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RJ Tubs 202 said: The emotional pain we feel regarding our partner's infidelity seems to be rooted in some type of notion of egotistical sexual ownership.
And, as humans, maybe we shouldn't assume or expect any other human will keep their promises. Is trusting someone to keep their promises wise? Maybe we should assume others very well might not keep their promises. Is that a jaded view - or simply realistic?
Good and valid points. Easier said than done. Im certainly jaded now. And not trusting or even sure if I believe in monogamy. I would say Im still healing and figuring it out.
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Anonymous #3 said: An attractive man that cheats is insecure and an insecure man is a sad thing to see I wish it hadn't made you question your worth or attractiveness because his cheating had nothing to do with you Trust me, I know you're attractive and so should you
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I often question my attractiveness which I didn't do before the infidelity.
I believe that men do not have to be attractive, though should be capable.
Capable in what ways? My two other major relationships were with what society would deem as unattractive. They were faithful though.
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durian_2008
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I believe that men do not have to be attractive, though should be capable.
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Capable in what ways?
I am not asking you to be Superman, but I once knew an especially fat person who could still pick up a motorcycle, yet who would be embarrassed to take of his shirt. I don't feel that he should be embarrassed.
We should ideally be capable of the male gender role.
That does not require us to be vampish or present as a virgin.
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I’ve seen chubby dudes do absolutely great with women. It’s all about confidence.
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That's part of being in-character.
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GenesisCorrupted said: I’ve seen chubby dudes do absolutely great with women. It’s all about confidence.
Confidence and having a fun personality
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When mgtow was still new, one of the first videos was of a radio personality, who rated his appearances in the negative, yet had all the women he wanted, due to material success.
Even if we want to say that this is just role play and being in character and a mating display, it might be considered a turn-on to be useful and needed.
Some kinds of independence are a tacit refusal to play. I def heard a snarky, crystal clear slogan about how she was self sufficient before a fof lost his million dollar home.
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Yes Love a confident person. And someone who is not needy. I have no desire to take care of an adult man.
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“One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient.”
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...some type of notion of egotistical sexual ownership.
Otherwise, why are you making it official.
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