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#28465496 - 09/11/23 03:08 PM (4 months, 15 days ago) |
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Since this site inherently draws people willing to operate outside of vanilla boundaries... has anyone had any group sex experiences they want to share?
I've done it a few times. Has always been a positive experience. I get off on seeing and being seen, as does my girlfriend. Plus it gives the chance to experience other people sexually without cheating. We don't have full on sex with anyone else, just enjoy the group atmosphere. We always go over our ground rules first so no feelings get hurt. The girls often play with each other, which is within everyone's comfort zone. I'm not ok with her doing much with another guy, but I allow fingering and boob sucking from other guys. She's not ok with me penetrating another girl but allows me to finger and boob suck, I think I may have gotten head once but alcohol and weed are often involved so my memory isn't perfect.
I think it really cuts down on the desire to cheat. Seeing other girls nude, getting to see them actually have sex, hear their moans, their dirty talk, see what they look like in the throes of orgasm... I feel like I'm experiencing 99% of what sex would be like with them. I don't need that extra 1% of actually doing it. I definitely don't need that 1% at the expense of my relationship and the crushing guilt that would ensue. Plus I have the thought of "where else am I going to find a girl cool enough to be down for this?" I think its helped me stay faithful where I may have faltered otherwise. I think she feels the same; not many guys would be alright with their girlfriend showing off for their friends. We both get to play out our desires in a safe, controlled way where we're comfortable and having fun.
It usually starts with some kind of game to ratchet the sexual tension up. Beer pong with some kind of strip element, truth or dare, etc. That adrenaline rush of getting naked in front of others or watching others get naked really turns us on. We all try to milk that phase as long as we can to maximize the tension before easing into foreplay. We all communicate during foreplay, complimenting each other, enjoying the sights, repeating "damn this is great."
The actual sex part is kind of anticlimactic. I position us so that we can see what everyone else is doing while they can see us. I always make a point of taking a break and just walking around watching others. I make sure everyone knows if they want to come over and watch us they're welcome to. I love when others give me encouragement like "yeah, fuck her good" or something so I try to reciprocate. Hearing the way other couples dirty talk has given us hot new ideas to try, and my friends have gotten ideas from us too.
We've done this 5-10 times in different sized groups and it has been overwhelmingly positive every single time. Never any jealousy, anger, or negativity in any way. But its been a while and I'm getting antsy to do it again. I think she is too. I'd love to hear your experiences!
Edit: should mention this has always taken place with established friends who know we're into this kind of thing and want to try it out. We've never done it with strangers or anyone more distant than a friend of a friend. We've thought about looking for other couples online but have always shied away from it in the end. If you've tried meeting up with people from the internet, I'd love to know how it went!
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I had a 4some once with 2 of my best friends (guy and a girl) and some other girl that that my friend brought and she instigated the entire thing basically. I was just watching and doing some choch at first laughing, then the girl pulled me in. I wasn't expecting or ready or prepared for it and did way too much marching powder before it even started and it was the only time in my life that I couldn't get it up, in front of 2 of my best friends and some new girl hahah. It was fine I wasn't even embarrassed or anything.
I did get to eat out a girl with my bff girl at the same time and that's when we knew we were broskis for life. And because of my flaccid issues, I was able to watch the girls scissor - which was quite possibly the most entertaining thing I've ever seen and it was exactly like the South Park episode. They really nailed it.
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Just 3-somes so far, but you never know where life takes us. We may hook up with another couple in the future; it's something we're exploring, but we're not really in a hurry. Larger groups - I don't know. Doesn't attract me all that much. I prefer to focus on people in a more intimate way, I guess. I can see the appeal of a larger group or orgy kind of thing, but it's not something that appeals to me personally, that much. I probably wouldn't mind, terribly, either. I do notice that the swinger community operates a little (well, actually very) differently from e.g. the BDSM community, which is something I have a little more affinity with. The swinger community tends to be a bit superficial, people's boundaries and needs are crossed just a little (or a lot) easier - but it's also more informal and overall 'easier'. Substance and alcohol use during encounters is also far more common.
