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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28503039 - 10/13/23 09:40 AM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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Every woman is different. If the sex is not to your liking find a woman for whom it is.
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I have had a similar experience with past partners and a current partner.
I dunno, I think it's one of those things where you gotta decide how bad it bothers you. Sometimes, you just gotta go eat some carpet until she's done, then flip her around until you're done. Nothing wrong with that. Communication helps.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28503216 - 10/13/23 11:50 AM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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Ya, I agree with Kryptos-- eating pie till she finishes is a pretty great option to be faced with.
Alternate approaches-- have you ever tried introducing toys into the bedroom? Toys are amazing, and based on what you described, it sounds like something that mimics cunnilingous would be perfect. Think of something like The Womanizer or the Satisfyer-- both of those mimic oral sex. You have an amazing opportunity to explore her body and find out what works for her, and the both of you.
As for you and your stamina-- I've found that kratom works wonders for stamina, although I can't completely recommend you use it. There are also some numbing gels/sprays that you can apply to the head of your penis to reduce sensation and improve endurance.
Have fun!
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: pslyke]
#28503243 - 10/13/23 12:13 PM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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You gotta chill and get out of your own head.
Eat her out until there's no question that she's cummed her brains out, then just do whatever you feel like doing to get off. You earned it!
At this point in my marriage, my wife basically masturbates herself to climax before I'm inside of her every single time we have sex. And I'm pretty much right there at the gates playing with both her and myself, letting her fully cum and finish. At that exact moment, my dick could look at her pussy sideways and make it happen all over again. Pretty big ego boost, when I put it like that lol
But really, you're just trying to get each other off however you can. Don't overthink it or worry about past partners. Everyone's body and psychology is perpetually changing, anyway.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: pslyke] 2
#28503255 - 10/13/23 12:27 PM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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Most women aren’t going to come without stimulation to their clit. Less than 1 in 5 women can come from vaginal intercourse alone.
Do you know if she can even come from vaginal intercourse alone without clit stimulation? You’re making yourself insecure over these imaginary scenarios meanwhile YOU are the one making her cum. So what’s the problem? If you’re happy with this relationship outside the bedroom don’t let your ego destroy something good.
Like another poster said you should consider trying some toys for her clit to help her get off faster if it’s taking too long for you or you want to try to make her cum during intercourse.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: B Traven] 1
#28503351 - 10/13/23 02:33 PM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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B Traven said: Eat her out until there's no question that she's cummed her brains out, then just do whatever you feel like doing to get off. You earned it!
Gonna underline this. Honestly, I'd rather eat her out, because after that she WILL let me do whatever I want for however long I want. Way easier, and way better.
Edit: And no need to worry about sensitivity or anything. You make a girl cum hard with your tongue, and no more need to worry about anything. She'll be sensitive enough to love whatever you do to get off. I don't mean to be degrading, but good oral is like switching her into sex doll mode.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28503404 - 10/13/23 03:26 PM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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Any thoughts or advice?
Yup. Don't fuss.
Some questions for you: 1: When you're fucking, do you enjoy it? 2: When you're fucking, does she enjoy it? 3: Does she mind that she only comes if you eat her out?
Main question that supersedes all other ones: have you discussed the issue with her?
Don't ask the internet. Ask her. And ask yourself. You two are the only ones who matter in this. The rest is just noise.
PS: You're doing just fine. There's nothing wrong with you.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28503549 - 10/13/23 05:12 PM (3 months, 14 days ago) |
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I'm sorry. It seems like you're committed, but this is a dealbreaker for some picky people:
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I have a strong feeling she's been with people who fucked her
Be your best you. Enjoy what you've got. I don't feel that it's your job to compete with those people.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28503940 - 10/14/23 01:55 AM (3 months, 13 days ago) |
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Sometimes I'm blown away by the quality of responses I get on these forums. Thanks very much everyone for your valuable advice and perspective. I agree that this is mainly a topic for her and I, and feel guilty about posting it here. I just needed to vent a bit. We've been isolated without friends or family nearby and sometimes we both need some outside perspective on how things are going.
Thanks again to all.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28503973 - 10/14/23 03:05 AM (3 months, 13 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I agree that this is mainly a topic for her and I, and feel guilty about posting it here.
