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Robinlovesall
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STICKY SITUATION 🤯
#28590532 - 12/19/23 09:17 PM (1 month, 8 days ago) |
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Alright so I'm in sort of a sticky situation and may need some input from an outside source. So I started working at a bar a couple months ago as a bouncer and one day a week they host bingo. The lady that hosts bingo is an attractive woman and after a couple weeks of some joking and banter and small flirting(on my part just cause I'm a naturally flirty and charming guy) she started hugging me when she was leaving for the night. In my mind I know this cant go anywhere and it's all friendly even though I have fantasized about her. But I mean, I'm 27 years old, she is in her mid 40s I believe. She has a daughter that's 23 who comes in to the bar also whose pretty cool. We talk and joke around a lot too but that's all. Now it's a college bar and since it's break and not busy they canceled bingo until the end of January when break is over. So the last day last week she gave me an extra long and tight hug and when she was leaving she was saying to be careful on my motorcycle and I said I will and I'd let you know but I won't see you for a while. She said I could and if I had Facebook. I said no but if she wants my number she can take it. We looked at each other for like 4 seconds lustfully as if we were nothing thinking "this is probably a bad idea but I want this" and she said alright what's your number. (This is where I realized things were serious) so she left and we started talking and I openly flirting and confessing feelings for each other. Here's the kicker. She's freaking married!! We both keep saying how we know this is wrong and shouldn't be happening but we're both attracted to each other and this is where we are right now. We've been talking every single day since then. At some point when she can plan it we're supposed to meet up somewhere. And I know how bad I am for longing for a married woman but I wasn't expecting to like her this much. I'm at a point where I could fall in love with her any day now cause I'm someone who falls in love very quickly with someone. The shortest time I fell in love with someone was 2 days after meeting a girl. And I've told her this and she said that neither one if us better not fall in love with the other. But I think thats her wall talking and subconsciously she might already be falling for me. I just have no idea what to do at this point. I know I should probably stop before we both go too far but I really don't want to. She's so phenomenal and breathtaking. And I'm not sure if this me not wanting to stop has to do with the fact that I've always wanted to be with a milf or I'm genuinely falling for her. But either way it's so wrong cause she's married 😭 lol I don't even know why I made this post cause I don't know if anything will convince me to stop but man I had to get this off my chest cause I can't talk about it anywhere else . Ugh God must be testing me and my temptation to just!
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Fridgedoor
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I think you posting this is a sign that part of you knows that it's probably not a good idea to start an affair with a married woman. If you go ahead the result will very likely be a painful experience for everyone involved.
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Robinlovesall
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Fridgedoor said: I think you posting this is a sign that part of you knows that it's probably not a good idea to start an affair with a married woman. If you go ahead the result will very likely be a painful experience for everyone involved.
Ugh. You are right. But the attention and affection feels good. It's not like I intended to go after a married woman. It just happened and very fast. But I definitely don't want to get hurt. Or to hurt anyone in the process
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Yeah, it surely sucks to find out about her being married after you got exited about the situation. Emotions make it difficult to make a rational decision and that's why it's good to get another perspective from someone who isn't involved.
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Robinlovesall
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Fridgedoor said: Yeah, it surely sucks to find out about her being married after you got exited about the situation. Emotions make it difficult to make a rational decision and that's why it's good to get another perspective from someone who isn't involved.
Thanks man. Much appreciated!
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I don't see how it could end well. Potentially extremely bad You'll do what you want but consider the end result first
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Keep in mind that some men, when finding out their woman is sleeping with someone else, enter a murderous rage. Others plot and scheme the downfall of the other for weeks, months, or years. To put it plain and simple: no pussy is that good. Find something fresh bro.
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Robinlovesall
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loladoreen said: I don't see how it could end well. Potentially extremely bad You'll do what you want but consider the end result first
I shall consider the end result. She's even mentioned this a few times that this could lead to trouble and we should consider the consequences but yet we still continue so idk. I think because I've had such shitty luck with love the last couple years, last year getting my heart broken and only just getting over her this past fall, I am enjoying the attention and affection I'm receiving😞
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Robinlovesall
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Roflspammer said: Keep in mind that some men, when finding out their woman is sleeping with someone else, enter a murderous rage. Others plot and scheme the downfall of the other for weeks, months, or years. To put it plain and simple: no pussy is that good. Find something fresh bro.