The BDSM community is different in the sense that it's fairly strict in protecting people's boundaries, there's lots of explicit negotiation going on all the time, people are very direct and open about what they want and where their limits are, and 'play' is mostly done in a sober and composed state of mind, especially if people are new / unknown to each other. I find that overall, there's more depth and intimacy to these contacts. Some of my friends are pretty deeply embedded in this way of life, and it's these friends I would literally trust with my life - because I know they're wired this way. The people we did 3-somes with...not so much, even if with most of them we build pretty profound rapport before anything physical happened. With swingers? Heck, I wouldn't trust them beyond the contents of their pants, if that! This may be fine for casual encounters, but I personally find those less and less appealing as I grow older.
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shed light said: Never any jealousy, anger, or negativity in any way.
But there are clear restrictions in your case, aren't there? No penetration of others? You also said something about 'having sex with others without cheating', which I understand, but if you reflect on it, what does it really mean?
I'm highlighting this because I recognize the sentiments, and there's probably stuff going on in your minds (individually and as a couple) that maybe you've not recognize yet, or that you're not willing to confront. I'm not saying this because I believe you necessarily should deal with that stuff - if you're having fun, hey, that's great. But for me, experiences like these have always been mostly interesting because they help you grow as a person and as a couple. You learn things about yourself, each other and about your bond that you otherwise wouldn't encounter. Many of these things have to do with fears, feelings of insecurity etc. that can be counterproductive in a relationship, even if you end up leading a very vanilla life.
I guess what I'm saying is that it's worthwhile using these experiences to reflect on, by yourself, and with your partner. This involves confronting the not so nice things, and acknowledging the difficult bits. But exactly that is really worth it.
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If you've tried meeting up with people from the internet, I'd love to know how it went!
We and I have met people from the internet in a sexual (or planned sexual) setting in many different ways over the years. The couples thing is relatively new to us and frankly, we've only met one couple yet, so far, with the kind of intentions in mind that you're talking about. That's outside the BDSM community; that's kind of a different territory where I know a few people, we have some friends there (some are more my friends, some are our friends as a couple), etc. All those contacts originated online, too, eventually, but most of that is years ago. For instance, the BDSM couple we associate the most with I got to know 8 years ago or so and we've been in touch (on and off) ever since.
As to the sort-of-swinger couple we just met - really, really nice people, honestly. Nothing has happened yet and maybe it never will, but we had a great chat with them and who knows where it may go. We'll probably meet them in the future, if only to keep track of how we're doing and to share experiences etc. We've been in touch with several more couples online, but we're very, very selective in who we spend our time with. As said, we have a history of 3-somes and we learned many things from that. The most important lesson was really that our time is valuable and we only intend to share it with people we feel kinship with. If we were into just casual encounters, we'd just haul off to the nearest swingers' or couples club and have a fun night; no need to make things complicated. Pay the ticket, pull pants down and get cracking. But that's not who we are.
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koraks]
#28467734 - 09/13/23 03:22 PM (4 months, 13 days ago) |
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shed light said: Never any jealousy, anger, or negativity in any way.
But there are clear restrictions in your case, aren't there? No penetration of others? You also said something about 'having sex with others without cheating', which I understand, but if you reflect on it, what does it really mean?
Yes, we have clear restrictions set up. We go over them together as a couple, and then again with anyone else involved. We have always done it with another couple we've known for years. Any additional people have been involved through them and have all been delightful as well, nobody has ever tried to cross any lines or gotten hurt feelings, etc.
I'm more into the visual element than anything else. So seeing other people have sex is almost as good as actually having sex to me. I also get a thrill out of showing off. We've talked about it and my girlfriend feels the same. We both get to enjoy a sexual experience with other people, without actually having sex with anyone else. That's what I mean by experiencing others sexually without cheating. To us, that's 99% of the benefits with none of the drawbacks. I really enjoy her showing off for others and sharing her amazing body- actually having sex with another man is just not ok though. She says she likes me showing off for others, but obviously doesn't want me to actually have sex with them. Like a mushroom tea. Pretty much as effective as munching them, but without any upset stomach.