Hey, don't be! It's all good. I just wanted to make clear that in my view, whatever works for you and her will be fine as it is, regardless of what anyone else believes. Outside perspectives go in all directions. What really matters in the end, is your (plural) own perspectives.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: koraks]
#28504166 - 10/14/23 09:49 AM (3 months, 13 days ago) |
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I second toys.
Also, with PIV I can't cum without clitoral stimulation so I just do that myself - I've never had a partner complain about it and it leaves more room for him to enjoy himself without worrying so much.
Like everyone else is telling you, don't sweat it so much and just have fun
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28504204 - 10/14/23 10:42 AM (3 months, 13 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: Sometimes I'm blown away by the quality of responses I get on these forums.
I am self-conscious and hear myself, when I am being jerk-ish.
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durian_2008 said: Enjoy what you've got.
I see that I am showing you something goofy, but I am actually making a point:
Family Guy - It's Not Your Fault - Good Will Hunting
Excuse me, if these pop culture references are not from your generation or don't speak to you.
Life Lesson Star Trek Style
But, who are you actually competing with?
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28508115 - 10/17/23 12:59 PM (3 months, 10 days ago) |
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I have never had an orgasam from a man giving me head. I just never have. I get right there but no.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28508134 - 10/17/23 01:11 PM (3 months, 10 days ago) |
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Some women are just insensitive and need lots of stimulation to orgasm. Working on your thrusting technique can help as well as learning her specific internal anatomy can help too.
Theres some drugs you can try that you may have not tried yet: Viagra, Cocaine, Shrooms and Acid. Apparently Viagra works on women too. The other drugs i mentioned can turn a woman on as well, making orgasms easier.
Having a stable home life can help as well as a woman will feel more comfortable overall. Also, the more you get to know each other, the more comfortable she will feel with you both mentally and emotionally and thus this closeness may help with her orgasming.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 2
#28508141 - 10/17/23 01:16 PM (3 months, 10 days ago) |
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Theres nothing more beta than developing a cocaine addiction just to try getting your girl to cum.
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The cocaine is for the woman not OP.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28508147 - 10/17/23 01:18 PM (3 months, 10 days ago) |
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Alpha as fuck
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Nobody has mentioned it (probably because nobody knows about it) but both men and women should try pt-141 bremelanotide. Look into it.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#28508215 - 10/17/23 02:11 PM (3 months, 10 days ago) |
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I have orgasamed with it on shrooms and acid. Sober I feel like I am taking to long and it interrupts it and it stops. Im ok with that. I get on top and I am good.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: Anonymous #2] 1
#28511359 - 10/20/23 05:17 AM (3 months, 7 days ago) |
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Try anal. A lot of women cum harder, faster with anal stimulation then vaginal. Even women that have never been unable to achieve vaginal orgasm have finished anally.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: cricket] 1
#28511452 - 10/20/23 07:49 AM (3 months, 7 days ago) |
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I see lots of advice on physical and medical solutions and workarounds. I think it's all valid in a way.
If the situation asks for some kind of solution (see my earlier post; I'm not sure it does!), I'd like to emphasize the direction @logical_chaos offered and working on the mental side. Sometimes (quite often, actually) if a woman (or a man, for that matter) has difficulty orgasm, it's simply because they're not entirely comfortable. There can be issues with confidence in themselves, their partner or the relationship. For instance, there's hardly a bigger buzzkill than being self-conscious, possibly because of deeply embedded fears of somehow not living up to expectations. Trust and confidence help, but take time, dedication, reflection and confirmation/affirmation to build.
Of course, pills, toys and whatnot can be helpful and loads of fun just as well. But if there's a trust/confidence issue, resorting to aids to resolve the situation will likely achieve the exact opposite and just confirm to her that tools are needed to overcome her inadequacy.
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Re: Unable to make partner come without cunnilingus [Re: koraks]
#28511744 - 10/20/23 12:40 PM (3 months, 7 days ago) |
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I have a strong feeling she's been with people who fucked her
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I don't feel that it's your job to compete with those people.
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But, who are you actually competing with?
Rather than blindly competing with you-know-not-what, and asking strangers online what is good, you could always ask directly, what works best.
Is there some dynamic, in which communication is not casual and carefree?
Or, have I assumed that incorrectly?
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