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sudly
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My Future
#28433012 - 08/13/23 11:57 PM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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That's all that's on my mind at the moment.
I hold a great deal of value in my independence, and I've been dating within ENM communities for the past 8 months since becoming single through amicable ends, after accepting differences in communication and different degrees of independence.
I care about the people I'm involved with, and I want to keep being able to openly and honestly communicate with them about my life and my desires.
I think I'm on the right road.
That said, I don't want to be in a commited relation, or to feel responsible for the emotional security of another person in codependent context. I don't want to change people, and recognise that I can't.
I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences of my decisions, it also means I'm able to more fondly remember valuable experiences within my life.
I am trying to be a consistent person in my own life, and I want to be able to share that with friends while sharing good times and great company.
I know I'm qualified for the roles I want.
And I just need to let that sink in
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Edited by sudly (08/14/23 12:09 AM)
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28433100 - 08/14/23 01:58 AM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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It looks like you are set!
My future on the other hand...
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ethical non monogomous communities very forward thinking (as in modern) but what about loneliness? or do the elderly have ENM methods as well? (This could be the way to go) but what about children?
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I am monogamous. What I seek is love with someone very special...
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you may wish to be monogomous but are currently un-ogomous.
until it is a relationship it is un-related
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Viva la PT!
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28433399 - 08/14/23 08:28 AM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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"I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences..."
I doubt a fragmentation grenade can substantiate that preposition. It just fragments be damned the consequences.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28433617 - 08/14/23 10:36 AM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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Sounds like living in the moment. How does it relate to the future?
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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sudly
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Buster_Brown said: "I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences..."
I doubt a fragmentation grenade can substantiate that preposition. It just fragments be damned the consequences.
Point being that taking responsibility for my own actions tends to have minimal if any consequence other than a little embarrassment maybe and a lesson learnt.
I just try not to let my pride get in the way of mistakes and learning from them.
I don't feel bad about it. I also haven't done anything where the consequences are actually going to be bad either. I'm just open to admitting when I've made mistakes.
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28434336 - 08/14/23 09:00 PM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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Rahz said: Sounds like living in the moment. How does it relate to the future?
Because although one avenue didn't work out, another down the road could open, and from the feedback I've come across recently, I feel good about my future, despite a slumber of mood yesterday.
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28434443 - 08/14/23 11:55 PM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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I feel a lot better today, and coming to accept the knowledge that I am very qualified for the role I want, I have a greater sense of confidence surrounding my future career goals.
I applied for a management role but was told I'm well suited to one level below.
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What is it when the memory instills confidence?
I enjoy my independence and the time I spend with others, living with a cat fills the home too.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28434612 - 08/15/23 05:41 AM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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sudly said: What is it when the memory instills confidence? ...
dopamine released by reacting to pattern conformance in the frontal cortex.
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So like, Sudlly should establish a routine as soon as possible to benefit by the natural dopamine experience?
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we are all already in established dopamine releasing routines based upon personal perceptions of confluence and congruence. not all of these patterns are healthy.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28434746 - 08/15/23 09:06 AM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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sudly said: I have a greater sense of confidence surrounding my future career goals.
I applied for a management role but was told I'm well suited to one level below.
Ahh nice. I suspect you will prove yourself quickly.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28438777 - 08/18/23 11:41 PM (5 months, 7 days ago) |
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sudly said: That's all that's on my mind at the moment.
I hold a great deal of value in my independence, and I've been dating within ENM communities for the past 8 months since becoming single through amicable ends, after accepting differences in communication and different degrees of independence.
I care about the people I'm involved with, and I want to keep being able to openly and honestly communicate with them about my life and my desires.
I think I'm on the right road.
That said, I don't want to be in a commited relation, or to feel responsible for the emotional security of another person in codependent context. I don't want to change people, and recognise that I can't.
I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences of my decisions, it also means I'm able to more fondly remember valuable experiences within my life.
I am trying to be a consistent person in my own life, and I want to be able to share that with friends while sharing good times and great company.
I know I'm qualified for the roles I want.
