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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28526152 - 11/02/23 03:19 AM (2 months, 25 days ago) |
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I’m sure you’ll figure it out eventually. Just always have fun while you figure it out. 👍
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LogicaL Chaos
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28526186 - 11/02/23 05:36 AM (2 months, 25 days ago) |
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That part about your job stressing you out could be part of it. Stress from other aspects of your life could definitely be affecting your ability to finish. As mentioned before, the psychological aspect and your stressful job could be part of that blockade.
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 2
#28526203 - 11/02/23 06:17 AM (2 months, 25 days ago) |
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I suppose it's possible.
Yeah my job has me about ready to go postal a lot of days. I am an extremely quiet, shy introvert.. when I start yelling and cussing at people that aren't family or I don't live with, it's bad. Because it takes an almost unimaginable amount of bullshit to push me to that point.
I've already long ago decided I'm finding a new job. Wife actually started updating my resume for me last night while I was at work. I've been trying to wrap my head around it and figure out how to go about it, but it's time to take that leap and start applying.
I'm gonna go try to work for the railroad I think. I'm not young anymore and it's gonna take a job like that for me to buy us a house or even retire.
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28526483 - 11/02/23 11:07 AM (2 months, 25 days ago) |
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If you get leg cramps, try some magnesium
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I can get it, but it's in the multivitamin.
Cramps and stuff are mostly because of my job. I do what I can to keep hydrated and try to keep my electrolytes up, cuz we bust ass. If the sweat alone wasn't enough, then all the bending, squatting etc would still be causing cramps. Been on this crew over a year and a half. It's just unavoidable unless you're one of those bullshit people who stand around until the boss is looking at them.
Which version is best to get? Does it matter?
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Blueberry Muffin] 1
#28527776 - 11/03/23 10:58 AM (2 months, 24 days ago) |
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theodor said: The other thing to note is that there's no need to ejaculate to enjoy sex, but if that is what you're after than that's another story
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Jewstress] 1
#28527784 - 11/03/23 11:04 AM (2 months, 24 days ago) |
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Have you considered your diet?
I find when I eat a vegan “living” diet I feel more alive and happy and sexual.
When I eat a lot of a dead diet it is the opposite. I’m lethargic and just want to nap.
But honestly; it sounds like the excitement for the resurrection of the relationship might be over powering the feelings in the present moment too.
Sometimes I want to play around in bed for hours, sometimes I want a quickie, sometimes I do not want to have sex at all because mood.
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It’s never meant in offense to my partner either, just each day is a new day and a new interaction.
I will look for more intel tho. Everyone deserves an amazing honest sex life
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28533729 - 11/08/23 03:53 AM (2 months, 19 days ago) |
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I've noticed that when I don't cum in the first 10 minutes or so, my dick goes kind of numb and eventually it may become difficult to cum at all.
Suggestions: 1) When you decide it's time to cum, take a break. Just rest for a while and get rid of erection. And then just start over with a handjob or whatever works for you. In my experience, going limp and hard again kind of resets the sensitivity. 2) Try anal plugs or something for additional stimulation. 3) Try something that would feel more familiar, like a pussyjob or a titjob or something like that. That also could work. 4) Try enjoying the process. Do you have to come every time you have sex anyway? It's only a problem if you make it a problem, so why exhaust yourself just trying to achieve what you think you're supposed to achieve?
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: kyu]
#28533760 - 11/08/23 04:58 AM (2 months, 19 days ago) |
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It's not that I think I need to, I want to. I like the feeling of an orgasm. It's extremely frustrating when that's what you're trying to do and it's not working well. I enjoy it plenty, I enjoy just being that close, my dick and an orgasm isn't the only reason I want sex, but still.. for me it is one of the main goals. So yeah, me personally, it's going to be an issue if it doesn't happen. The only time it doesn't bother me is when I got plenty of time to try again later or the next day or whatever.. but our schedules are opposite. I work overnights she works mornings to afternoon. There are days when we don't even see each other and we live together. A lot of days we may only get 15-30 minutes together.
I think that pressure is also a factor.
Also, she wanted me to cum in her mouth.. I basically haven't gotten to do that since we were first together, so you're damn right I need to cum this is 20 years or sexual fantasies and desires coming to life. For both of us.
Still trying stuff. So far, still got the same issue. Last time was well over 4 hours.. she said she didn't care how long it took so I gave it my best shot. Honestly, I'm not a super fit person, I'm shocked I could even go that long.
I'm about to tell her to bring in the big guns which is basically the second one on your list
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28533829 - 11/08/23 06:29 AM (2 months, 19 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: It's not that I think I need to, I want to. I like the feeling of an orgasm. It's extremely frustrating when that's what you're trying to do and it's not working well. I enjoy it plenty, I enjoy just being that close, my dick and an orgasm isn't the only reason I want sex, but still.. for me it is one of the main goals. So yeah, me personally, it's going to be an issue if it doesn't happen. The only time it doesn't bother me is when I got plenty of time to try again later or the next day or whatever.. but our schedules are opposite. I work overnights she works mornings to afternoon. There are days when we don't even see each other and we live together. A lot of days we may only get 15-30 minutes together.
I think that pressure is also a factor.
Also, she wanted me to cum in her mouth.. I basically haven't gotten to do that since we were first together, so you're damn right I need to cum this is 20 years or sexual fantasies and desires coming to life. For both of us.
Still trying stuff. So far, still got the same issue. Last time was well over 4 hours.. she said she didn't care how long it took so I gave it my best shot. Honestly, I'm not a super fit person, I'm shocked I could even go that long.
I'm about to tell her to bring in the big guns which is basically the second one on your list 
Good luck!
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Blueberry Muffin] 2
#28536474 - 11/10/23 12:28 AM (2 months, 17 days ago) |
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Finally reached orgasm from sex. Tried for about an hour and a half earlier in the day. Wasn't working, decided to not try fighting it, trying to make it happen. We ended up stopping, going to get food, then watched a movie and then went again. Happened in a reasonable amount of time too.
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28536476 - 11/10/23 12:30 AM (2 months, 17 days ago) |
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Sucess! Looks like the "take a break" method worked!
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28536488 - 11/10/23 12:42 AM (2 months, 17 days ago) |
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28537721 - 11/10/23 07:37 PM (2 months, 16 days ago) |
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And again, this time it was from the first time and it was an hour tops (but pretty sure not even that long)
I think the mental block is gone? Didn't do anything any different today than any other day. I was planning on having to do it like yesterday..
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28537888 - 11/10/23 10:01 PM (2 months, 16 days ago) |
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Huh!
Perhaps it was some mental block that you busted thru
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Re: Having trouble reaching orgasm/ejaculation [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28537890 - 11/10/23 10:04 PM (2 months, 16 days ago) |
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You just stopped holding so much pressure on yourself. Once it didn’t feel like a requirement. You just let your body start enjoying itself. Without that anxiety holding you back. Of course you came.
Don’t be so hard on yourself champ. Have a good time.
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