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curiouscubes
Cherry Glaze

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Self-discipline. Very attractive when a significant other needs nothing but themselves to stay grounded / disciplined / healthy / etc.
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RJ Tubs 202



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The ability & willingness to be comfortable with silence is very attractive.
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GenesisCorrupted
Taoist, Writer, Student, Artist




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It definitely shows a level of mental stability. When somebody can just sit in a room silently for hours without needing to blast music or start making annoying noises. Thank you for that contribution.
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durian_2008
Cornucopian Eating an Elephant



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Or, if you can cook and clean and not gripe.
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LogicaL Chaos said: A woman who knows what they want, and lets you know it directly and explicitly, thats pretty hot.
I have to comment on this. This is me. But I have been told by men throughout my entire life that it intimidates them. I just assume I am not the right one for them if they find me intimidating. It used to bother me a lot. And I was dating this guy and he told me I was intimidating. I asked why and he said because it feels like you would have to bring your "A" game if they wanted to date you. He and I actually dated a little bit. But.. I always think about that. A lot of men don't like direct, intelligent or independent women. And that is ok. They just aren't for me.
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GenesisCorrupted
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Some people are intimidated by powerful women. Not me though.😂
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LogicaL Chaos
Ascension Energy & Alien UFOs




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Yeah i totally get that. Ive met some women who are intimidating in that sense, where i felt like i wasnt "good enough", that self-confidence anxiety and performance anxiety type of feeling. But overall, i am attracted to a woman who is explicit and direct in a sexy way. I should also mention i have an Amazon woman fetish so Im sure that plays into that preference.
Powerful, direct, confident, explicit women, very sexy to me
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durian_2008
Cornucopian Eating an Elephant



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I saw this one religious podcast, where the tiny munchkin-like wife occasionally cheers, in the background, in a helium voice.
And, this one Youtube channel, where she assists in light onstruction, sometimes, in a swimsuit. When not put to the coarsest kind of labor, they are well exercised and sometimes in good cheer.
It's not familiar to me. I feel no chemistry. I can platonically say there are no nameable flaws.
SWIM bitches her ass off, everytime she has to do a common chore, that afaic could be meditative. It sounds like a junkyard orchestra. Bullshit.
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Jewstress
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GenesisCorrupted said: Some people are intimidated by powerful women. Not me though.😂
Truth. I scare most people away and those that stick around need me in small doses.
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GenesisCorrupted
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Re: That’s a turn on… [Re: Jewstress]
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Jewstress said:
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GenesisCorrupted said: Some people are intimidated by powerful women. Not me though.😂
Truth. I scare most people away and those that stick around need me in small doses.
Bet your a beast in a mosh pit though.
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EternalDreamer
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When a woman is actually into me, or shows the slightest bit of interest (something other than half a sentence of misspelt words on Bumble) ... I've yet to find any
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GenesisCorrupted
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Then it’s time to check your approach.
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durian_2008
Cornucopian Eating an Elephant



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Some people are intimidated by powerful women.
Temporal power can be used in my favor.
Powerful speaking voices and effrontery should be saved for betas outside of my household, because I will make any reasonable accommodation of my own free will.
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Anonymous #3
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Anonymous #1 said:
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LogicaL Chaos said: A woman who knows what they want, and lets you know it directly and explicitly, thats pretty hot.
I have to comment on this. This is me. But I have been told by men throughout my entire life that it intimidates them. I just assume I am not the right one for them if they find me intimidating. It used to bother me a lot. And I was dating this guy and he told me I was intimidating. I asked why and he said because it feels like you would have to bring your "A" game if they wanted to date you. He and I actually dated a little bit. But.. I always think about that. A lot of men don't like direct, intelligent or independent women. And that is ok. They just aren't for me. 
My partner can't be direct to save her life. Literally it doesn't matter how much or nicely I suggest she say what she's trying to say she just can't do it. God, some directness from a woman would be awesome! Higher intelligence and independence would be sweet as well.
As for the guy that said he'd have to bring his A game, I would think that should be what all men want to do if they're looking to keep seeing you. I supposed many are just too lazy to care or don't realize how fun it is to do your best (especially between the sheets)
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Thats cool to hear. He was fun. He was a younger guy 30's attorney. And I had a great time with him. He's contacted me a few times since that period i saw him. I have not seen him in awhile. I had some big life changes and can not do things i used to do. It was also a learning experience for me. I didn't realize I was intimidating. It used to hurt me hearing that. Now I just feel I am me and will connect with people who are ok with me. Im not going to change my confidence for another person. I probably am a lot for someone who is controlling or insecure. I have no desire to be with someone like that. Theres a downfall to being with attractive men also. I m aware my experience is not everyones. The man i was the most attracted to in my life slept around. Very painful. Healing from that I gained as a person. Infidelity fucks you up. I still struggle with it. Always will but I have to have reality checks sometimes. Because the person I love rejected me or cheated, feels the same Doesn't mean there's something wrong with me That's how it felt The other person who he cheated with was more attractive or whatever It can hurt and if you allow it destroy your self worth I still get insecure and find myself comparing myself Why was I not enough or am I unattractive etc It's important to know who you are and what you accept. Yo me tye most important is to remain kind and empathetic. You can experience something and become bitter or better. Bitter is easy Better takes work.
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An attractive man that cheats is insecure and an insecure man is a sad thing to see I wish it hadn't made you question your worth or attractiveness because his cheating had nothing to do with you Trust me, I know you're attractive and so should you
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RJ Tubs 202



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Anonymous #1 said:
A lot of men don't like direct, intelligent or independent women.
Some say this is a popular gender stereotype that's been spread, and is grossly exaggerated. It sure has a demeaning ring to it, right? Implying males often desire to have power over females. Many men greatly fear women. I think that fact lends itself to a more compassionate accurate perspective.
Feminism has promoted the idea that women don't really need men. Many women value their money making employment career more than having a relationship with a man. As I've said before, I know women who say that having a family is a form of slavery. Welcome to the new world disorder.
* Studies show single, childless women to be the happiest.
* Unmarried and childless women are the happiest subgroup in the population.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert
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I'm not childless and I sought a education and career to support my children after divorce. I have always valued my relationships. I have never been with a controlling man... for long. I know lots of women who are. To me a relationship is partnership where you support each other's growth in all positive areas. I agree some men fear women and women fear men for different reasons. And often same reasons. I can only focus on me. Relationships are very personal. Everyone has different experiences.
I often question my attractiveness which I didn't do before the infidelity. Its an aftermath I struggle with. Not daily but when I feel rejected or sexually frustrated.
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RJ Tubs 202



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The emotional pain we feel regarding our partner's infidelity seems to be rooted in some type of notion of egotistical sexual ownership.
And, as humans, maybe we shouldn't assume or expect any other human will keep their promises. Is trusting someone to keep their promises wise? Maybe we should assume others very well might not keep their promises. Is that a jaded view - or simply realistic?
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durian_2008
Cornucopian Eating an Elephant



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I often question my attractiveness which I didn't do before the infidelity.
I believe that men do not have to be attractive, though should be capable.
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