And I just need to let that sink in
I'm late to this one but congrats on that. Relationships are two-way streets, you can't force yourself to want that if you do not. Do double-check you aren't inhibited by fear though, regret is a son of a bitch. I don't know you but I can I be proud of you accomplishments? Yes I think I shall.
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redgreenvines said: you may wish to be monogomous but are currently un-ogomous.
until it is a relationship it is un-related
That pun is so bad I'm wondering if you are really the ogrone conclusion
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Re: My Future [Re: Tropism]
#28438890 - 08/19/23 06:04 AM (5 months, 7 days ago) |
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no hip surgery, and no cancer yet, so I'm a different bundle of nerves at a different keyboard, in a different town, and a different state of bad puns
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Is it me and you (and Lunar?) carrying the torch when OC passes away?
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Pinkerton said: Is it me and you (and Lunar?) carrying the torch when OC passes away?
A Catholic, a Jew and an atheist enter a new millennium, the following conversation ensues "My sins are forgiven !...Shhh, you'll wake the dead...And by opposing end them."
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Am I a Catholic?
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For the purpose of this demonstration yes.
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I do not want to be a part of this demonstration.
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I support your resolve to quickly distance yourself from undesirable situations.
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sudly
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Re: My Future [Re: Tropism] 1
#28442336 - 08/22/23 12:39 AM (5 months, 4 days ago) |
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Tropism said: I'm late to this one but congrats on that. Relationships are two-way streets, you can't force yourself to want that if you do not. Do double-check you aren't inhibited by fear though, regret is a son of a bitch. I don't know you but I can I be proud of you accomplishments? Yes I think I shall.
The variety of good communication styles is interesting, from daily texts to keeping in touch, they've been good experiences so far, and I am still learning, experiencing, and growing in my solo Poly lifestyle.
Sometimes plans change, so make many and stick to one from time to time. Prioritise yourself too.
I'm learning to know what I want and comfortably let it be known to those around me.
It's weird too, how as I'm writing this it's like I'm compressing hundreds of hours of lived and loved experiences.
This is just a stencil of my experiences I'm trying to learn from, to help me to understand and accept new lessons in life.
I sometimes make the same mistakes a hundred times before I become better at something, but being aware of the judgements I've made has helped me to learn from them in a congruent way that has paid benefit to my every day living.
This included weight loss, flirting, musical interest, artistic creativity, and adventure.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28443381 - 08/23/23 02:17 AM (5 months, 3 days ago) |
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I've been so fucking high so many times I feel like I've lived, I don't have much left to seek out more experiences with.
Unless it's going to be just insane acid and television.
It's all just mysterious now. You can learn to see it that way.
Might write some fiction, but I'm too socially arrested to write good dialogue LOL.
-------------------- LSD, mushrooms and DMT are different structural levels within the same magically simulated mystery sometimes blandly called 'life' Your life, your call.
Edited by lostintimenspc (08/23/23 02:26 AM)
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sudly
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Perhaps ignorance is bliss but the blind journey to enlightenment sucks, it takes a while to come to terms when you get there, but you'll need to shed the mystery for curiosity to find it.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly] 1
#28443450 - 08/23/23 05:16 AM (5 months, 3 days ago) |
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In a sense the more a person knows the more one knows they don't know. Think of it like a bubble. The interior of the bubble is knowledge. The surface area and beyond is the unknown. As the bubble of knowledge grows so does the surface area.
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28443489 - 08/23/23 06:38 AM (5 months, 3 days ago) |
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then it bursts as the surface tensions fail and the pressure never subsides
(not my vision of the future, but hey, maybe you're right)
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28454461 - 09/01/23 03:22 AM (4 months, 25 days ago) |
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If one notices how the surface tension changes, and how to blow new bubbles, they might be on to something.
I'll try.
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28455666 - 09/02/23 06:06 AM (4 months, 24 days ago) |
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I wrote a speech and thought some might like to hear or read it.
Because if I were to give a speech today I would say,
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"As I stand before you to share my journey and insights, I am deeply humbled by this incredible honor, and I wish to convey my gratitude to all who have supported and inspired me along the way.
