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LogicaL Chaos
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Dating without spending money? 1
#28520857 - 10/28/23 06:15 AM (2 months, 30 days ago) |
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Is it possible to date someone without spending any money on dates? Does dating essentially involve spending money on each other? Is it possible to be broke and search for love?
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 2
#28520871 - 10/28/23 06:55 AM (2 months, 30 days ago) |
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I go on lots of hikes and walks with dates.
Cold weather? Pack a thermos full of hot water, some mugs, and tea bags.
Pack a snack if you want.
Check out local parks, cemeteries, or free art exhibits. Walk around during holiday seasons and admire people's decorations. Admire people's gardens in the summer. Bring sidewalk chalk. Write compliments.
You can totally dste without spending money if you can be creative (and you like be outside).
Inside is a little trickier, but doable.
Go to goodwill with a scavenger hunt list. Not to buy, just to find whatever objects are on the list.
Go to public spaces where loitering is allowed and work on small art projects or do mad libs or play the scribble game or...
Look up community events in your area and check those out. Got a college campus? Does it have art installations or a greenhouse you can check out? Are there volunteer opportunities in your area?
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Yeah we have some badass botanical gardens around me which are free to roam and I've always "felt the lady out" on first or near first dates by taking em there and seeing how their reaction is or how much they truly enjoy it plus my company
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: ashfiken] 1
#28521242 - 10/28/23 02:29 PM (2 months, 30 days ago) |
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Yeah botanical gardens are cool as shit. There isn't one in my area, but if there were, it would absolutely be a first date go to for me.
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sudly
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 2
#28521539 - 10/28/23 06:57 PM (2 months, 30 days ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Is it possible to date someone without spending any money on dates? Does dating essentially involve spending money on each other? Is it possible to be broke and search for love?
I went on a date yesterday to a cafe, nature centre and japanese garden. We had breakfast and a coffee but explored the area and got to know eachother along the way. Fortunately the area was close for both of us.
Getting to a place for a date can cost money, and usually $20 is plenty for a good date. Broke with no money or transportation makes it difficult, but it certainly doesn't have to be a lot.
I suppose it depends on the interests on the people dating too, like we both are in environmental fields, and a natural area was good for showing eachother our interests.
Hikes aren't usually a first date, and ofcourse they often require a lot of transportion or travel to begin.
If you can atleast afford a bus and a coffee, you local botanical gardens are usually a good spot for a first date.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28540424 - 11/12/23 02:17 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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I love the idea behind dating without spending money. It allows you to get to see them authentically.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen] 1
#28540506 - 11/12/23 03:08 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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$20 bucks is pretty authentic, and it's nice to have a coffee and walk and talk.
It's like how some people like talking on phones sitting while others prefer to walk when on the phone.
I had a lot of dates with an ex where we just hung out at each other's home and it was nice to stay in sometimes.
Someone she once dated before me spent 300 bucks on a lobster dinner and kept trying to buy her drinks to get her drunk.
Even 50 bucks on a date is a lot.
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loladoreen


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I would prefer that.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen]
#28540575 - 11/12/23 04:14 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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I'm going to a show that's $15 on Saturday, and having breakfast on Sunday.
Most of Saturday will be free except the show, but breakfast won't be.
The most I've event spent on a first date is maybe $30? Breakfast and smoothie etc.
Dates in relationships are different when you've been together for years, it really varies what you spend and do together.
I only pay for myself but was happy to pay for someone recently because they only recently moved here and weren't employed yet, but they had plenty of savings and were fine.
I once had someone pay for my dinner then suggest I could get it the next time we saw eachother, was a pretty cute sentiment really.
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loladoreen


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I think that's awesome!!!! One of my funnest dates was a hockey game, $7 tickets. Another a concert that was a band that was great but not mainstream so tickets were low. Im to deep a person to ever pass up a real conversation. I love it
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen]
#28540590 - 11/12/23 04:20 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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Yeah but that kind of stuff isn't for first dates imo, not when I still want to get to know them.
Haha it's almost like the more dates we go on the more were willing to spend sometimes. But also because we want to do different things!
I had a second date once that was a picnic by a dam and exploring a quaint towns farmers market.
Anniversaries were really what I spent big on, from buffets and zoos to jewellery etc.
Hockey maybe though or a cheap ice rink if it's in town.
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loladoreen


