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Making life enjoyable again 1
#28275424 - 04/13/23 05:52 AM (9 months, 11 days ago) |
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Does anyone have any tips on regaining that lust for life, bringing back happiness and colour and enjoyment of everyday when it’s lost?
Somewhere in my early 20s my happiness took a dive and just never seemed to recover. I do everything by the book in terms of what they tell you you should be doing. I’m highly active, eat healthy, drink no alcohol, meditate, get vitamin D in the sun, have social interactions daily. Everything.
Even trying to find other sources or causes like looking into sleep apnea, getting my bloods done, taking mushroom trips, Microdosing, antidepressants (off them now for 6+ months), seeing a psychologist regularly, cold showers.
Life just seems dull and boring, nothing excites me and I find it hard everyday. It doesn’t stop me from doing all these things, because I know if I do I’ll slip deeper into depression. I’d say that I was depressed for 2+ years and that the above habits I’ve got myself into have made me not depressed anymore, but also not happy.
Appreciate anyone’s input.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin]
#28275441 - 04/13/23 06:27 AM (9 months, 11 days ago) |
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Damn, thats rough man. Sounds like you have Apathy: https://www.healthline.com/health/apathy
Its a symptom of Depression but can be separate from Depression too.
What sort of passions did you have before you turned 20? What sorts of things excited you in the past? Are you passionate about anything?
U mentioned you are very active. Do you workout? Do you get a workout high? Do you get any sort of natural highs from activities you normally do?
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Franklin
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Yeah reading that link makes me think it's probably just a symptom or characteristic of my depression which I am diagnosed with.
I was real into soccer in my teens and I'm getting back into that now. I love playing and its probably the happiest I am but it doesn't last past that 1-2hours 3 times a week. I train every day, mostly high intensity cardio 45mins+ but I don't get any high from it.
The last time I felt decently elated and pumped up was when I was with my GF camping, but it wasn't natural, I was tripping on ~3g mushrooms.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin]
#28277858 - 04/14/23 06:25 PM (9 months, 9 days ago) |
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Franklin said: Yeah reading that link makes me think it's probably just a symptom or characteristic of my depression which I am diagnosed with.
I was real into soccer in my teens and I'm getting back into that now. I love playing and its probably the happiest I am but it doesn't last past that 1-2hours 3 times a week. I train every day, mostly high intensity cardio 45mins+ but I don't get any high from it.
The last time I felt decently elated and pumped up was when I was with my GF camping, but it wasn't natural, I was tripping on ~3g mushrooms.
This is why the god gave us MDMA
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@OP
Do you have a goal?
You're hitting the gym, you're taking the pills, you're doing the drugs and...
Why?
Does any of this help you achieve your goal, or are you just going through the right motions?
I quit taking my meds...7 years ago?
I'm not saying quit your meds. Or what you're doing. You're doing the right things.....you just need to answer the question: why?
That is why I quit taking my meds. I came up with other reasons why. It isn't easy. It actually sucks a lot, until you answer the question. Then it all makes sense for a little bit. Then you need to answer the question again.
How do you answer the question? Why?
Fuck man, I dunno. I did the childhood interests thing, that didn't help. My current interests were random chance. I see something, I think "that would be cool" and 90% of the time it is not cool. 10% of the time it is.
Do what is cool. Don't do what is not. The most important thing is to do. Do something. Doesn't matter why. Maybe you'll like it.
