Home | Community | Message Board


This site includes paid links. Please support our sponsors.


Welcome to the Shroomery Message Board! You are experiencing a small sample of what the site has to offer. Please login or register to post messages and view our exclusive members-only content. You'll gain access to additional forums, file attachments, board customizations, encrypted private messages, and much more!

Shop: PhytoExtractum Maeng Da Thai Kratom Leaf Powder   Unfolding Nature Unfolding Nature: Being in the Implicate Order   Kraken Kratom Red Vein Kratom

Jump to first unread post Pages: < Back | 1 | 2 | 3 | Next >  [ show all ]
Anonymous #3

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1] * 3
    #28614937 - 01/09/24 08:01 AM (18 days, 11 hours ago)

No surprises really.  I'm a little kinky, not too much into bdsm stuff although I do like to play a little rough sometimes and really enjoy seeing my woman recieve pleasure.  I wish our relationship was better so it could happen more often.  We used to talk a little about threesomes but she said it could only be mfm and she wouldn't do fmf because she couldn't "share me".  I'd be willing to do mfm but not if she's unwilling to go the other way

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
84% Experimentalist
79% Voyeur
78% Switch
77% Non-monogamist
75% Dominant
74% Degrader
71% Master/Mistress
67% Rigger
64% Exhibitionist
51% Sadist
42% Primal (Hunter)
38% Vanilla
37% Submissive
33% Brat tamer
33% Brat
30% Owner
30% Rope bunny
21% Primal (Prey)
16% Masochist
9% Daddy/Mommy
6% Degradee
0% Ageplayer
0% Boy/Girl
0% Pet
0% Slave


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #28615130 - 01/09/24 11:24 AM (18 days, 7 hours ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #3 said:
No surprises really.  I'm a little kinky, not too much into bdsm stuff although I do like to play a little rough sometimes and really enjoy seeing my woman recieve pleasure.  I wish our relationship was better so it could happen more often.  We used to talk a little about threesomes but she said it could only be mfm and she wouldn't do fmf because she couldn't "share me".  I'd be willing to do mfm but not if she's unwilling to go the other way

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
84% Experimentalist
79% Voyeur
78% Switch
77% Non-monogamist
75% Dominant
74% Degrader
71% Master/Mistress
67% Rigger
64% Exhibitionist
51% Sadist
42% Primal (Hunter)
38% Vanilla
37% Submissive
33% Brat tamer
33% Brat
30% Owner
30% Rope bunny
21% Primal (Prey)
16% Masochist
9% Daddy/Mommy
6% Degradee
0% Ageplayer
0% Boy/Girl
0% Pet
0% Slave



It seems like that is a common theme.

Why do you think women are not comfortable sharing their partner with another woman, but men are comfortable sharing their partner with another person?


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleSARAtonin
Violent Dreams
Female User Gallery

Registered: 09/28/11
Posts: 15,907
Loc: Deutschland
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #28615135 - 01/09/24 11:28 AM (18 days, 7 hours ago)

I wouldn’t say that’s true.

I’m a women and I’m poly. :shrug:

How I see it, it mostly just comes down to a persons jealousies/ insecurities. Also, non-monogamy just isn’t for some people, and that’s completely fine.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: SARAtonin]
    #28615140 - 01/09/24 11:35 AM (18 days, 7 hours ago)

Have you noticed some are more comfortable then others?

I am not familiar with poly relationships. My experience was swingers, at a sex club, groups,etc.

It was predominantly, women that shared or exhibited they were more uncomfortable sharing.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
InvisibleSARAtonin
Violent Dreams
Female User Gallery

Registered: 09/28/11
Posts: 15,907
Loc: Deutschland
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #28615187 - 01/09/24 12:19 PM (18 days, 6 hours ago)

By some do you mean people in general, or those within my polycule? I’ll assume the latter.

My polycule is really just three people, me, my wife, and our girlfriend. (I hate to call her that, we’d all three be married if the laws allowed it) Most polycules are a lot larger and more complicated, I prefer the dynamic we have. I guess I also have a side sub, but we aren’t exactly romantically involved, that’s not to say I don’t care for her, because I do, deeply, but I mostly just hook up with her for kink purposes that my other partners can not fully satisfy. But to answer your question, no, I feel like everyone is on the same page and very comfortable with the arrangement we have. We are all extremely invested in one another and don’t mind the occasional hookup. For instance, over the past few years our “girl friend” has been schooling in America while my wife and I have been spending most of our time in Canada and Europe. We don’t care if she has hookups in college, and she doesn’t care if we take someone home with up from the club.

