always be careful not to be manipulated by narcissistic or "dark triad" user type personalities though. Just because you forgave them doesn't mean that you need them in your life, in many situations it is much easier to forgive someone and end all relationship with them as well.
For example if you forgive you gf or bf for cheating on you that doesn't mean that you will take back, especially if the relationship has been toxic. In this situation Forgiveness can mean that you have also acknowledged its time to move on.
Another example would be forgiving a friend from stealing from you. That doesn't mean you leave them alone in your house or car, in fact you may never let them in your home or car again, but that doesn't mean you haven't forgiven them.
Forgiving a bad person for doing bad things is something we all learn to do at some level.
Forgiving is not forgetting and never let someone manipulate you because you want them to know that you have forgiven them, it's not always important that someone know you have forgiven them, especially if it's important for them to know that you can never forget their actions.
You better listen to him
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Anonymous #5
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I've had lots of women try to manipulate me into abusive relationships by begging for my forgiveness in their own ways after doing something "unforgiveable". I forgave them the next day and just ran from the relationship lmao. Up sides to being raised by strong women I guess
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