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What actually makes a woman special? 2
#28515918 - 10/23/23 08:53 PM (3 months, 3 days ago) |
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What makes a woman special to you? Even if it's a physical quality, how is it special because there's a ton of beautiful women in this world so it's not like there isn't another option per se.
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Humor, being able to joke about and relate to the same things in a meaningful way.
Someone who can make me laugh or smile just with a glance. You know what I mean... that person who just knows how to make you smile without even really trying. That spark that is just hard to explain...
Taste in music. I'm sorry, but if we don't like at least some of the same music then it probably isn't meant to be.
Sitting together without talking and still feeling comfortable. Being able to just enjoy each other's presence without the need for talking or entertainment.
Touchy-feely women that will randomly put their arm around me, grab my hand, touch my back, etc. Also I prefer women that will make the first move. Having a girl jump me out of nowhere is friggin' hot.
As for physical attributes, beautiful hair always catches my attention. Big doe eyes always get me, especially with nicely done eyelashes and eye shadow.
Certain voices - I tend to like people with an unusual or unique voice. Certain clothing - skirts and stockings are a huge turn on. Bonus points for boots.
And if they have a ski slope nose or a cute wonky collar bone, well then I'm just head over heels in love
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I think it is unique to each individual, how their individual chemistry works with the others chemistry. Definately chemistry. That is something difficult to create.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: ZeeBow] 1
#28516797 - 10/24/23 04:08 PM (3 months, 3 days ago) |
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ZeeBow said: And if they have a ski slope nose or a cute wonky collar bone, well then I'm just head over heels in love


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What makes the specialty any different than any other gender? (Had to take that opportunity to be so pc/woke)
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Be it woman or otherwise, imo, the same overlapping that make a good human make a good woman. And also there's non-overlapping things. Those things for me are usually attributed to typical female gender role things.. I guess it's more conservative but I think gender roles are fine, I appreciate them, and I appreciate each sides differences, strengths, and weaknesses.. and in the end feeling as equals.
For instance liking women that dress up(I do), or woman that cook(care significantly less about that). Traditional gender role stuff I don't find makes you special really it's like the icing on the cake. The things that make somebody special in one's eye are all the things we try to be as morally decent humans. Honesty, loyalty, understanding, respect, appreciation.. etc.
I find my friends and my lovers are both kinda judged as special by those kind of traits and reasons. Fwiw
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: loladoreen]
#28516916 - 10/24/23 05:25 PM (3 months, 3 days ago) |
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loladoreen said: I think it is unique to each individual, how their individual chemistry works with the others chemistry. Definately chemistry. That is something difficult to create.
Is chemistry really difficult to create?
I feel like it's been super easy for me. Or maybe I just have chemistry with a lot of people.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: ashfiken]
#28516928 - 10/24/23 05:35 PM (3 months, 3 days ago) |
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IMO, communication.
There's verbal communication, like can you have a conversation and actually be on the same page.
And there's non-verbal communication, like can you look at their face and know where their at today or effectively communicate through body language.
When I find someone who is great at both, I know I've found someone special.
Not necessarily exclusive to women.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: Svetaketu]
#28517444 - 10/25/23 07:50 AM (3 months, 2 days ago) |
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Yeah I can definitely hold communication as highly necessary, most only communicate with their phones now. Think in a good relationship of any kind trust begets good communication. Trust is so important and it's so hard for ppl to trust or be trusted these days quite the quandary
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loladoreen said: I think it is unique to each individual, how their individual chemistry works with the others chemistry. Definately chemistry. That is something difficult to create.
Is chemistry really difficult to create?
I feel like it's been super easy for me. Or maybe I just have chemistry with a lot of people.
I think chemistry can come quite easily to those either without much social anxiety and/or with a good grasp/comfort with their sexuality.. Men are pretty easy bc they are always happy to fuxk(norm) so chemistry can develop quite simply in most cases if the opportunity presents.
So put any two ppl together(or more) with even a modicum of these traits and chemistry is pretty achievable.
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Edited by ashfiken (10/25/23 07:55 AM)
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I find self discipline to be a quality that not many people have, and therefore I tend to view it as a highly desirable trait in a woman (I'd find it highly desirable in a man, too, if that were my orientation [I'm a straight male]).
This sort of goes along with self discipline, and it's a little backwards by today's standards, but I think a low "body count" (as the younger generation calls it) makes a beautiful woman quite special.