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Seems like that wouldn’t be sustainable and would mess one’s brain chemistry up. Unless I had access to like clean M and like some evidence backed approach to it.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Kryptos] 1
#28278251 - 04/15/23 01:47 AM (9 months, 9 days ago) |
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Fuck. That’s actually true. I’ll have to mull over that and come up with my why. Thanks for that man
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin]
#28278362 - 04/15/23 04:56 AM (9 months, 9 days ago) |
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Once mdma becomes legal yr gonna find a lot less lonely ppl/happier couples Maybe even less divorcess As well
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Can you explain how it would be used in that sort of way, rather than just for partying
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin] 1
#28279140 - 04/15/23 03:28 PM (9 months, 8 days ago) |
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It's an empathogen. It will open up avenues and vulnerabilities in ppl and their relationships and should allow them to explore them in a novel way. Nothing to do w partying
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: ashfiken] 2
#28282080 - 04/17/23 01:18 PM (9 months, 7 days ago) |
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One thing that has worked very well for me is to do something exciting and challenge your fears or activities that consume your complete focus. In college I took up rock climbing. Done properly, it is a safe sport but brings a significant fear factor. The challenge of success is exhilarating. I also play soccer and found that is one activity that takes me out of a depressed mood. The feeling of wellbeing lingers in both cases but I found the rock climbing to last significantly longer.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin] 1
#28282331 - 04/17/23 04:19 PM (9 months, 6 days ago) |
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Franklin said:
Life just seems dull and boring, nothing excites me and I find it hard everyday.
I've been interested in sloth and torpor.
Regarding the states of distraction we call the Five Hindrances.
From the 13th-century, "torpor" = numbness, paralysis, absence of energy, lethargy
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
#28337109 - 05/27/23 02:49 PM (7 months, 28 days ago) |
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Sounds tough, I’m in a similar place as you but age 35. I too do everything by the book, have tried everything. I barely sleep though which is the worst tbh.
I’m replying because your post reminded me of a piece I read about dopamine recently, and how there is so much stimulation around us today that it easily becomes depleted. I’m talking social media, porn, TV etc.
Dopamine is the reward hormone and drives our motivation. If it’s already depleted due to the above, we find little or no motivation to do in normal, heathly things, like going for a walk, cleaning the house, doing hobbies etc. Sound familiar?
I appreciate you may have tried this stuff or already do, just thought I’d pipe up 
It’s a fucking struggle isn’t it.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin] 1
#28346240 - 06/03/23 07:26 PM (7 months, 21 days ago) |
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Franklin said: Does anyone have any tips on regaining that lust for life, bringing back happiness and colour and enjoyment of everyday when it’s lost?
Somewhere in my early 20s my happiness took a dive and just never seemed to recover. I do everything by the book in terms of what they tell you you should be doing. I’m highly active, eat healthy, drink no alcohol, meditate, get vitamin D in the sun, have social interactions daily. Everything.
Even trying to find other sources or causes like looking into sleep apnea, getting my bloods done, taking mushroom trips, Microdosing, antidepressants (off them now for 6+ months), seeing a psychologist regularly, cold showers.
Life just seems dull and boring, nothing excites me and I find it hard everyday. It doesn’t stop me from doing all these things, because I know if I do I’ll slip deeper into depression. I’d say that I was depressed for 2+ years and that the above habits I’ve got myself into have made me not depressed anymore, but also not happy.
Appreciate anyone’s input.
Sleep apnea is pretty serious and a CPAP machine can make a world of difference. I've had one a few years now but was only barely on the scale, or at the lower end, that said I did snore 98% of the night and stopped breathing for 90 seconds at times with a heartrate of around 110 while I slept.
Microdosing would be a blessing but the scum in suits want money from their pharma donors.
I've lost 12kg in 6 months cutting sugary beverages and knowing what overeating in a day looks like, plus I ended a 5 year relationship last year and have walked myself into a casual lifestyle without the expectations of romance which has made a great difference to my life and confidence, especially with open communcation for my fantasies and desires. Also filtering the people I associate with through shameless interactions.
6 drinks this year too. I get yearly blood tests, or once every 6 months sometimes. Since last time I've reduced my trygliceride (sugar fats) levels by 300% from 3.6 to 1.2, and reduced my cholesterol by 20%. Less fat on the cheeks also helps with sleep apnea too.
I see a psychiatrist quarterly for self expression and meds, he's there to help me, but can only do so if I help him help me by being open and honest about my experiences, downfalls and progress. I was in the ICU a few years ago and started seeing him afterwards, built more trust, tried different meds and am at a good point nowadays.
