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sudly
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My Future
#28433012 - 08/13/23 11:57 PM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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That's all that's on my mind at the moment.
I hold a great deal of value in my independence, and I've been dating within ENM communities for the past 8 months since becoming single through amicable ends, after accepting differences in communication and different degrees of independence.
I care about the people I'm involved with, and I want to keep being able to openly and honestly communicate with them about my life and my desires.
I think I'm on the right road.
That said, I don't want to be in a commited relation, or to feel responsible for the emotional security of another person in codependent context. I don't want to change people, and recognise that I can't.
I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences of my decisions, it also means I'm able to more fondly remember valuable experiences within my life.
I am trying to be a consistent person in my own life, and I want to be able to share that with friends while sharing good times and great company.
I know I'm qualified for the roles I want.
And I just need to let that sink in
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Edited by sudly (08/14/23 12:09 AM)
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Pinkerton
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28433100 - 08/14/23 01:58 AM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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It looks like you are set!
My future on the other hand...
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redgreenvines
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ethical non monogomous communities very forward thinking (as in modern) but what about loneliness? or do the elderly have ENM methods as well? (This could be the way to go) but what about children?
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Pinkerton
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I am monogamous. What I seek is love with someone very special...
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redgreenvines
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you may wish to be monogomous but are currently un-ogomous.
until it is a relationship it is un-related
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Pinkerton
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Viva la PT!
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Buster_Brown
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28433399 - 08/14/23 08:28 AM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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"I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences..."
I doubt a fragmentation grenade can substantiate that preposition. It just fragments be damned the consequences.
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Rahz
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28433617 - 08/14/23 10:36 AM (5 months, 12 days ago) |
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Sounds like living in the moment. How does it relate to the future?
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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sudly
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Quote:
Buster_Brown said: "I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences..."
I doubt a fragmentation grenade can substantiate that preposition. It just fragments be damned the consequences.
Point being that taking responsibility for my own actions tends to have minimal if any consequence other than a little embarrassment maybe and a lesson learnt.
I just try not to let my pride get in the way of mistakes and learning from them.
I don't feel bad about it. I also haven't done anything where the consequences are actually going to be bad either. I'm just open to admitting when I've made mistakes.
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sudly
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28434336 - 08/14/23 09:00 PM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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Quote:
Rahz said: Sounds like living in the moment. How does it relate to the future?
Because although one avenue didn't work out, another down the road could open, and from the feedback I've come across recently, I feel good about my future, despite a slumber of mood yesterday.
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sudly
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Re: My Future [Re: Rahz]
#28434443 - 08/14/23 11:55 PM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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I feel a lot better today, and coming to accept the knowledge that I am very qualified for the role I want, I have a greater sense of confidence surrounding my future career goals.
I applied for a management role but was told I'm well suited to one level below.
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sudly
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What is it when the memory instills confidence?
I enjoy my independence and the time I spend with others, living with a cat fills the home too.
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redgreenvines
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28434612 - 08/15/23 05:41 AM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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sudly said: What is it when the memory instills confidence? ...
dopamine released by reacting to pattern conformance in the frontal cortex.
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Buster_Brown
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So like, Sudlly should establish a routine as soon as possible to benefit by the natural dopamine experience?
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redgreenvines
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we are all already in established dopamine releasing routines based upon personal perceptions of confluence and congruence. not all of these patterns are healthy.
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Rahz
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28434746 - 08/15/23 09:06 AM (5 months, 11 days ago) |
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sudly said: I have a greater sense of confidence surrounding my future career goals.
I applied for a management role but was told I'm well suited to one level below.
Ahh nice. I suspect you will prove yourself quickly.
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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Tropism
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Re: My Future [Re: sudly]
#28438777 - 08/18/23 11:41 PM (5 months, 7 days ago) |
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sudly said: That's all that's on my mind at the moment.
I hold a great deal of value in my independence, and I've been dating within ENM communities for the past 8 months since becoming single through amicable ends, after accepting differences in communication and different degrees of independence.
I care about the people I'm involved with, and I want to keep being able to openly and honestly communicate with them about my life and my desires.
I think I'm on the right road.
That said, I don't want to be in a commited relation, or to feel responsible for the emotional security of another person in codependent context. I don't want to change people, and recognise that I can't.
I take personal responsibility and although it means I face the consequences of my decisions, it also means I'm able to more fondly remember valuable experiences within my life.
I am trying to be a consistent person in my own life, and I want to be able to share that with friends while sharing good times and great company.
I know I'm qualified for the roles I want.
And I just need to let that sink in
I'm late to this one but congrats on that. Relationships are two-way streets, you can't force yourself to want that if you do not. Do double-check you aren't inhibited by fear though, regret is a son of a bitch. I don't know you but I can I be proud of you accomplishments? Yes I think I shall.
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Quote:
redgreenvines said: you may wish to be monogomous but are currently un-ogomous.
until it is a relationship it is un-related
That pun is so bad I'm wondering if you are really the ogrone conclusion
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redgreenvines
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Re: My Future [Re: Tropism]
#28438890 - 08/19/23 06:04 AM (5 months, 7 days ago) |
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no hip surgery, and no cancer yet, so I'm a different bundle of nerves at a different keyboard, in a different town, and a different state of bad puns
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Pinkerton
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Is it me and you (and Lunar?) carrying the torch when OC passes away?
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