Not that I'm judgemental towards those that are more sexual, to each their own, we've only got one Life, live it. But for a woman to be physically beautiful yet selective with who she is willing to be with, and the number of men that she's willing to be with, it really adds to ones nonphysical beauty, in my opinion.
As you said, r3v, there are a lot of beautiful women in the world, so appearance isn't as valuable to me, though it's still certainly a factor. Not to mention, physical beauty quickly fades with age if one isn't beautiful within.
Of course shared interests are important for a long-term relationship, but again interests are very common (for the most part). I could say that I want a woman that appreciates the same kind music as myself, but there are a lot of women that do, so how would that particular interest be special?
Also, as Svetaketu said, the ability (and willingness) to openly communicate is quite special in this time of dishonesty and suppressed thought.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28517526 - 10/25/23 09:15 AM (3 months, 2 days ago) |
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For me, a special woman is someone who triggers deep emotions within me.
I wonder if many women feel this way about men they find "special" . . .
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
#28517561 - 10/25/23 09:46 AM (3 months, 2 days ago) |
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If you're willing to answer, I'm curious if a woman's appearance is enough to trigger those deep emotions? Is it typically an "at first sight" situation? Or are the emotions stirred up as you get to know a woman?
I've certainly had strong, strong emotions because of a woman, in my thirties no less. At first sight, I was mesmerized by her beauty. It wasn't until a year or so later that we actually spent a little time together, and the first night in her presence gave me a feeling that I felt I had been missing in Life. A feeling I had never really known until that moment. I think she felt it, too, because at one point she asked me, "Why don't you feel normal?" as she was holding my hand haha.
But despite those feelings, we no longer talk (her decision) and at first I was heartbroken (again, in my thirties haha). Naturally I had to rationalize away the pain, and I came to the conclusion that in spite of what I felt for her, we were better off apart, primarily because of her promiscuity. She was beautiful, she had me feeling high on her presence, but is she special to me if she's been in that situation with many men before me? For me, I'd say a special woman would be one that stirs up the same in me, but hasn't done that for many men.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
#28517574 - 10/25/23 10:01 AM (3 months, 2 days ago) |
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I'd argue sex and that stir up feeling aren't so intrinsically connected. Having sex with more than 3 ppl or whatever, imo doesn't mean that each of them had that connection or stirred up feeling or level of chemistry.
Most ppl have sex with ppl they THINK may be That person. A not minimal amount of chemistry can't really be known until intercoursw between 2 ppl.
So what if say x had sex with I dunno 15 ppl but it wasn't til that 15th person that x fell truly in love and settled down or whatever. Then nowadays rinse and repeat that exact happening a few times and you have many ppl of both Genders having sex with quite a bit more than "any special few" But only actually achieved some real full state of connection/love/seriousness 3x out of 15? Partners. I feel this is super common and almost normalized (for others) behavior for me. The only women I meet nowadays that have a low "body count" are: religious(super) chicks, 18 year Olds, or very unattractive women.. Maybe aside from that I'd guess 1/1000
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r3volution.gurl said: What makes a woman special to you?
Owning and reading books is something I've always found sexy. I've dated too many women who didn't and won't do that again.
Edited by Nillion (10/25/23 10:20 AM)
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: ashfiken] 1
#28517625 - 10/25/23 11:10 AM (3 months, 2 days ago) |
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I agree completely, sex doesn't equate to "that feeling", and it's possible (probably even common) for a person to have sex with someone that doesn't give them "that feeling". The number of sexual partners certainly isn't indicative of the number of truly deep connections that they've had. Also, you're right about some people needing to experience multiple sexual relationships to find the one that does give them "that feeling".
I suppose the only area where I may have doubts, or, at the very least, questions is whether or not sex is necessary to determine the depth of a connection.
For example, in the situation with the woman I mentioned in my previous post, we didn't have sex. She was more than willing, and we got up to the point of actually doing the deed (like, pants down close), but out of respect for her I didn't go through with it. She wasn't single, and we were supposed to be "just friends". Plus, it was only our first time spending more than 30 minutes together, and only the 3rd or 4th time that we had the chance to even talk.
There were intense feelings stirred up within me, even without sex. But who knows, perhaps if we did have intercourse the chemistry would've went out the window and all feelings would've fell flat haha. I don't really have the answer, just thoughts.
But I will say that I feel what you mentioned at the end supports my idea of a low "body count" being special in conjunction with beauty. If typically it's unattractive, too young, or overly religious women that have had fewer sexual partners, then wouldn't the beautiful woman of right age and spiritual disposition with few past flings be special?
