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That’s a turn on… 1
#28504365 - 10/14/23 01:24 PM (3 months, 13 days ago) |
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What is something that really piques your interest. Or something that you find utterly fascinating. What’s a skill or a trade. Or a hobby. That as soon as somebody has it. They instantly go up a star rating in your head.
Personally. I find a very good parent to be incredibly sexy.
They don’t take any shit. They stand up for themselves.
I find talented artists to be incredibly attractive as well. When a person owns overalls for painting in. Damn…
Somebody that can get dirty and make some thing. So, like gardening, or working on a machine.
I really find education attractive Nerdy people. That love talking about nerdy things. Are super endearing.
Somebody that takes really good care of their appearance. Shows a lot of discipline. Very attractive.
When a someone can wear make up. They like to look pretty. Because they just like to. I suppose that’s powerful to me as well.
When people like doing psychedelics. I feel like they become more attractive. Just because they’re willing to experiment with something that expands their minds. It shows they’re open minded.
When their cynicism can make me laugh.
When they remember something you asked for a long time ago. Because they’re a good listener. Super hot.
When someone can tell your not ok when most people can’t 😭I love that.
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Not a celebrity thing, per se, but when they are singers.
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I find education within medical or scientific fields a very attractive trait to have.
Passionate hobbies too.
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Re: That’s a turn on… [Re: sudly] 3
#28505129 - 10/15/23 05:42 AM (3 months, 12 days ago) |
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Musician, piano...
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Re: That’s a turn on… [Re: sudly] 2
#28505349 - 10/15/23 10:32 AM (3 months, 12 days ago) |
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Role play

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sudly said: I find education within medical or scientific fields a very attractive trait to have.
Passionate hobbies too.
I like the idea that a highly capable help mate could assist me in my profession, not the idea that I am competing with her boss for attention.
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Any woman who has a special talent, like singing or a playing an instrument or produces music. I be simpin' hard for Katy Perry, Dua Lipa and Ariana Grande. Female sport pros are pretty hot too, like in soccer, gymnastics or ice skating.
Also, any woman who has excellent style, in clothing and long hair styles.
Any woman that talks technically about science or science fiction. Very hot.
And any woman who has pretty, colorful eyes and is outgoing and friendly, huge turn on.
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Emotionally intelligent people I love love love being able to have a good conversation no insecurities, I love it... An emotionally intelligent man... LOVE I always loved a "boyscout" not literally. A really good guy, I wanna find out if he can be bad in the bedroom... thats so hot to me a good guy who is adventurous and fun. so hot.. so hot Good manners, good manners turns me on
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GenesisCorrupted said:
What is something that really piques your interest. Or something that you find utterly fascinating.
I've always really wanted to be with a shy woman.
It's on my bucket list . . . . some day!
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LogicaL Chaos said: And any woman who has pretty, colorful eyes and is outgoing and friendly, huge turn on.
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Anonymous #1 said: Emotionally intelligent people I love love love being able to have a good conversation
Expressive eyes
(not expressive mascara or contacts, per se)
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I think anyone showing interest in you.. expression of eyes, showing interest in you is hot.
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The preying mantis has colorful eyes.
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Anonymous #1 said: I think anyone showing interest in you.. expression of eyes, showing interest in you is hot.
Agreed, a lady who gives seductive attention is to the front of the hot line!
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I am a lady, when a man shows me he finds me desirable it is hot. I do not mean dick pics.. puke
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GenesisCorrupted
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Anonymous #1 said: I am a lady, when a man shows me he finds me desirable it is hot. I do not mean dick pics.. puke
Thank you for that. Let that serve as a lesson to all the men that want to just show someone your phallus. They would rather talk before we whip out ween.🤣
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I would... I don't know about others.
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Anonymous #1 said: I am a lady, when a man shows me he finds me desirable it is hot. I do not mean dick pics.. puke
So, you are more a romantic than utilitarian.
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No and yes I need to be intellectually stimulated. That is my number one in terms of being attracted to someone. Physical looks is like number 3 or 4.
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A woman's biggest erogenous zone is her brain.
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LogicaL Chaos said: A woman's biggest erogenous zone is her brain.
Thats hot, hot way to live.
Edited by GenesisCorrupted (10/18/23 07:24 PM)
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Man I was trying to think of an answer for this thread but it kinda helped me realize that there’s really no turn on stuff with my wife and I. We just have our routine of getting drunk together and fucking.
I kinda like it that way. We both work hard and have a kid - I don’t think either of us care to, or need the other to expend that extra energy, we just know what we want and give and take for each other as needed.
Marriage is really great in some of those ways.
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Have you asked her?🤠 Odds are, your partner probably knows what turns you on.
