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BeefSupremeJr
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: sudly]
#28505039 - 10/15/23 02:17 AM (3 months, 12 days ago) |
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i mean theres worse things in life than being cheated on
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sudly
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In life maybe, but not necessarily in relationships.
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: sudly]
#28505073 - 10/15/23 03:50 AM (3 months, 12 days ago) |
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sudly said: So she cheated and gas lighted you..
You can forgive someone for cheating but you can never forget, and shouldn't.
This is a bit harsh, and your comments here after . Beefy has moved on in his life, he's forgiven her and is happy for her . He admitted that at the time he could be hard to live with, he's mostly likely had to forgive himself in order to forgive others .
No need to be negative, it gets you nowhere in life and you'll be bitter to the point you won't even remember what you were bitter about. @BeefSupremeJr good for you for forgiving your ex , it's the first set to moving on with your life . Like you said there's worse things in life than being cheated on , I think getting stabbed is one of them.
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: mandrax360] 1
#28505081 - 10/15/23 04:00 AM (3 months, 12 days ago) |
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Oh yeah you can have compersion for someone sure, but it's no fault to remember what a red flag is and how clearly someone gas lit them with poor communication. It can help to prepare ones self better for healthier future relations.
Like I said, within a relationship there's not much worse than being cheated on other than physical violence. Don't minimise that.
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: sudly] 1
#28505247 - 10/15/23 08:43 AM (3 months, 12 days ago) |
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i feel like you misssed the point a bit. everyone knows theyll die one day but few have experienced the feeling of knowing they will die in the next 15 minutes.
i do appreciate that you read my story but i could do without the unsolicted advice. Ill be just fine, thank you though.
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: jughead] 2
#28508120 - 10/17/23 01:01 PM (3 months, 10 days ago) |
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Finding out they abused your child is worse
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BeefSupremeJr said: i mean theres worse things in life than being cheated on
My ex husband cheated on me and it was absolutely traumatizing. I felt as if everything in my life was a lie. It was the second most traumatizing thing that has ever happened to me. I think if it was a boyfriend, it would hurt but I could of moved on easier. My husband devestated me. I think we were married 15 years when it happened. Killed me... destroyed me.
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If she can see it, she can be it.
I don't understand why they sign on the dotted line of a legally binding contract, if there is no traditional understanding of possession and ownership.
Before any of the simps groan at me, why must she use your name and/or mailbox.
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BeefSupremeJr said: i mean theres worse things in life than being cheated on
My ex husband cheated on me and it was absolutely traumatizing. I felt as if everything in my life was a lie. It was the second most traumatizing thing that has ever happened to me. I think if it was a boyfriend, it would hurt but I could of moved on easier. My husband devestated me. I think we were married 15 years when it happened. Killed me... destroyed me.
I sure don't mean to minimize the pain of that. I was married 9 years when the same thing. your life and all your happiness and memories turns to ash in your hands. I have been there and I truly am sorry.
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You can prettymuch set someone up for any arrangement humanly possible. There is no reason to do anything ever under false pretenses.
Except for the joy they take in gas lighting and predation. That's how they wanted it.
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Anonymous #1 said: My ex husband cheated on me and it was absolutely traumatizing. I felt as if everything in my life was a lie. It was the second most traumatizing thing that has ever happened to me. I think if it was a boyfriend, it would hurt but I could of moved on easier. My husband devestated me. I think we were married 15 years when it happened. Killed me... destroyed me.
sometimes as a male there are temptations, hormones, whatever. it's posts like yours that remind me (and perhaps others) that cheating and doing that to someone is soul poison all around and to never ever allow ourselves to go down that road even for a moment. thank you for that reminder. i am so sorry to hear that happened to you
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: jughead]
#28510553 - 10/19/23 01:29 PM (3 months, 8 days ago) |
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It was devastating and in 2015. We divorced and currently boyfriend girlfriend. I struggle with that. ... alot. I like being with him, I enjoy him, etc I remember and I don't ever want to not remember. In the heat of the moment he told me some things, " I will always cheat on you" " I will always lie to you about it" My views on commitment and marriage have forever been altered. Like everyone, we have experiences that change us to the core. He has changed drastically. I am unsure what I want. Except I am not unhappy. But long for certain things and unsure of my own needs currently due to other things.
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: Jewstress]
#28511221 - 10/19/23 11:31 PM (3 months, 7 days ago) |
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Jewstress said: si=PfeN9EsgqNEeRNrk
Do you respond to a lot of posts with videos? This is quite wonderful!!
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Re: When your ex moved on [Re: jughead]
#28511234 - 10/19/23 11:39 PM (3 months, 7 days ago) |
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Oh also Iβm sure youβre past this initial feeling OP, but wipe hands, move on with life.
Iβve had some reconnects with exes who I thought I wanted to marry while we were together. Got dumped in a pretty rough way to say the least. She was pregnant like a month after breaking up, and I was close to ring shopping haha.
Anyways we reconnected a few years later and I was catching FB posts saying their anniversary was when we were still together. And I was like fuck this, why am I trying to befriend the past, and not even good past. Told her I wish her the best with her life and we never spoke again. Past is in the past, just try and live your best life - if somehow that involves reconnecting then so be it, but for me it didnβt feel like it would be that way, and I am super happy with the life Iβve been blessed with having looked forward instead of backward.
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Anonymous #1 said: Finding out they abused your child is worse
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