To copy and paste something I wrote on discord a few days ago on the subject…

Quote:

To me, poly means loving your partner(s) to the extent you always want what’s best for them and understanding and accepting that you aren’t always going to be what’s best for them. You can be the best human possible but you alone will not always be the answer for what a person needs 100% of the time. It’s recognizing that you do not own your partner(s) and they should be able to make their own decisions to take what comfort they need when and how they need it and being able to get past the internalized jealousy involved in that because you know your partner(s) love you just as deeply.




--------------------
God kills indiscriminately and so shall we. For no creatures under God are as we are none so like him as ourselves.

Want to join a cult? Click for details…


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #3

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28615191 - 01/09/24 12:23 PM (18 days, 6 hours ago)

Quote:

Anonymous #1 said:
Quote:

Anonymous #3 said:
No surprises really.  I'm a little kinky, not too much into bdsm stuff although I do like to play a little rough sometimes and really enjoy seeing my woman recieve pleasure.  I wish our relationship was better so it could happen more often.  We used to talk a little about threesomes but she said it could only be mfm and she wouldn't do fmf because she couldn't "share me".  I'd be willing to do mfm but not if she's unwilling to go the other way

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
84% Experimentalist
79% Voyeur
78% Switch
77% Non-monogamist
75% Dominant
74% Degrader
71% Master/Mistress
67% Rigger
64% Exhibitionist
51% Sadist
42% Primal (Hunter)
38% Vanilla
37% Submissive
33% Brat tamer
33% Brat
30% Owner
30% Rope bunny
21% Primal (Prey)
16% Masochist
9% Daddy/Mommy
6% Degradee
0% Ageplayer
0% Boy/Girl
0% Pet
0% Slave



It seems like that is a common theme.

Why do you think women are not comfortable sharing their partner with another woman, but men are comfortable sharing their partner with another person?




My experience is that women are less secure and men are more willing to risk things for a reward. It’s just our nature


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #4

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #3] * 1
    #28615206 - 01/09/24 12:34 PM (18 days, 6 hours ago)

My partner (f) and I (m) played with a rule where she is only allowed to sleep with another man if I fuck his butt first. She loved that idea. Most men do not.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #3

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #4] * 1
    #28615270 - 01/09/24 01:20 PM (18 days, 5 hours ago)

:lolsy:


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflinePatchouli_Savage
 User Gallery

Registered: 12/26/13
Posts: 712
Loc: Somewhere between here an...
Last seen: 3 hours, 20 minutes
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #3] * 2
    #28615297 - 01/09/24 01:48 PM (18 days, 5 hours ago)



--------------------
"You are a ghost driving a meat coated skeleton made from stardust. What do you have to be scared of?"


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #3

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Patchouli_Savage] * 1
    #28615303 - 01/09/24 01:57 PM (18 days, 5 hours ago)

That’s a nice list of 100s. I bet you’re fun to be with


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineLogicaL ChaosM
Ascension Energy & Alien UFOs
Male User Gallery


Folding@home Statistics
Registered: 05/12/07
Posts: 69,297
Loc: The Inexpressible...
Last seen: 2 hours, 28 minutes
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28616053 - 01/10/24 07:12 AM (17 days, 12 hours ago)

In my limited experience, straight women seem to be more possessive of their partners than straight men :shrug: But if the woman is kinky, they seem to be more open about sharing their male partner.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: SARAtonin]
    #28616064 - 01/10/24 07:21 AM (17 days, 11 hours ago)

Interesting observation.
Kinkier is more open to being less possessive?


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #3

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #28616070 - 01/10/24 07:26 AM (17 days, 11 hours ago)

Close but I think more to the point, being kinky leads one to being more open minded


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Anonymous #1

Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: SARAtonin]
    #28616077 - 01/10/24 07:34 AM (17 days, 11 hours ago)

I agree with that
You assume that you would need to be open to the kinks


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflinePatchouli_Savage
 User Gallery

Registered: 12/26/13
Posts: 712
Loc: Somewhere between here an...
Last seen: 3 hours, 20 minutes
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Anonymous #1] * 3
    #28616480 - 01/10/24 02:40 PM (17 days, 4 hours ago)

I was non-monogamous before I got to the level of kinky I have achieved. Kink has gotten more in depth as I've explored. I've gotten better at non-monogamy as I've aged simply because I've improved my communication skills and experienced life, as well as gotten to know myself better.