Edited by GenesisCorrupted (10/19/23 12:12 AM)
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A woman who knows what they want, and lets you know it directly and explicitly, thats pretty hot.
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A woman who knows what they want, and lets you know it directly and explicitly, thats pretty hot.
I've recently seen a couple of Mae West's movies, and it was refreshing to see a woman who had the courage to be forthright. They called her a "sex siren". Some say she was a parody of a sex siren. I was interested that she explicitly flirted with various men in a classy fashion without appearing like a slut.
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Anonymous #2 said: We just have our routine of getting drunk together and fucking.
If you and she are into it, try it with mush instead of alcohol. Take a risk and ask her what she would like. Ultimately sex is a type of play. So play.
Off topic but related:
Check out Esther Perel. She has much more to say on couples and sex.
Bringing Home the Erotic: 5 Ways to Create Meaningful Connections with Your Partner https://www.estherperel.com/blog/5-ways-to-create-meaningful-connections
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Anonymous #2 said: We just have our routine of getting drunk together and fucking.
If you and she are into it, try it with mush instead of alcohol. Take a risk and ask her what she would like. Ultimately sex is a type of play. So play.
Off topic but related:
Check out Esther Perel. She has much more to say on couples and sex.
Bringing Home the Erotic: 5 Ways to Create Meaningful Connections with Your Partner https://www.estherperel.com/blog/5-ways-to-create-meaningful-connections
Best sex I ever had was on shrooms....
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DharmaForKarma said:
Off topic but related:
Check out Esther Perel. She has much more to say on couples and sex.
Bringing Home the Erotic: 5 Ways to Create Meaningful Connections with Your Partner https://www.estherperel.com/blog/5-ways-to-create-meaningful-connections
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LogicaL Chaos said: And any woman who has pretty, colorful eyes and is outgoing and friendly, huge turn on.
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durian_2008 said: Expressive eyes
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durian_2008 said: The preying mantis has colorful eyes.
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I meant it as a double entendre about outward vs. inward beauty.
It is said that eyes are the window to the soul.
Be careful about what her eyes are communicating.
The female praying mantis is outwardly beautiful, with large, colorful eyes. They are dainty, graceful creatures. Who can deny it.
They eat their mate.
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Indeed. But human females are very different than insects. Ladies dont actually eat their mate, maybe metaphorically but not literally.
Another turn on for me is a woman with a pierced eyebrow. Sonething about it is so sexy to me.
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It doesn’t work on like 90% of ladies. But when they have the face type for it. I really like the nose ring that goes through the middle… Kind of hits me like Drunei from wow having the horns not the men. Sexy AF Ties back into a powerful woman. Being very attractive to me.
Edited by GenesisCorrupted (10/19/23 01:31 PM)
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eyebrow piercing. Interesting, has the opposite effect for me, but we are all different. I really am attracted to men that don't drink.
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I guess those piercings are like hippie men to me... I just envision them as sensual.
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It’s just because it all ties into my deep love of art. The idea that this person has such an artistic tendency that their body has become a canvas. Seems enchanting to me. It draws me to them as I’m drawn to a canvas. The piercings have to be tasteful. I have seen some bad piercings in my time. 🌝 Really well done tasteful tattoos have the same effect.
Edited by GenesisCorrupted (10/19/23 01:42 PM)
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I think you are spot on. They are more in tune with finer things and appreciate them. As opposed to the stereotype of a womanizer, jock or bad guy. Heavy emphasis on stereotype.
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Intelligent men and men that read!!!!!!!
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GenesisCorrupted said: It doesn’t work on like 90% of ladies. But when they have the face type for it. I really like the nose ring that goes through the middle… Kind of hits me like Drunei from wow having the horns not the men. Sexy AF Ties back into a powerful woman. Being very attractive to me.
Ironically, my least favorite piercing is the bull ring. It just looks too animalistic to me or like theres a shiny boogie hanging out of her nose that never goes away. The side nose ring piercing is decent thou. But i prefer nostril nose studs, like a little shiny gem nested on the side of the nose, looks really nice to me.
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It would have to be a tasteful piercing. I like them to be a little bit bigger than the ones that you can mistake for a boogie. Also, just a plain ring is boring. It’s usually nice-looking, with scraffido, and etchings in it. Side piercings can look really good too. But from far away those can look like a pimple. Which is why I don’t like those as much.
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Anonymous #1 said:
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DharmaForKarma said:
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Anonymous #2 said: We just have our routine of getting drunk together and fucking.
If you and she are into it, try it with mush instead of alcohol. Take a risk and ask her what she would like. Ultimately sex is a type of play. So play.
