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GenesisCorrupted said: When you present a trait, aspect, intelligence, anything really that someone doesn’t.
You can be subjected to bullying....
do you mean that we hide our differences to escape being bullied?
that is possible, I have hidden my strangeness to avoid going against the waves of my social cohort (school work etc.), not to the extent of Woody Allen in Zelig (which I thought was brilliant!), but to save upsetting all the sensitive egos around me. Usually I found a way to contribute curiosities that others could use as their own.
I am different, but have rarely been bullied, and I have not picked on the defenseless.
I think the Bully is a kind of black hole of self-esteem-less-ness, who picks on whoever he/she thinks will not fight back.
BTW do you know why the Krampus has bull horns?
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I am fascinated by how people portray themselves in their avatars, with or without sarcasm, (you suggest it relates to the anti-santa meme). then the The psychology of the bully thread pops up, with a twist on victim blaming, such that being an outlier exposes one to bullying which is an urge to harm the different person that we should expect is out there?.
In contrast to your idea, I think the real psychology is not about being a victim, but about being a person of low esteem and lashing out at those who may not fight back.
I am not calling you a bully as such, but - no bull, your new sarcastic avatar has bull horns and your new post is about bullying so <--> ? it's funny, I point out things ok?!
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Blue_Lux]
#28595480 - 12/23/23 04:22 PM (1 month, 4 days ago) |
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that's what my uncle did for a living.
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GenesisCorrupted said: ... Why do people call others names when they disagree with them?
I think that should’ve been the first question?
in this convo, this question could be ambiguous; or you could be wondering why I was calling you a bully by mentioning your avatar. (and not calling you names at all)
Fine, perhaps it meant something different, my words still mean what I said, and I still find it funny that you don't see a dream symbol in your avatar that popped out in a subsequent thread title that you posted.
Not that such things as dream symbols always mean anything that they might appear to mean.
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what is known as Narcissism often comes out as bullying too.
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Freedom]
#28596826 - 12/24/23 05:09 PM (1 month, 3 days ago) |
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believing in something is never a choice. (not that anything is) people should not be made to believe things, is probably what GC is talking about, and I agree with that (truly a form of bullying). but honestly we do not choose to believe things.
We pick up the practice from others around us, and then become confirmed, barmitzva'd, re baptized, and publicly endorsed as believers in traditional ceremonies even if we are not actually in synch with all that stuff.
and the things that some people actually come to believe are really astonishing: crazy conspiracies, and some really obtuse political concepts. I cannot imagine people choosing to be so stupid.
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Blue_Lux]
#28596840 - 12/24/23 05:25 PM (1 month, 3 days ago) |
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I am a bit concerned about the knocking over of a pile of blocks - a kind of bull-ish play behavior. should I be concerned when a 3 year old loves knocking things over, especially if asked not to do that.
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Blue_Lux]
#28597074 - 12/24/23 08:40 PM (1 month, 3 days ago) |
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bon voyagee have a great holiday
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Nillion] 1
#28599768 - 12/27/23 12:27 PM (1 month, 1 day ago) |
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Nillion said:... typically bullies are taught, falsely, that fear is the same as respect.
This really resonates with me. brrrr arughh!
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Asante]
#28599898 - 12/27/23 02:37 PM (1 month, 22 hours ago) |
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a bit like OCD? pausing to check the self esteem levels? then checking again in case it slips? who knows, I might have sprung an oil leak! surely my gaskets are not that dry.
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Asante] 2
#28600023 - 12/27/23 04:35 PM (1 month, 20 hours ago) |
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I'm full of myself too, but also I'm full of others, mostly I'm pretty empty, but I feel full from Christmas.
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Re: The psychology of the bully [Re: Rahz]
#28600084 - 12/27/23 05:26 PM (1 month, 20 hours ago) |
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family - 70% christian
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vermin
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