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Your completely right. Not first dates. You go on good dates!
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen]
#28540608 - 11/12/23 04:30 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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My first ever date was free, we went to a firework show and held hands.
But damn I was friged in my early teens 
I once went to a museum for s firdt date but she wasn't very interested.
One was coffee in the city.
One was at a pub actually.
Another going through markets.
One walking along a river, but it was sunny and she was hella white and scared of being sunburnt from a stroll.
One at a food court.
Given this is over a decade.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28540617 - 11/12/23 04:39 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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Those are really great dates and provide the opportunity to learn about each other.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen] 2
#28540702 - 11/12/23 05:39 PM (2 months, 15 days ago) |
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I usually do coffee and a walk for first dates. I meet people at coffee shops and get my own coffee so I can choose something within my budget and no one has to buy me anything.
I've done snowshoeing and lots of hikes for second dates, or beach days. My house is minutes from miles of hiking trails and also a lake, and theres other beaches and lakes and trails in a 15-30 minute drive in most directions.
I like to stay in too and cook meals for people I like, once I we've gotten to know each other better.
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Some of the parks in my city have free concerts and movie screenings every once in a while. I like taking chairs or a hammock. You could also take your date to a nice park or botanical gardens for free or cheap. There’s a lot of things you can do if you’re on a budget, but I think for dating most people you’ll inevitably have to spend money, but you can keep the cost down while still making the date special and unique.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: jughead]
#28543513 - 11/15/23 01:02 AM (2 months, 12 days ago) |
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Good stuff y'all! 
I was thinking of adding this to my dating profile: "I dont have a lot of money for dating but Im still looking for love" or something similar, to be upfront that i dont have a ton of spending money but i still want to date. Good idea? Bad idea?
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28543557 - 11/15/23 02:15 AM (2 months, 12 days ago) |
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being upfront is always a good idea, especially if it's true. I don't think people genuinely want unexpected surprises.
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loladoreen


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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 3
#28543759 - 11/15/23 09:01 AM (2 months, 12 days ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Good stuff y'all! 
I was thinking of adding this to my dating profile: "I dont have a lot of money for dating but Im still looking for love" or something similar, to be upfront that i dont have a ton of spending money but i still want to date. Good idea? Bad idea?
I think you should not put it. Because you are a very genuine and authentic person and I think saying I enjoy picnics, ,museum dates, etc says more of who you are as opposed to I dont have money. I think that is more of a descriptive and accurate way to describe it. I would be concerned that who you are would not come across as it should. They would be lucky to date you.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen] 1
#28543851 - 11/15/23 10:04 AM (2 months, 12 days ago) |
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I wouldn't advise putting anything about money in your profile and could use Lola's approach by putting something in your profile like "who's up for a picnic or an afternoon at a museum? Botanical garden anyone?"
You could always hold off on any of that until you actually start making plans to meet someone, which is how I usually do things.
If they suggest dinner, I just tell them I don't dondinner dates so early on because I prefer a less formal approach.
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Patchouli_Savage said: I wouldn't advise putting anything about money in your profile and could use Lola's approach by putting something in your profile like "who's up for a picnic or an afternoon at a museum? Botanical garden anyone?"
You could always hold off on any of that until you actually start making plans to meet someone, which is how I usually do things.
If they suggest dinner, I just tell them I don't dondinner dates so early on because I prefer a less formal approach.
LOVE That!!!!!!!
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen] 1
#28544279 - 11/15/23 04:59 PM (2 months, 12 days ago) |
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Got to keep some cards in your pocket.
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loladoreen


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I think that is part of the process of actually getting to know a person as opposed to showing off or look what i am capable of. Sometimes wining and dining feels like that because it stops. And is not who they genuinely are. Your a genuine person and that will shine through.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen]
#28544364 - 11/15/23 06:04 PM (2 months, 12 days ago) |
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loladoreen


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Gracias... I often type to fast and push send...
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: loladoreen] 2
#28577334 - 12/10/23 04:18 PM (1 month, 18 days ago) |
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Just be upfront with her. Tell her you don't have a lot of money but still want her to like you. Ask her if it would be OK to go to a place that doesn't cost a lot of money. If she likes you, she will understand.
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Re: Dating without spending money? [Re: Joh.Ke] 1
#28580088 - 12/12/23 02:40 PM (1 month, 16 days ago) |
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Say what kind of interaction you have in mind, in advance, to set expectations.
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