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BeefSupremeJr
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So many thoughtful responses. And the most thoughtful of them is from *drum roll*
a woman. imagine that.
Heres something you can put in your pocket forever and ever.
If you find yourself at odds with an entire cross section of people, the issue probably isnt those people. its you.
Edited by BeefSupremeJr (08/30/23 06:42 PM)
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CookieCrumbs
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High maintenance = actually wants an emotional connection
Gold digging = is wary of dating another bum with no ambition or motivation to be self sufficient
I get along with dudes more easily than women too but that would be especially true if I excluded all the women I am exclusively friends with.
When women see a dude who has a bunch of dude bro friends and no girl friends and she immediately sees flags.
I don't think you would be much happier with the sort of men you attract into long term relationships.
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Re: I want to be Gay [Re: nooneman]
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Yes!!!!!
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nooneman said: Part of the problem is the way you're talking about women on this thread.
Why would a woman want to be with someone who feels all these negative things about them? Even if you try to hide these things, it's probably going to come out in the way you treat them and the things you say.
No one wants to be with someone who thinks they're a "delicate super high maintenance stuck-up wallflower with control problems and a god complex who gets set off by the smallest thing and only cares about money and just wants someone who pays the bills while they cheat." That in and of itself going to drive all women away, even if you try to hide how you feel. Also tons of women (even very skinny ones) honestly think they're fat, so your belief that "fat women are just as unattractive as men" is going to drive pretty much all women away, even the ones who don't think they're fat. When a woman thinks to herself "would he still like me if I was fat?" how do you think she'd feel about you in that moment?
I went from having not much money to having a lot, and it didn't change my dating life at all. If you think that's going to have any impact, you're dead wrong.
The problem is not your looks, or your money. So get back on that horse and keep trying. Expect to get turned down hundreds of times, that's normal.
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nooneman said: Part of the problem is the way you're talking about women on this thread.
Why would a woman want to be with someone who feels all these negative things about them? Even if you try to hide these things, it's probably going to come out in the way you treat them and the things you say.
No one wants to be with someone who thinks they're a "delicate super high maintenance stuck-up wallflower with control problems and a god complex who gets set off by the smallest thing and only cares about money and just wants someone who pays the bills while they cheat." That in and of itself going to drive all women away, even if you try to hide how you feel. Also tons of women (even very skinny ones) honestly think they're fat, so your belief that "fat women are just as unattractive as men" is going to drive pretty much all women away, even the ones who don't think they're fat. When a woman thinks to herself "would he still like me if I was fat?" how do you think she'd feel about you in that moment?
I went from having not much money to having a lot, and it didn't change my dating life at all. If you think that's going to have any impact, you're dead wrong.
The problem is not your looks, or your money. So get back on that horse and keep trying. Expect to get turned down hundreds of times, that's normal.
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loladoreen


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Thats a hard truth to here. We all have to ask ourselves that often. If you are the problem, its an easier fix, you cant change others, you can change yourself.
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BeefSupremeJr said: So many thoughtful responses. And the most thoughtful of them is from *drum roll*
a woman. imagine that.
Heres something you can put in your pocket forever and ever.
If you find yourself at odds with an entire cross section of people, the issue probably isnt those people. its you.
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BeefSupremeJr
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loladoreen said: Thats a hard truth to here. We all have to ask ourselves that often. If you are the problem, its an easier fix, you cant change others, you can change yourself.
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BeefSupremeJr said: So many thoughtful responses. And the most thoughtful of them is from *drum roll*
a woman. imagine that.
Heres something you can put in your pocket forever and ever.
If you find yourself at odds with an entire cross section of people, the issue probably isnt those people. its you.
my grandpa told me that at a young age. I think at the time I didnt quite grasp what he was trying to say. "But all these people are mean to me so how can that be my fault".
for sure sometimes people will yuck your yum but its a virtue to learn to step over most subtle forms of bullshit. That is how giants are made.