With all that said, I admit there's a possibility that I'm just a hopeless romantic haha.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: Nillion]
#28517628 - 10/25/23 11:13 AM (3 months, 2 days ago) |
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r3volution.gurl said: What makes a woman special to you?
Owning and reading books is something I've always found sexy. I've dated too many women who didn't and won't do that again.

Too true.
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Welcome back Rev_Gurl 
For me, its a woman with a talent: singing, plays an instrument, really good at video games, good at sports, good at snowboarding/skiing, acting, stand-up comedy, impressionist, skilled at cooking/baking/BBQing, good with tools, cosplayer , crafter, etc.
Also, any woman who i have a unique, rare connection with, such as a common passion for EDM, or even better, the same artist and same songs.
A woman who enjoys psychedelics and easily handles them.
Having the same sense of humor makes a woman special as laughing together is so enjoyable.
And i have a particular fondness for Scorpio women. I would consider most of them "special" since i can relate to them easily. My favorite Scorpio is Katy Perry. She is definitely special and Im deeply in love with her.
Cheers to all the special ladies out there
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28518524 - 10/26/23 05:45 AM (3 months, 1 day ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I agree completely, sex doesn't equate to "that feeling", and it's possible (probably even common) for a person to have sex with someone that doesn't give them "that feeling". The number of sexual partners certainly isn't indicative of the number of truly deep connections that they've had. Also, you're right about some people needing to experience multiple sexual relationships to find the one that does give them "that feeling".
I suppose the only area where I may have doubts, or, at the very least, questions is whether or not sex is necessary to determine the depth of a connection.
For example, in the situation with the woman I mentioned in my previous post, we didn't have sex. She was more than willing, and we got up to the point of actually doing the deed (like, pants down close), but out of respect for her I didn't go through with it. She wasn't single, and we were supposed to be "just friends". Plus, it was only our first time spending more than 30 minutes together, and only the 3rd or 4th time that we had the chance to even talk.
There were intense feelings stirred up within me, even without sex. But who knows, perhaps if we did have intercourse the chemistry would've went out the window and all feelings would've fell flat haha. I don't really have the answer, just thoughts.
But I will say that I feel what you mentioned at the end supports my idea of a low "body count" being special in conjunction with beauty. If typically it's unattractive, too young, or overly religious women that have had fewer sexual partners, then wouldn't the beautiful woman of right age and spiritual disposition with few past flings be special?
With all that said, I admit there's a possibility that I'm just a hopeless romantic haha.
I think we have def found that good common ground. I quite agree sex is not completely necessary to know one has strong feelings exist between one another.. However I think you saying you could had sex and fall flat is just as possible as could have sex and it go thru roof! So imo.not necessary or required but can definitely change the game too.
Being a hopeless romantic, not much wrong with that at all, prolly have tinges of it myself.
I think that a chick that has all those things in not special but a miracle. One I have witnessed near-zero times.
And I'm not saying that like all of em are promiscuous.. but a woman that is gorgeous, not overly spiritual, mature, and also "well-kept". That's a unicorn, it's not in my realm. I don't ever see it, doubt i will. And then the added caveat is she (for the benefit of this convo) would have to actually have an interest in somebody like me. It's just not really realistic imo. Maybe if I had a billion dollars I could comb for women of unicorn status, and the few per each 10000 would prolly make themselves readily available. But that confuses things more. I don't really Want a woman to be Interested in me for my bank account either(its rubbish BTW so no worries there)
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28518849 - 10/26/23 11:56 AM (3 months, 1 day ago) |
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I suppose the only area where I may have doubts, or, at the very least, questions is whether or not sex is necessary to determine the depth of a connection.
Is it possible sex can sometimes complicate & interfere with deep love?
It's funny that the word "consummated" = to make a relationship "complete"
So a relationship is not "complete" until sex? That seems strange to me.
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Re: What actually makes a woman special? [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
#28518916 - 10/26/23 01:01 PM (3 months, 1 day ago) |
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I wouldn't want to engage in a romantic relationship with anyone without first having sex..
While getting along and being able to communicate, see eye to eye, and understand is of utmost importance, who would want to have a romantic relationship with someone and not consummate it/ensure sexual compatibility/"complicate"?
If so might as well get a good buddy that understands and listens and just chill with him all the time.
Romantic relationships necessitate desire for one another imo, sex often does complicate or maybe interfere but I certainly don't have the belief for those possibilities to be detrimental to the deep seated feelings that existed prior
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