My work reflects the idea that we, as individuals, have the remarkable capacity to consciously design reward systems that empower us to pursue specific personal goals and enhance our own lives. In this endeavor, I have witnessed the transformative power of motivation and determination, as well as the profound impact of rewards on human behavior.
The environment we immerse ourselves in is a potent force, one that can shape our actions by providing triggers and cues that drive us towards particular behaviors. This recognition has led me to appreciate the intricate interplay between our surroundings and our aspirations.
In the pursuit of our goals, it is crucial to remain acutely aware of the multifaceted nature of motivation and reinforcement. It is this awareness that has allowed me to navigate the complex landscape of personal growth and achievement.
My journey has reinforced the importance of personal responsibility. I have come to understand that success is not merely a product of circumstance but a result of deliberate choices. Daily reflection on my experiences has been an essential aspect of modeling and optimizing my own reward systems, ensuring that they align with my values and aspirations.
The path to self-improvement often demands personal independence and unwavering commitment. The considerable effort I have exerted in striving for my goals underscores the dedication and determination that can be required in modeling reward systems to achieve greatness.
While my primary focus has been on self-improvement and the pursuit of personal goals, I have also come to appreciate the significance of interactions with others and the intellectual attraction that can drive collaborative endeavors. It is through these interactions that I have found valuable insights and shared experiences.
Furthermore, I have learned that the physical and experiential aspects of my pursuits are integral to the rewards I derive from them. These experiences have added depth and richness to my journey, enriching the tapestry of my life.
In closing, my work and experiences serve as a testament to how individuals can apply the principles of reward modeling to different facets of their lives, thereby igniting motivation and propelling us towards our desired outcomes. Moreover, my emphasis on self-reflection and personal responsibility aligns with the broader discussions of ethics and values in reward systems modeling.
I share this recognition with all those who have walked this path with me, and I am deeply honored to be a part of the collective effort to explore and harness the potential of human motivation and reward.
Thank you."
I believe I have successfully modelled a reward system and for some reason that is meaningful to me so I engage with it. To success, failure, learning and silver linings the lot.
It means something to me to have the experiences I have had, and I imagine it would feel nice to some day share that experience with someone else, at least at the level of an understanding, but my personal views on the world are straight forward and resolute to me. I at the very least understand how to model my own reward systems as well as I am aware of how to model my physique and increase muscle tone. Or to lose 12kg in under a year.
As I interpret it, how to harness a model of consciousness.
:my2c:
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28455669 - 09/02/23 06:17 AM (4 months, 24 days ago) |
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A testament to your application of understanding, which IMO is a spiritual act.
Yours is also an applied or functional knowledge sharing.
In general I have been cautious to use the less passionate terms "interest" and "activity" as study areas that can influence the path of ongoing consciousness.
Your observations of "motivation" and "reward" can reasonably lead to cultivation of the dopamine and HPA systems, and that can be very instrumental in making one's life better.
great job!
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28456228 - 09/02/23 04:13 PM (4 months, 23 days ago) |
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Rahz said: In a sense the more a person knows the more one knows they don't know. Think of it like a bubble. The interior of the bubble is knowledge. The surface area and beyond is the unknown. As the bubble of knowledge grows so does the surface area.
thinking of the bubble just as growing rationally, as you state the two parts in relation to one another as an inside/outside dynamic is constraining and fails to acknowledge what is now.
the sphere expanding outwards, and the sphere contracting inwards meet and merge, dynamically forming a bridge where inside and outside are not distinguised. here, awareness, where zero is infinity and where nothing is everything.
through this simple awareness, the Absolute can be known.
now, where no man has gone before!
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28456236 - 09/02/23 04:27 PM (4 months, 23 days ago) |
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sudly said: Perhaps ignorance is bliss but the blind journey to enlightenment sucks, it takes a while to come to terms when you get there, but you'll need to shed the mystery for curiosity to find it.
if you want to hear G-d laugh, tell Him about your plans!
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