For the same reason, I refuse to get into it about politics with other working class people. For sure some of them make my eye twitch with their bad opinions and attitudes but I remind myself that theyre just playing the part they were assigned. Multi-trillion dollar brainwash machine go brrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
There are real enemies in this world and seldom are they other working class people. Of course theres assholes out there but its plain to see that most of them are just suffering and hissing and spitting venom.
The true enemy are the mega-weatlhy ruling class. If you dont have a problem with the wealth hoarding dragons of this world, Id say you lack compassion for those suffering the most from it and that is why is say "probably" its you and not them. sometimes theres a man..
Edited by BeefSupremeJr (09/01/23 09:00 AM)
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CookieCrumbs said:
When women see a dude who has a bunch of dude bro friends and no girl friends and she immediately sees flags.
It can be difficult and challenging for males to have close female friends. A guy with a girlfriend or wife is at risk of being accused of having an "emotional affair". And single females are often reluctant to have a close relationship with a single male. I've had female friends become suspicious of my motivations for wanting to spend some time with them. Once I was asked, "What do you want from me?" Men are often stereotyped as "horn dogs" with only one thing on their mind.
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I would agree that is a very stereotypical response sometimes. My best friend was a man for 20+ years. He was the maid of honor at my wedding. At the time I was young, 20 yo and did not understand the big deal of me spending the night with him, etc. FYI we have never been physical ever. I was immature and didn't understand others points of views. Now.. .I understand but I am not sure I would of done things different. He was my best friend and I never gave a reason for anyone to be suspicious. But I understand now as an older adult, why they would be if they were. I honestly didnt care then and I wouldnt care now. He is an amazing human.
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Bc of hyper-sexualization and the extreme commodification of sex, coupled with capitalist mentalities and ideals, "Platonic" has nearly been banished to the middle ages I mean every person acts like you are "out to get something" (no specific gender attributed) Much more so concerning a person with a dick having a ... *gasp*... normal human relation/friendship with a human wielding a vagina!!!
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CaptainTrips420 said: I just never meet a woman with a good personality always stuck-up women with control problems and a God complex. I was thinking about trying to date a Gay man eventually but need blind folds so I dont have to look at them and it will help them not see me cry. 
I feel ya. Pay no attention to those calling this incel speak. It's real talk I'm straight, married, twice your age and know a lot of people. Not one woman I know would make a good partner. I live my life to the best of my ability with my wife and look elsewhere for my happiness. I don't mean with other women, I'm completely faithful, I just don't look to that relationship for happiness anymore and it's helping
I got no advice for ya except I'll tell you you're right about a lot of things for a young man and clearly you can't decide to be gay just like gay people can't choose to be straight
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I am mad been watching gay porn. I cant get hard from it unless I touch myself watching by itself doesn't work and when im done I actually feel psychical sick I think gay stuff is an acquired taste I have not devolved. I watch lesbian porn and get hard as a rock in less than 3 seconds no touching involved. I wish I could find a woman who is respectful to me like a partner not someone who thinks they are superior to me and better. I can't deal with an authoritative partner. If I could find a girl that has respect for me I would have respect for her they act like I cant cook or clean or do taxes. I hate being told im not capable of things I can easily do.
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jack_straw2208
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What if next time you're mad, instead of jerking homosexual porn (chicks OR dudes!), you put on a Funkadelic album?
si=_iDTOKQZars7N3fT
Also, I typically just rub one out first thing in the morning so that I may focus on more important matters for the day.
What if everything works out better than you could have ever possibly dreamed?
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Edited by jack_straw2208 (09/21/23 01:42 AM)
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Anonymous #3 said: Some people say being gay is actually really fun. I wouldn't know though. But some say having anal sex every night with someone you love is a very fantastic life.
If you feel like this is something you need to try then by all means try it.