Off topic but related:
Check out Esther Perel. She has much more to say on couples and sex.
Bringing Home the Erotic: 5 Ways to Create Meaningful Connections with Your Partner https://www.estherperel.com/blog/5-ways-to-create-meaningful-connections
Best sex I ever had was on shrooms....
We have talked about it. Maybe one of these days if the stars align and we’re both feeling it. We’re kinda old 
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GenesisCorrupted said: Have you asked her?🤠 Odds are, your partner probably knows what turns you on.
Oh for sure, we’ve been married a while, had our runs with sex toys upon sex toys.
TBH I really love both worlds - the super intimate sexual stuff maybe when you’re dating or just got a partner who’s into that, and the we’ve been married for a long time and just know what each other wants let’s cut to the chase sex.
I love both, and really I just love sex haha
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Captaintrips, just found this the other day and thought of you.
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Self-discipline. Very attractive when a significant other needs nothing but themselves to stay grounded / disciplined / healthy / etc.
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The ability & willingness to be comfortable with silence is very attractive.
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It definitely shows a level of mental stability. When somebody can just sit in a room silently for hours without needing to blast music or start making annoying noises. Thank you for that contribution.
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Or, if you can cook and clean and not gripe.
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LogicaL Chaos said: A woman who knows what they want, and lets you know it directly and explicitly, thats pretty hot.
I have to comment on this. This is me. But I have been told by men throughout my entire life that it intimidates them. I just assume I am not the right one for them if they find me intimidating. It used to bother me a lot. And I was dating this guy and he told me I was intimidating. I asked why and he said because it feels like you would have to bring your "A" game if they wanted to date you. He and I actually dated a little bit. But.. I always think about that. A lot of men don't like direct, intelligent or independent women. And that is ok. They just aren't for me.
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Some people are intimidated by powerful women. Not me though.😂
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Yeah i totally get that. Ive met some women who are intimidating in that sense, where i felt like i wasnt "good enough", that self-confidence anxiety and performance anxiety type of feeling. But overall, i am attracted to a woman who is explicit and direct in a sexy way. I should also mention i have an Amazon woman fetish so Im sure that plays into that preference.
Powerful, direct, confident, explicit women, very sexy to me
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I saw this one religious podcast, where the tiny munchkin-like wife occasionally cheers, in the background, in a helium voice.
And, this one Youtube channel, where she assists in light onstruction, sometimes, in a swimsuit. When not put to the coarsest kind of labor, they are well exercised and sometimes in good cheer.
It's not familiar to me. I feel no chemistry. I can platonically say there are no nameable flaws.
SWIM bitches her ass off, everytime she has to do a common chore, that afaic could be meditative. It sounds like a junkyard orchestra. Bullshit.
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Truth. I scare most people away and those that stick around need me in small doses.
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Re: That’s a turn on… [Re: Jewstress]
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GenesisCorrupted said: Some people are intimidated by powerful women. Not me though.😂
Truth. I scare most people away and those that stick around need me in small doses.
Bet your a beast in a mosh pit though.
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When a woman is actually into me, or shows the slightest bit of interest (something other than half a sentence of misspelt words on Bumble) ... I've yet to find any
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Then it’s time to check your approach.
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Some people are intimidated by powerful women.
Temporal power can be used in my favor.
Powerful speaking voices and effrontery should be saved for betas outside of my household, because I will make any reasonable accommodation of my own free will.
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LogicaL Chaos said: A woman who knows what they want, and lets you know it directly and explicitly, thats pretty hot.
I have to comment on this. This is me. But I have been told by men throughout my entire life that it intimidates them. I just assume I am not the right one for them if they find me intimidating. It used to bother me a lot. And I was dating this guy and he told me I was intimidating. I asked why and he said because it feels like you would have to bring your "A" game if they wanted to date you. He and I actually dated a little bit. But.. I always think about that. A lot of men don't like direct, intelligent or independent women. And that is ok. They just aren't for me. 
My partner can't be direct to save her life. Literally it doesn't matter how much or nicely I suggest she say what she's trying to say she just can't do it. God, some directness from a woman would be awesome! Higher intelligence and independence would be sweet as well.