The BDSM community always sounds so amazing. Anyone I've talked to in that lifestyle has nothing but great things to say about their experiences and others in the community. I'm genuinely curious and would love to dip my toes. I don't think its my 'thing' necessarily, but it certainly sounds like a lot of fun. It sounds thrilling at least! I wish society (and people in general) were a little more open to tying different things sexually. What's the downside in giving something a try even if you end up not loving it? Why are we so strangely cloistered when it comes to sex but share every tiny detail about the rest of our lives on social media? It's bizarre.
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Sounds like you've got a combination of voyeurism, exhibitionism and candaulism* going on. Nice; I can relate, at least to some of it. My partner and I share some of those interests and play with that as well, although (so far) in different ways than you do.
> The BDSM community always sounds so amazing. Well, yes and no. It's amazing, and it's amazingly frustrating and annoying sometimes, like any community.
It's great that so many people in that community find ways to act out their weirdness and that helps to embrace your own. It's annoying that the BDSM community isn't really a community at all, and boils down to a fairly representative cross-section of Western society, and just as full of bigots, morons, retards, etc. as the world in general. There's also some smart, kind and openminded people, but don't expect any more of them than in the waiting room at the dentist's. It's amazing how generous people can be in that community and just the reference of having been kind and respectful to people in the past being the ticket for others to be kind and respectful to you, and even help you out and spend time doing that. It's annoying how many people in the 'community' are just there to peddle their fleshy goods and lure the vulnerable to pay sites, or even worse, execute intricate ploys fueled by personality disorders, ultimately leaving the victims broken by the wayside.
It's like a box of chocolates, except there's no guarantee that everything brown and soft in the box is really chocolate.
I trust you're aware of FetLife. If you're not, you could have a peek. It shows the BDSM community at its best and at its worst at the same time. I use it a bit to keep in touch with a few people and to post photos. It took me years to to come to grips with it and the place still annoys the fuck out of me some of the time, but as time goes by, I find it easier to just ignore the ugly bits and embrace the positive aspects.
All that being said, I don't consider myself to be part of the 'BDSM community' insofar as it actually exists. It's just a bunch of people being kinky. Some of those people feel the need to belong to some sort of group, so I guess that's where the community aspect came from. I never feel like belonging to any group, and I've come to realize I'm perfectly happy with my spot somewhere in the margins where I can pick and choose the things I like, without the obligation of going along in the parts I can't relate to.
Finding your place is the challenging bit. Finding out who you are and how you're wired is part of it, and ultimately much more relevant.
*Google it; I bet you never heard of it, but I also bet it's going to make perfect sense to you. Trust me on the sunscreen.
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koraks] 1
#28468857 - 09/14/23 02:41 PM (4 months, 12 days ago) |
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Ehhh, not so much on the candualism. I like her showing herself off. I would feel very weird about me showing her off. I get off on her being an exhibitionist, but would never want to share photos of her with friends or on the internet myself. The other participants in our group activities get to see because they're there, participating. They're part of the experience, part of the group sharing in it. We're all sharing in something together.
Showing her off outside of that context seems almost like cuckoldry *lite*... "I don't want you to fuck my girlfriend, but I get off on you seeing her completely exposed." Not my thing. I would find it hot if she/I/we showed off pictures of me/us to another female or couple though, now that I think about it. That would actually be really hot. I guess I just wouldn't want to show pictures of her to another guy, or her lone to another couple.
Weird place to draw the line? Maybe. But sex isn't logical.
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How so, if I may ask?
And I've heard of fetlife by name, but have no idea what it actually is. I like the bit about "It's great that so many people in that community find ways to act out their weirdness and that helps to embrace your own." That sounds really liberating and healthy. There's all sorts of kinky stuff I could get into if I knew everybody was non-judgmental!
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shed light said: Showing her off outside of that context seems almost like cuckoldry *lite*..."I don't want you to fuck my girlfriend, but I get off on you seeing her completely exposed."
No, it's different. I notice there's a lot of confusion about concepts where someone shows off their (female) partner or involves others in sexual activities, where some people jump to the conclusion it must be cuckoldry. It can be, no doubt, but for most people I talk to, and certainly for us, it's virtually the opposite dynamic.