Oh bro I've thought about that for sure. Her husband actually came into the bar one time and I kinda already analyzed him and know I can take him in a fight. But obviously plotting is a whole different ball game. I really don't want that kind of trouble and no pussy is definitely that good. But because I'm the kind of person who doesn't think or worry about the worst case scenario until it happens,(cause it might not happen so why waste time worrying about it) I think thats why it hasn't scared me enough to stop
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Anonymous #1
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Ask yourself if you're willing to risk it all for her to ride into the sunset with her? Because in the end Husband will hunt you down And she will be in love You will be in the crossfire Attention is awesome Not worth risking your life, occupation and sanity Find another
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Robinlovesall
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Anonymous #1 said: Ask yourself if you're willing to risk it all for her to ride into the sunset with her? Because in the end Husband will hunt you down And she will be in love You will be in the crossfire Attention is awesome Not worth risking your life, occupation and sanity Find another
You are so right. I'm not definitely not trying to break up a family or steal another man's wife. It's just the the rush from all of this has my mind all distorted with doing what's right and chasing my desires 😭
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Just avoid it brah
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Anonymous #1
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I feel you. The excitement is addictive I'm convinced I will most definitely have an affair But My partner knows and we have an understanding I could never be with someone committed to another I have not done it.... yet But it'll happen I don't even know if it's considered an affair But.. idk what id call it My rule in life Don't hurt others
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Listen I hear you.
If you cannot be “loyal” and have a partner that gave you green light you’re a lucky individual. But just be aware of your surroundings Make sure the vibes don’t start negatively impacting lives.
That’s the ripple effect
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Robinlovesall
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Re: STICKY SITUATION 🤯 [Re: Jewstress]
#28592444 - 12/21/23 07:53 AM (1 month, 7 days ago) |
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Your so right. I need to avoid it but I don't know why I don't have the strength. And I'm definitely not trying to hurt anyone. On top of all this I get a text from a girl from my last job. I scribbled out the names for privacy but apparently the three girls I worked with were talking about me and I guess think I was playing them somehow? Not entirely sure. Neither one of us where dating or together so I don't see how I did anything wrong here. But being a ladies man sure is biting me in the ass really hard rn 😭😭
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Robinlovesall
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At least you guys have an understanding with each other. That's definitely the healthier way to go about it so no parties get hurt. Your a lucky person I'd say lol
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Anonymous #1
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I just realized how triggered was by i don't like your tone Im a very direct person That would of annoyed me Now im asking myself why it would of bothered me Lol
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Robinlovesall
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Anonymous #1 said: I just realized how triggered was by i don't like your tone Im a very direct person That would of annoyed me Now im asking myself why it would of bothered me Lol
Oh trust me I am too lol and I was contemplating just ignoring her after that of even after she said "I was talking to so and so" I was gonna say "and?" But knew that would've made it worse and didn't feel like fighting with her. Plus I wanted to tell her what really happend and defend myself cause I for sure was not trying to get with all of them at once. But either way in my mind that's not even important. That's ancient history that has no meaning to me right now, the only thing I'm worried about is this potential affair that may or may not happen 😭
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Anonymous #1
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Be cautious. The end result will never be good. There is no way it works out unless you plan on marrying her. And even if you did there will still be crazy drama. No husband would be ok with this. And they all react differently. I was surprised by my own reaction... your tone? Are they young girls?
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Robinlovesall
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Anonymous #1 said: Be cautious. The end result will never be good. There is no way it works out unless you plan on marrying her. And even if you did there will still be crazy drama. No husband would be ok with this. And they all react differently. I was surprised by my own reaction... your tone? Are they young girls?
Your so right. I'm going to rethink this whole situation deeply. And younger than me. Im 27 and the other girls are 20, 23 and 24. Big difference to the 46 year old I'm dealing with right now lol
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