Me though I can't get enough of the females but I know what it's like to have them ruin your life
Anal sex isn’t really something you do every single day
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CaptainTrips420 said: I just never meet a woman with a good personality always stuck-up women with control problems and a God complex. I was thinking about trying to date a Gay man eventually but need blind folds so I dont have to look at them and it will help them not see me cry. 
I feel ya. Pay no attention to those calling this incel speak. It's real talk I'm straight, married, twice your age and know a lot of people. Not one woman I know would make a good partner. I live my life to the best of my ability with my wife and look elsewhere for my happiness. I don't mean with other women, I'm completely faithful, I just don't look to that relationship for happiness anymore and it's helping
I got no advice for ya except I'll tell you you're right about a lot of things for a young man and clearly you can't decide to be gay just like gay people can't choose to be straight
You are married and you don't think your wife is a good partner... so clearly, you picked wrong. And if you aren't honest with your wife about how you really feel about the relationship, then that seems like strong evidence you aren't a great partner either.
Have you possibly considered that if EVERY woman you know would be a bad partner, perhaps it is you that is the bad partner?
You know what they say, if a person thinks everyone is an asshole, maybe they're one.
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CaptainTrips420 said: I am mad been watching gay porn. I cant get hard from it unless I touch myself watching by itself doesn't work and when im done I actually feel psychical sick I think gay stuff is an acquired taste I have not devolved. I watch lesbian porn and get hard as a rock in less than 3 seconds no touching involved. I wish I could find a woman who is respectful to me like a partner not someone who thinks they are superior to me and better. I can't deal with an authoritative partner. If I could find a girl that has respect for me I would have respect for her they act like I cant cook or clean or do taxes. I hate being told im not capable of things I can easily do.
I can definitely fuckin feel on this one
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Well its obvious that you are not gay.
I think you just need to expand on what kind of woman you are attracted to. It sounds like you may be attracted to a specific type of woman, and if you just opened up your attraction and desire, so to speak, you may find a woman who has a more humble, chill personality.
And theres always transfemales and gender-fluid women. Some can be really chill and easy to get along with. Ive known a couple, online and in person, and I enjoy their company.
Do you live in a big city? Is there a wide diversity of women in your home city or is it kinda limited?
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CaptainTrips420
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Nah I never meet a woman I liked for any reason other than physical looks and drug use. Honestly I have trouble dating because I am because I only find undercover cop women who pretend to like me to ruin my life because they petty things we never even have sex I just tell them about my stash and then got cops following me around 24/7 its harassment I don't even sell just use. They all want me to put there pussy on a pedestal. Some women even think they can cure my drug addiction with sex or something. They are dumb I would never have sex for all the drugs I could use. Drugs>Sex I don't care how attractive you are even a billionaire woman that did not like drugs I would turn down in a heartbeat no matter how attractive.
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jack_straw2208
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Nobody is making you choose drugs or sex.
There is nothing wrong with working on yourself instead of looking for a girlfriend. It's a crazy mixed up world.
Seriously though man, you ever listen to Parliament?
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CaptainTrips420
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Im not Australian im an American citizen. Most girls I know will get mad at my drug use because it's so expensive and I perform tasks about 75% as well as I do when sober. I just cant find a girl who will let me use a psychedelic once every 2 weeks weed daily cigs daily alcohol every 3 days and different narcotics like benzos and opioids when I don't have work or a task to do. I would accept a dominate woman as a girlfriend but I want it to only be on ocassions not a litteral slave just a sex slave. I would do anything they asked for sexually anything not eating poop though unless I get like 10MG of LSD at least $500 worth of drugs for 2 girls one cup stuff. I would need meth to do it though
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jack_straw2208
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Okay brother, I wish you moses-like patience in that case. She's out there somewhere. For what it's worth, I don't think that anyone who wants to see you eat actual physical poop is the kind of person you would benefit from being around.
Edit: 2girls 1 cup was debunked pretty sure.
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Edited by jack_straw2208 (09/12/23 10:48 PM)
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