In a cuckold situation, the essence is that the male partner (the cuck) is dominated and humiliated by the experience of his female partner having sex (possibly being dominated in the process as well) with another man (usually). The dynamic of candaulism, at least in the flavor we practice, is different because: 1: The sexual activitity of others is irrelevant and is usually not involved in it. I.e., I don't know or care if others 'get off' on her. It's irrelevant to me. I suppose some do - if so, good for them, but for me/us, it doesn't make a difference. 2: The possibility of sex (i.e. her being fucked by others, and especially her not having a say in that) is real, although it's not vital to the core dynamic. It's one of the scenarios we're undoubtedly going to include in this at some point. If/when it happens, the essence is not so much how that affects me, but what it means for her position and degree of autonomy. The role of the man (or woman, or couple) involved is virtually irrelevant; i.e. it doesn't matter if they're dominant, submissive or neither. This is also different from a typical cuckold situation, where the dominance or submission of the third is a vital aspect, with several flavors of cuckoldry relating to the different options. 3: The power transaction goes in the other direction than in cuckoldry. I.e. I take autonomy away from my partner instead of her exercising dominance over me, or someone else using her as a proxy to dominate me. In our case, the one who's exhibited is the one being dominated - or even humiliated.
Of course, the variant that you interpreted it to be is also possible, but it doesn't appeal to either of us. To each their own, but it's no my cup of tea.
In summary, the main difference in how it works for you vs. for us is that power exchange is a crucial aspect in our play, with the power exchange being the opposite of a cuckold situation - without it being a cuckquean scenario, either. That's something different yet again. Not all candaulism necessarily features a strong power exchange aspect, but it's one of those things that can work well in combination - in many different ways.
If you want to put an easy tag on it, I'd call it something like 'forced exhibitionism'. The 'forced' bit reflects the power dynamic, while the 'exhibitionism' relates to the showing off - which btw is something that's present in both an active and a passive sense. By this, I mean that the active part relates to me showing her off, and she being a passive exhibitionist who enjoys being shown off.
Everything is of course within certain limits; terms like 'humiliation' may sound pretty extreme, but may not be as harsh in the actual context than they might seem on paper. There's lots of negotiation and reflection going on, and it's the exploration of the boundaries that's one of the most interesting aspects. As often, play is particularly nice if it happens in that area close to the boundaries, without transgressing them in an undesirable way.
I think the above answers the 'how so' question to a large extent; at least the essential bits of it. It's just one part of our dynamic, btw. There's lots more going on, but this is the part that most closely relates to the 'seeing and being seen' dynamic.
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koraks]
#28470803 - 09/16/23 07:58 AM (4 months, 10 days ago) |
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This is awesome. I was having group sex for period of my life but couldn't commit to the lifestyle long term. You anf your partner must have some serious respect and chemistry. Well done man. You're living a sexualising fulfilling life.
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koraks]
#28471961 - 09/17/23 06:50 AM (4 months, 9 days ago) |
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koraks said: If you want to put an easy tag on it, I'd call it something like 'forced exhibitionism'. The 'forced' bit reflects the power dynamic, while the 'exhibitionism' relates to the showing off - which btw is something that's present in both an active and a passive sense. By this, I mean that the active part relates to me showing her off, and she being a passive exhibitionist who enjoys being shown off.
Everything is of course within certain limits; terms like 'humiliation' may sound pretty extreme, but may not be as harsh in the actual context than they might seem on paper. There's lots of negotiation and reflection going on, and it's the exploration of the boundaries that's one of the most interesting aspects. As often, play is particularly nice if it happens in that area close to the boundaries, without transgressing them in an undesirable way.
I think the above answers the 'how so' question to a large extent; at least the essential bits of it. It's just one part of our dynamic, btw. There's lots more going on, but this is the part that most closely relates to the 'seeing and being seen' dynamic.