I've met kinky people who are very monogamous and non-monogamous people who are extremely vanilla. In my experience, it is unreliable to make assumptions about either of these things based on the other.

Most of my non-monogamous/ENM/Poly friends are women. Openly trying to date ENM men has decreased my prospects significantly, and most of the men I do meet lately who are ENM/poly became that way in their current relationship.

For me, kink and non-monogamy aren't really related, other than being open to having more vanilla partners from time to time, since I still have room to explore kink with others. If I was monogamous, a lack of kink in relationships would be a deal breaker.

Edit: typos


--------------------
"You are a ghost driving a meat coated skeleton made from stardust. What do you have to be scared of?"


Edited by Patchouli_Savage (01/10/24 06:00 PM)


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineJoh.Ke
Stranger
Registered: 07/03/23
Posts: 346
Last seen: 4 hours, 51 seconds
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Patchouli_Savage]
    #28618980 - 01/12/24 05:37 PM (15 days, 1 hour ago)

Ah yes, the BDSM lifestyle and other related kinks.

I remember being very much into it when I was 16.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineLogicaL ChaosM
Ascension Energy & Alien UFOs
Male User Gallery


Folding@home Statistics
Registered: 05/12/07
Posts: 69,297
Loc: The Inexpressible...
Last seen: 2 hours, 28 minutes
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Joh.Ke] * 2
    #28619036 - 01/12/24 06:18 PM (15 days, 57 minutes ago)

It was a phase for you? You went vanilla afterwords? :strokebeard:


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineJoh.Ke
Stranger
Registered: 07/03/23
Posts: 346
Last seen: 4 hours, 51 seconds
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28619040 - 01/12/24 06:22 PM (15 days, 53 minutes ago)

Quote:

LogicaL Chaos said:
It was a phase for you? You went vanilla afterwords? :strokebeard:




It was definitely a phase for me.  And I didn't go vanilla.  I kind of just drifted to other interests that were way more interesting.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineLogicaL ChaosM
Ascension Energy & Alien UFOs
Male User Gallery


Folding@home Statistics
Registered: 05/12/07
Posts: 69,297
Loc: The Inexpressible...
Last seen: 2 hours, 28 minutes
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: Joh.Ke] * 1
    #28619132 - 01/12/24 08:04 PM (14 days, 23 hours ago)

I see. New kinks? Care to share?


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
OfflineJoh.Ke
Stranger
Registered: 07/03/23
Posts: 346
Last seen: 4 hours, 51 seconds
Re: BDSM Test/ Kink Thread [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28619155 - 01/12/24 08:37 PM (14 days, 22 hours ago)

Quote:

LogicaL Chaos said:
I see. New kinks? Care to share?




Naw.

Things that aren't sexual.


Extras: Filter Print Post Top
Jump to top Pages: < Back | 1 | 2 | 3 | Next >  [ show all ]

Shop: PhytoExtractum Maeng Da Thai Kratom Leaf Powder   Unfolding Nature Unfolding Nature: Being in the Implicate Order   Kraken Kratom Red Vein Kratom


Similar ThreadsPosterViewsRepliesLast post
* BDSM
( 1 2 all )
AsAboveSoBelow 1,657 35 05/15/15 03:24 PM
by Beanhead
* BDSM Parties Spiderwort 626 6 12/12/10 01:47 PM
by Seuss
* meeting a girl from fetlife for bdsm play Anonymous 1,458 13 04/19/11 09:34 AM
by Tri High
* Something about kink clubs, especially bdsm stuff Lennyk 1,454 5 09/05/10 01:23 PM
by iEATsingularities
* is it just me *DELETED* Anonymous 384 7 09/05/11 03:34 AM
by koraks
* S&M, manipulation & fear Anonymous 1,099 17 01/28/11 10:27 AM
by dummy
* Forced weight gain fetish
( 1 2 all )
Anonymous 7,344 23 06/12/11 06:24 PM
by Le_Canard
* Just came on her face
( 1 2 all )
Anonymous 3,208 38 06/18/11 08:28 AM
by Harry Jackson

Extra information
You cannot start new topics / You cannot reply to topics
HTML is disabled / BBCode is enabled
Moderator: Middleman, Shroomism, automan, yogabunny, CookieCrumbs
697 topic views. 0 members, 0 guests and 2 web crawlers are browsing this forum.
[ Show Images Only | Sort by Score | Print Topic ]
Search this thread:

Copyright 1997-2024 Mind Media. Some rights reserved.

Generated in 0.027 seconds spending 0.005 seconds on 14 queries.