I also live alone, but got an elderly couch potato cat which has been wonderful for companionship. The boredom aspects of living alone are ever present but I fill my time more nowadays with reading, guitar, drawing, crafts, bike riding, hiking and photography to name a few. My minerology hobby is still growing and I've been learning a lot of lapidary too.
I clean my house at least once a week which doesn't take too long, but I don't do cold showers, and I shampoo sometimes but usually just water washing because I dun trust big shampoo chems 
Moderation in masturbation and porn has also been useful, I usually only go about once a week then clap cheeks instead, but that's a different consistency. I'm now seeing multiple people which is nice, but it's still a learning process as I grow and mature and really figure out what I do and don't want from relationships. Cool, calm and casually atm.
Fortunately I've also set myself up with enough qualifications and experience to always have an opportunity to work in my field in any state of Australia but that's taken almost 6 years after completing a degree in ecology.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: sudly]
#28373713 - 06/25/23 06:02 AM (7 months, 8 hours ago) |
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I can I only speak for myself but I was in a similar position, although I think you are doing a lot of other right things more than I was. The thing that made it quiet down was beginning a long endeavor and goal. Once I started working on this I found that I enjoyed aspects of my life that were previously mundane and that things seemed a little brighter. The important thing is that I don't think it matters what this project or purpose is, so long as you are working towards one goal.
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I've also gotten better an intimate communication realising how a lot of my previous anxieties have been related to not verbally expressing certain desires or feelings in the moment.
Also recognising fomo has been great, it's not that I don't ever feel jealousy or fomo, but being able to more consistently and sooner recognise when I am feeling it has been great for reducing uncertainty and the associated feelings of ambivilance.
I've had a general direction in mind for some time, but I think I know that it's not a straight one, and now that I have a greater level of independence, I'm more comfortable with the idea that whatever direction I intend to move in is likely to have alternative routes and locations along the way I'm more easily able to perceive, comprehend and accept the change of.
In hindsight it's often the journey that is fulfilling, even if the destination isn't achieved. Progress or failure have often had a silver lining in my experience that can be rather humbling.
There's the old cliche of enjoying the little things in life, but sometimes being able to endure in life is also very helpful. Not everything will be a rollercoaster, and usually the worst case scenario doesn't happen. Quite often a resolution unfolds. More often than not in the day to day. But again that comes in a lot with what opportunities and experience you've come to play with.
I have goals in mind, but I don't necessarily work towards them in a permanent fashion, just step by step when the time comes, and sometimes that manifests into a decent amount of progress, sometimes also making it easier to see the next steps.
Recently I made a new resume, I've thought about it for a while, and intended to try making it a few days later from the thought, but I began drafting earlier, let it sit for a few days and finished it today.
I didn't have qualms over my competence regarding the subjects I'm involved in, and I think that helped to alleviate thoughts of incapability, or deeming even meager attempts untenable.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Franklin]
#28379924 - 06/30/23 08:22 AM (6 months, 26 days ago) |
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Hey dude,
about the same age here, in very much the same predicament.
I'm thinking that maybe such a strict routine may be the very thing that is simultaneously keeping everything glued together but also dulling life, making it predictable and thus boring.
I'm thinking that a good shake up in routine (hobbies, what I choose to do on the weekend) may help.
Do something you would never normally do, do something that scares you like public speaking lol.
I can't sayig this will work at all, seeing that I haven't even been doing anything of the sort myself.
Ill make a promise right here tho, for the next month i'm gonna go do some shit that I've never done before, stuff that scares me. I'll check in later if i notice any extra sparks flying
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Entheogens]
#28384124 - 07/03/23 07:34 PM (6 months, 22 days ago) |
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Sounds like a case of anhedonia.
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Re: Making life enjoyable again [Re: Entheogens]
#28384704 - 07/04/23 11:01 AM (6 months, 22 days ago) |
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Entheogens said:
Do something you would never normally do, do something that scares you like public speaking lol.

It's so easy to feel safe and comfortable in the known.
It takes courage to ignore fear and embrace the unknown.
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