Yup, got it. That made it click and I totally get it now. Once you introduce the power dynamic aspect, I totally get how/why that's appealing. I didn't know it was something partner A (in this case your partner) was into/a part of. I thought it was just partner b (you) getting off on showing her off without her knowledge or with her not really caring. If she's into it and gets that shame rush, I totally understand how that's appealing to you both. Its the convergence of power dynamic and voyeurism/exhibitionism. Very hot indeed.
Thanks for taking the time to explain it in depth. I learned something new and gained an appreciation for something I previously didn't understand. Thank you.
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Markamello said: This is awesome. I was having group sex for period of my life but couldn't commit to the lifestyle long term. You anf your partner must have some serious respect and chemistry. Well done man. You're living a sexualising fulfilling life.
Thanks for the kind words. I like to think we do and its always nice when someone else recognizes it.
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shed light said: Yup, got it. That made it click and I totally get it now. Once you introduce the power dynamic aspect, I totally get how/why that's appealing. I didn't know it was something partner A (in this case your partner) was into/a part of. I thought it was just partner b (you) getting off on showing her off without her knowledge or with her not really caring.
Aahh, yes, that's a crucial aspect to it, indeed. For us, it's really very similar to other BDSM practices. Take spanking - one person likes being spanked and the other likes to administer the spanking. In our case, replace the whip/flogger/etc with a camera and it still works very similarly. The difference of course is that in our case, the presence of an audience is relevant, even if their actual response is not necessarily important.
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Thanks for taking the time to explain it in depth. I learned something new and gained an appreciation for something I previously didn't understand. Thank you.
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I'm territorial, and that's what I call it. 
I have noticed a power dynamic, where Type-A's bring you simps as gifts, or lend them out to be used.
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I have noticed a power dynamic, where Type-A's bring you simps as gifts, or lend them out to be used.
Where have you noticed this?
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koods]
#28479735 - 09/23/23 10:29 AM (4 months, 3 days ago) |
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Churches are incredibly fucked up places, as a matter of fact.
One of these parishoners, who brought me cadamites, eventually became a pastor, who would arrange seating with big titted women, preferentially.
Another one of these 'fixers' was usually a chapstick lesbian. Kind of looked like a young Mike Rowe, with long, red hair and girl muscles.
A-Type's give nejurotics away, as a form of currency. Or, they lend them out like a tool. It's not just a prison trope.
You've probably been set up, without realizing it.
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durian_2008 said: Churches are incredibly fucked up places, as a matter of fact.
One of these parishoners, who brought me cadamites, eventually became a pastor, who would arrange seating with big titted women, preferentially.
Another one of these 'fixers' was usually a chapstick lesbian. Kind of looked like a young Mike Rowe, with long, red hair and girl muscles.
A-Type's give nejurotics away, as a form of currency. Or, they lend them out like a tool. It's not just a prison trope.
You've probably been set up, without realizing it.
So just to be clear, we're talking about alpha female church lesbians whoring out their beta companions to male parishoners?
If this was a porno, I'd watch it.
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The alpha chick worked at Kmart, just before closing.
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durian_2008 said: Churches are incredibly fucked up places, as a matter of fact.
One of these parishoners, who brought me cadamites, eventually became a pastor, who would arrange seating with big titted women, preferentially.
Another one of these 'fixers' was usually a chapstick lesbian. Kind of looked like a young Mike Rowe, with long, red hair and girl muscles.
A-Type's give nejurotics away, as a form of currency. Or, they lend them out like a tool. It's not just a prison trope.
You've probably been set up, without realizing it.
So just to be clear, we're talking about alpha female church lesbians whoring out their beta companions to male parishoners?
If this was a porno, I'd watch it.
I need to start going to church again to see if I realise that I've been set up
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Another social institution taken over by another vice. Most businesses probably have nothing to with whatever is on the sign.
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You didn't think that had anything to do with group sex but names can be named.
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The cult that has apparently fucked you up for life has nothing to do with the topic at hand.
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Ain't that true. Reported it, too, but nothing is being done.
Makes you wonder what 'moderator' means, these days. When I moderated this place, I probably would have done something about it. Are any of the moderators of the S&R forum actually active, still? Or is this just an unmoderated wasteland?
