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loladoreen


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Lonely 1
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Purple sunset



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Probably never felt more lonely but there is nothing i can do about it and it's very painful
The only thing i can do is just suck it up and deal with it, year after year hope fades
Where i do feel like just locking myself in my room. Traveling or finding any kind of meaningful connection is all just hope of the past
Just wished to share happiness
So I'll do what i have to do and keep moving on
Loneliness kills. I felt ok wishing to share it but no one will even talk to me at all or give me any kind of a chance at all. So much so that no one i know could even ever truly understand
Just got to keep finding a way past and around moveing new ways in and out
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loladoreen


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Lonelier is the worst Your idea on traveling sounds good Where do you want to go?
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Purple sunset



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Anywhere is cool I was thinking of Philippines
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loladoreen


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That'd be awesome!!! Where else?
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Anonymous #1
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Where else indeed. But so many options have already been given
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oursoulsinmotion
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I am also lonely But massively untrusting of strangers (online &off) so in a way i deserve it i guess?
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loladoreen


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I understand that. Rebounding from a betrayal is difficult
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huey.bluey


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Gotta say I love being alone. Never gets old. Hermit for life.
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Peace of Mind 1
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Through all of the shit I have been through in life, I've come to learn, and to accept that loneliness is a state of mind and a state of being, not correlated in any way to how many, or few we have present around us.
The expression "feeling alone in a crowded room" basically sums up this point. I've gone through all sorts of phases in my life. I've had friends and lovers, I've completely isolated for years at a time, I've worked so many jobs and had coworkers I liked and got along with, and ones I didn't. The one thing that never changed was how I felt. As I got older, I learned how to find peace and contentment within myself. Whether I am around 100 people, or nobody, it doesn't seem to affect my mind state anymore, at least not all the time.
I am engaged now, and I do have a 9 month old son, so I am not alone in that sense anymore, but if you asked me 10 years ago if I thought that would ever happen, I'd wallow in misery and say I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. Even with these miracles in my life however, I still feel alone at times. Disconnected, depressed and unmotivated, but it comes and goes. Connections to people are very important, as humans we are almost wired to need it, but if connections are going to be fake and not sincere, I don't want them anyway. If you have 1 or even 2 people you connect with, that will suffice, for me anyway.
I guess the moral of the story is until I came to accept my loneliness and looked at it from the angle of "maybe people aren't the problem, maybe it's me", nothing changed. I realized it was me pushing people away, it was me with the loner attitude, the feeling of disconnect and the fact of the matter was I'd complain about being alone, but never do anything to change it. Once you are comfortable, content and at peace by yourself, others of value will gravitate towards you because that energy is magnetic and contagious. The key is being absolutely fine if you knew you would be alone forever, and seeing any connection made along the way as a bonus to add to your happiness, because nobody and nothing will make us happy.
That's just my personal take, and it's easier said than done, for me as well. Some days I don't want to hear any of this shit which is why I'm posting this, I'm reminding myself more than anyone else.
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TheStallionMang
Do U know who yur fuckin with?


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Peace of Mind 1 said: Even with these miracles in my life however, I still feel alone at times. Disconnected, depressed and unmotivated, but it comes and goes. Connections to people are very important, as humans we are almost wired to need it, but if connections are going to be fake and not sincere, I don't want them anyway. If you have 1 or even 2 people you connect with, that will suffice, for me anyway.
I feel ya on that. I’m finding it impossible to be insincere or fake these days. I’d rather be alone than fake being happy with things I’m not ok with. This year I’ve learned to lean more on my friends and focus on what can improve and it’s been good
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oursoulsinmotion
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loladoreen


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I've read that also. Aspiring to be at the level of awareness peace of min 1 is at. Being lonely around people is an awful feeling.
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spirit_shadow
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Purple sunset said: Anywhere is cool I was thinking of Philippines
I'm in a similar situation and am thinking about moving to Chicago with my friend who lives there. If you ever want to hang out I'd love to plan a trip or something.
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I kind of feel like. There’s an amount contact that you have to get every now and then at the least. Even if it’s a shitty interaction at a store. Otherwise, it just kind of creeps up on you. I always try and be nice to everybody. But even when people are complete assholes. I can laugh about it later, and it makes me feel less lonely.
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feevers



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Purple sunset said: Anywhere is cool I was thinking of Philippines
I'm in a similar situation and am thinking about moving to Chicago with my friend who lives there. If you ever want to hang out I'd love to plan a trip or something.
Come to Alaska next summer me with me and purp
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spirit_shadow
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Purple sunset said: Anywhere is cool I was thinking of Philippines
I'm in a similar situation and am thinking about moving to Chicago with my friend who lives there. If you ever want to hang out I'd love to plan a trip or something.
Come to Alaska next summer me with me and purp 
That sounds amazing. I've heard Alaska is beautiful in the summer.
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GenesisCorrupted
Taoist, Writer, Student, Artist




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It’s beautiful all year round. It’s just very difficult to travel during the winter. Gorgeous land.
 I think they still pay you to live there too.
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Purple sunset



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We should go to Alaska
Well wishes on moving to Chicago 
Mostly just feel lonely sometimes because of women. Where it's not easy to meet anyone and tinder / bumble doesn't work. Which makes it all really confusing. Where it used to be hard for my brain to function
I can't just walk up to strangers and do what other people do. Never even tried it once
Escorts get old after a while but I'm thankful. Definitely got to be cold to do that. You do what you got to do and leave. Always went for the premium good looking ones
It's the same thing as food and water. It's not all that enjoyable but i can and know how to do it. Even though it's a 10/10 super model
It used to be a little bit of a addiction but I managed to take it easy. Psychedelics helped a lot. Where I don't want to go at all if I'm tripping on anything
Where after thinking about it more. I guess they look really good and are cool. Its better this way anyway. But I never really wanted to have to do it
Any friends I mentioned it to all say to just do that. Not a single person ever said not to
It's a simple solution and I don't have to deal with being ghosted or asking strangers. Wasting hope time and energy for nothing at all.
Can just be myself. Really easy, well mannered and friendly with the escorts. I think they appreciate it. Where as it never went anywhere with regular women
Just do what I got to do as fast as possible and it fills the void where I can forget about everything after and my brain feels better
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GenesisCorrupted
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Just because you’ve been with an escort, doesn’t mean you can’t seek real intimacy with someone. You seem like a nice guy. Why can’t you meet normal people? You may need to just practice your approach.
Tinder is a lost cause at this point. Bumble is really weird for dudes. I think it works really well for ladies. I think you should try Hinge. That seems like the best one right now.
Edited by GenesisCorrupted (12/07/23 02:11 AM)
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