As for the guy that said he'd have to bring his A game, I would think that should be what all men want to do if they're looking to keep seeing you. I supposed many are just too lazy to care or don't realize how fun it is to do your best (especially between the sheets)
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Thats cool to hear. He was fun. He was a younger guy 30's attorney. And I had a great time with him. He's contacted me a few times since that period i saw him. I have not seen him in awhile. I had some big life changes and can not do things i used to do. It was also a learning experience for me. I didn't realize I was intimidating. It used to hurt me hearing that. Now I just feel I am me and will connect with people who are ok with me. Im not going to change my confidence for another person. I probably am a lot for someone who is controlling or insecure. I have no desire to be with someone like that. Theres a downfall to being with attractive men also. I m aware my experience is not everyones. The man i was the most attracted to in my life slept around. Very painful. Healing from that I gained as a person. Infidelity fucks you up. I still struggle with it. Always will but I have to have reality checks sometimes. Because the person I love rejected me or cheated, feels the same Doesn't mean there's something wrong with me That's how it felt The other person who he cheated with was more attractive or whatever It can hurt and if you allow it destroy your self worth I still get insecure and find myself comparing myself Why was I not enough or am I unattractive etc It's important to know who you are and what you accept. Yo me tye most important is to remain kind and empathetic. You can experience something and become bitter or better. Bitter is easy Better takes work.
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An attractive man that cheats is insecure and an insecure man is a sad thing to see I wish it hadn't made you question your worth or attractiveness because his cheating had nothing to do with you Trust me, I know you're attractive and so should you
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A lot of men don't like direct, intelligent or independent women.
Some say this is a popular gender stereotype that's been spread, and is grossly exaggerated. It sure has a demeaning ring to it, right? Implying males often desire to have power over females. Many men greatly fear women. I think that fact lends itself to a more compassionate accurate perspective.
Feminism has promoted the idea that women don't really need men. Many women value their money making employment career more than having a relationship with a man. As I've said before, I know women who say that having a family is a form of slavery. Welcome to the new world disorder.
* Studies show single, childless women to be the happiest.
* Unmarried and childless women are the happiest subgroup in the population.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert
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I'm not childless and I sought a education and career to support my children after divorce. I have always valued my relationships. I have never been with a controlling man... for long. I know lots of women who are. To me a relationship is partnership where you support each other's growth in all positive areas. I agree some men fear women and women fear men for different reasons. And often same reasons. I can only focus on me. Relationships are very personal. Everyone has different experiences.
I often question my attractiveness which I didn't do before the infidelity. Its an aftermath I struggle with. Not daily but when I feel rejected or sexually frustrated.
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The emotional pain we feel regarding our partner's infidelity seems to be rooted in some type of notion of egotistical sexual ownership.
And, as humans, maybe we shouldn't assume or expect any other human will keep their promises. Is trusting someone to keep their promises wise? Maybe we should assume others very well might not keep their promises. Is that a jaded view - or simply realistic?
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I often question my attractiveness which I didn't do before the infidelity.
I believe that men do not have to be attractive, though should be capable.
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RJ Tubs 202 said: The emotional pain we feel regarding our partner's infidelity seems to be rooted in some type of notion of egotistical sexual ownership.
And, as humans, maybe we shouldn't assume or expect any other human will keep their promises. Is trusting someone to keep their promises wise? Maybe we should assume others very well might not keep their promises. Is that a jaded view - or simply realistic?
Good and valid points. Easier said than done. Im certainly jaded now. And not trusting or even sure if I believe in monogamy. I would say Im still healing and figuring it out.
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Anonymous #3 said: An attractive man that cheats is insecure and an insecure man is a sad thing to see I wish it hadn't made you question your worth or attractiveness because his cheating had nothing to do with you Trust me, I know you're attractive and so should you
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I often question my attractiveness which I didn't do before the infidelity.
I believe that men do not have to be attractive, though should be capable.
Capable in what ways? My two other major relationships were with what society would deem as unattractive. They were faithful though.
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durian_2008
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I believe that men do not have to be attractive, though should be capable.
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Capable in what ways?
I am not asking you to be Superman, but I once knew an especially fat person who could still pick up a motorcycle, yet who would be embarrassed to take of his shirt. I don't feel that he should be embarrassed.
We should ideally be capable of the male gender role.
That does not require us to be vampish or present as a virgin.
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I’ve seen chubby dudes do absolutely great with women. It’s all about confidence.
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durian_2008
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That's part of being in-character.
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GenesisCorrupted said: I’ve seen chubby dudes do absolutely great with women. It’s all about confidence.
Confidence and having a fun personality
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durian_2008
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When mgtow was still new, one of the first videos was of a radio personality, who rated his appearances in the negative, yet had all the women he wanted, due to material success.
Even if we want to say that this is just role play and being in character and a mating display, it might be considered a turn-on to be useful and needed.
Some kinds of independence are a tacit refusal to play. I def heard a snarky, crystal clear slogan about how she was self sufficient before a fof lost his million dollar home.
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Yes Love a confident person. And someone who is not needy. I have no desire to take care of an adult man.
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...some type of notion of egotistical sexual ownership.
Otherwise, why are you making it official.
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