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If someone were to say to a heterosexual married couple, just after they were confessing their love for each other, "Yes, I respect what you both have, that is your preference," It would be like... Uhh... "Was that passive aggressive?" Such a thing can only be a belittlement. Love is not some arbitrary preference, as if shopping around in a candy store you get a pack of lifesavers instead of a candy cane according to your quest for pleasure. I have received all kinds of the most insane statements concerning my marriage and homosexuality. "I respect your preference," "I don't understand it, but I accept it," "So who is the girl and who is the guy?" "Who is the top and who is the bottom?" I have heard this from countless people. And they don't really mean anything by it. It is really THAT foreign to them. Imagine someone saying "I don't understand it, but I accept it" to a straight couple. They would likely think this person was being disingenuous. "So something is telling you we are not fit for each other?"
The premise "I don't understand it" however takes a certain amount of disregard for whatever understanding exists of it. It really can communicate "I don't believe there is anything to understand about your relationship, but I am not going to judge you."
I have heard many times after someone finds out we are together "The only person who can judge you is God."
Like... Okay if this happened 5 times I would take the advice of people and write it off as something superfluous. But 500-1000 times?
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Blue_Lux
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i dont watch much TV. I will check that show out.
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If someone says to you, after a condition with the word 'but,' that they are not going to judge you then this can only mean they have already judged you. There is an unconscious fact in play which makes them think they have not actually judged you, and this is the unconscious discrepancy existing in their mind between what they themselves can mimic or understand as whatever would conform with their own actual body movements and cognitions. This is furthermore part of Freud's explanation of the joke-work, as for instance when you go to pick something up that you expected to be heavy, only to find out it was much lighter. This provokes laughter because of a discrepancy between a perceived expenditure of energy and the actual. The excess, for Freud, is channeled into laughter. It is, how I see it, the unperceived but intuited excess, which is the actuality of homosexuality, that provides the discrepancy between judging and having yet to judge, precisely because a person "Is not God," and they are not omniscient, which would render the unconscious knowledge explicit and understood, and capable of being authentically judged. It has already been unconsciously judged.
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redgreenvines
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you grew a beard?
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Blue_Lux
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lol why do you ask
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Pinkerton
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redgreenvines said: you grew a beard?
We are one!
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Blue_Lux
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Did you find these reflections revealing or have you considered something like this before?
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You have yourself a fan boy RGV
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Re: nudity [Re: Bardy]
#28572886 - 12/07/23 01:53 PM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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I am a velcro entity
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redgreenvines
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do you have pinky on ignore? He just said he grew a beard, In this way progress is slow, but encouraging.
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ive ignored nichrome, wolf and flickedbic
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Blue_Lux
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Re: nudity [Re: Bardy]
#28572907 - 12/07/23 02:12 PM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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Even though half the time RGV doesn't even answer me.
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redgreenvines
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honestly I have a buckshot shield, and am not perpetually pressing refresh, but I am honestly trying to be fair (to myself) as well as entertaining.
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Re: nudity [Re: Bardy]
#28572959 - 12/07/23 03:10 PM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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Bardy said: You have yourself a fan boy RGV
I am going to save RGV's (and many more) so dunno about me being a fanboy.
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Blue_Lux
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What do you mean by save?
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Bardy


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Yes, what is this “save” you speak of?
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Re: nudity [Re: Bardy]
#28573985 - 12/08/23 07:32 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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Savior complex.
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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Re: nudity [Re: Bardy]
#28574065 - 12/08/23 08:39 AM (1 month, 20 days ago) |
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Bardy said: Yes, what is this “save” you speak of?
Picture Messiah!
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yo
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