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Anonymous #1
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pretending to do cocaine 2
#28365686 - 06/19/23 02:34 PM (7 months, 6 days ago) |
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Greetings, fellow forum members. Today, we find ourselves reflecting on a regrettable incident that unfolded within our family. We have a son named ****, who is grappling with drug addiction. Unfortunately, in a misguided attempt to address the issue, we made a series of poor choices that we need to address.
In an ill-conceived effort to confront ****'s addiction, we pretended to sniff lines of cocaine on multiple occasions. We believed that by mirroring his behavior, we could highlight the absurdity and potential dangers of his actions. However, we now realize that our actions were insensitive, hurtful, and counterproductive.
Addiction is a complex struggle that necessitates sensitivity, support, and understanding. Our misguided behavior failed to provide the empathy and compassion that **** truly needed. Instead, it may have further deepened his pain and contributed to feelings of isolation.
We sincerely regret our ill-judged attempts at intervention and understand the importance of approaching addiction with care. It is vital to prioritize open dialogue, professional guidance, and a non-judgmental environment when dealing with such sensitive matters.
To ****, if you happen to stumble upon this post, please know that our misguided actions were rooted in concern for your well-being. We acknowledge our mistakes and are deeply sorry for any distress we may have caused. We are committed to making amends and supporting you in a more constructive and understanding manner.
In closing, we urge other parents who may find themselves in a similar situation to learn from our misjudgment. Let's prioritize empathy, education, and professional assistance when addressing addiction. Together, we can foster an environment of love, support, and healing for those facing such challenges.
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Anonymous #2
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Sniffing icing sugar or something doesn't do anything to educate him on the risks and hazards of drug use, which in this case is cocaine.
It'd just come off ignorant to me, but ignorant just means not knowing.
Cocaine neurochemically leads to serious chemical addictions through its impact on dopamine receptors. It can dull you even after abstanence. And coping with addiction is awful.
Since he's already grappling with a drug addictionit just seems like you're minimising it as an easy thing to deal with by pretending to sniff lines or whatever you were doing. Like you didn't take it seriously. That comes off as making fun of the situation to me.
I don't think drug use is all that absurd, numerous well off individuals are packed with mind altering prescriptions they use on the daily, and they still function.
Some drugs can help with ptsd, some have anxiolytic effects that can calm people, some bring joy and nostalgia to others, some just calm and help to cope with the day to day. Some don't turn to alcohol or cigarettes. And when there are restrictions and enough stress in life, some people turn to more dangerous alternatives. Whatever is available to them.
A lot of people turn to drugs when they haven't been able to grasp opportunities they hoped for in life, some people give it their all, succeed at achieving their goals, and then have no opportunites arise for them to hold.
I don't think there's a one size fits all outlook on drug use and addictions. If it wasn't cocaine what else would it be? Humans have vices, and trying to reflect on how we feel and to understand ourselves without ambivilance isn't something that happens overnight.
Some peole have trauma they can't unravel years later. It took me 8 years to recognise that jealousy wasn't a necessity in my life, and I could learn to live without embracing it. Sure I knew the words not to be jealous, or to try not to be, but it took 8 years of life experience to reach that point. A point I was able to appreciate an ex for who she was, sex aside.
If you're the parents of this man, and this is the kind of behaviour you display around him as an attempted drug intervention, he may be traumatised or feel judged/incapable of effectively communicating with you around the issues of his addiction.
I have no context of your family dynamics and I'm not out to attack you so I apologise if I happen to come off that way, this seems a complicated situation, but from my perspective it's good to see you've had an apparent shift or expansion in your perspective surrounding this situation.
It is not easy to try and be understanding of addiction, especially when you know it isn't healthy and all you want is for your family to be in good health. You don't have to agree with any of your sons lifestyle choices or opinions surrounding his situation, and although it's one of the hardest things you can do, trying not to react emotionally in the moment can go a long way. It doesn't mean to bottle up your feelings, but to take your time to try and express your thoughts and concerns in a way that acknowledges the difficulties of addiction.
It's the kind of thing where you may have several interactions that may get heated or be upsetting, and you don't necessarily have to be understanding of what he says, just acknowledging where he says he is, if he's comfortable enough to do so. But again, I think he's more likely to be comfortable enough to communicate like that if he isn't actively being ridiculed, even if that wasn't the intention.
Keeping these things in mind might mean that next time things are a little less heated, and a little more open until eventually you're at least looking at the same page. Whatever future comes after that is part of trying to work through it, but sometimes all you can do is be supportive, you may not ever find yourself on the same page as your son.
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Anonymous #3
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What a well thought out reply.
Props ninja!
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Anonymous #4
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Related or not, this thread lends credence to this one.
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