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koods]
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It happens in corporate circles, 501c3 status being besides the point.
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It happens in corporate circles,Levi's 501s status being besides the point.
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I'm not sure I follow the chain of events here, but I feel like we got pretty off in the weeds with the church stuff. Then again, I'm 'off in the weeds' so my comprehension may be a bit... compromised.
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koods]
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I am saying that, if you follow different people's cues, group sex dynamics and get-togethers are found in churches, public office, and places of employment. All around you, and you never realized it.
Lower middle class and down are run on drugs of addiction. Upper middle class and up is run on weird sex, as best I can figure.
I don't want to know this stuff; they want me to be the Bubba guy.
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mandrax360
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durian_2008 said: Lower middle class and down are run on drugs of addiction. Upper middle class and up is run on weird sex, as best I can figure.
Damn. Now THAT is an observation! I can't say I agree 100% but there's definitely an interesting trend/correlation there.
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mandrax360 said: Levi's 501s status being besides the point.
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durian_2008 said: Jim Crow is not entirely about race. Just saying.
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All different demographics of people, of different abilities, were held in protective custody, due to their inability to comprehend civics or home economics or to perform alongside people of average abilities.
I never particularly write above a highschool reading level.
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durian_2008 said: Lower middle class and down are run on drugs of addiction. Upper middle class and up is run on weird sex, as best I can figure.
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shed light said: Damn. Now THAT is an observation! I can't say I agree 100% but there's definitely an interesting trend/correlation there.
Say it without the owl or funny hand signals, and it's not even a conspiracy theory. If you can describe the silly things that happen right under your nose, in broad daylight, you are the free press.
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durian_2008 said: Lower middle class and down are run on drugs of addiction. Upper middle class and up is run on weird sex, as best I can figure.
Damn. Now THAT is an observation! I can't say I agree 100% but there's definitely an interesting trend/correlation there.
It’s usually the ones that are overly concerned with weird sex who have women chained up in their basements
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durian_2008
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koods said: It’s usually the ones that are overly concerned with weird sex who have women chained up in their basements
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koods said: The cult that has apparently fucked you up for life has nothing to do with the topic at hand.
Here are a couple of perspectives on the issue of sex and civic life;
https://www.thecollector.com/pedophilia-ancient-greece-rome/ vs.
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I am a conscientious objector, but you are putting on airs.
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durian_2008
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Re: Group Sex [Re: koods]
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“CAESAR: Let me have men about me that are fat, Sleek-headed men, and such as sleep a-nights. Yond Cassius has a lean and hungry look. He thinks too much. Such men are dangerous.
ANTONY:Fear him not, Caesar; he’s not dangerous. He is a noble Roman, and well given.
CAESAR: Would he were fatter! But I fear him not. Yet if my name were liable to fear, I do not know the man I should avoid So soon as that spare Cassius. He reads much, He is a great observer, and he looks Quite through the deeds of men.”
― William Shakespeare, Julius Caesar
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durian_2008 said: I don't want to know this stuff; they want me to be the Bubba guy.
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koods said: It’s usually the ones that are overly concerned with weird sex who have women chained up in their basements
It can be arranged, but an old chickenhawk wants to be first in line.
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Love it Go to a swingers club and try it.
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durian_2008
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It was so forced and not sexy at all....I NEVER hooked up with a couple that did not get jealous. They all do. It is uncomfortable.
I might describe myself as being sex-positive on a Fred Flintstone kind-of level. That's not the dynamic these people are looking for.
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And I never exchanged information with anyone. Everything was kept in the club.
Anyone with a hole in the wall could be the next Epstein guy.
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The boob cruise staff would physically remove your clothing off people, and pair people up and it was a show... and I was just not into it. They tried to remove my bikini top and i said no. If I was to do that, it would be because I want to. I remained clothed... a bikini. I was not nude and did not participate. It made me uncomfortable because it was forced... level of force- idk I stayed in the back of the boat. It was to much for me. That was my feelings. Others probably had a blast. My partner hated it more then I did.
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I’ve never had group sex
But it is a goal. 😎 those living the mature adult play life keep repping
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