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Anonymous #1
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Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people
#28362435 - 06/16/23 06:40 PM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Let’s say you have a friend. A really good friend that has been there in major ways for you, is a good listener, fun to joke around with. You get the gist Now let’s also say that friend has done some things during your friendship that you don’t agree with. Things like oh I don’t know, beat up his ex-girlfriend and screwed with her head during a protracted breakup period because she maybe didn’t know how to take the hint and realize maybe she shouldn’t be involved with him. For the record, they are together again and seem to be doing well. He seems a lot more calm and settled these days.
Would you still be his friend? Some people I know think it would be common or acceptable to end a friendship for doing something wrong to somebody else
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28362737 - 06/16/23 10:31 PM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Dude you gotta ask yourself this question, not the internet.
My opinion is that you're looking outside for an answer that can only be found inside.
If you hooked up with the chick, break it off.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28362825 - 06/17/23 12:35 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Dude you’re way off base I wouldn’t do that to a friend even if I were single. And I already know what MY answer is. I’m asking so I can tell the asshole that says I shouldn’t be his friend anymore that she’s full of shit
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28362827 - 06/17/23 12:40 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Put down the pipe, babygirl
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28362895 - 06/17/23 04:39 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #3]
#28363117 - 06/17/23 09:35 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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I think OP's name starts with the letter O
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28363158 - 06/17/23 10:17 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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If you're thinking this is that little bitch outsideofmymind then Im fucking offended
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28363190 - 06/17/23 11:11 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Oooh so this isn't a question, you're just looking for validation of the answer you've already decided is right. Cool.
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Anonymous #1 said: ... beat up his ex-girlfriend ... because she maybe didn’t know how to take the hint
Sorry, what bro? I'm all for forgiving and seeing the good in people, but minimizing domestic violence kinda makes me think you're not a good person, so maybe this guy is the perfect friend for you.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #4]
#28363227 - 06/17/23 11:55 AM (7 months, 8 days ago) |
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Hmmm, well, I do have my opinion and am also surveying the crowd for theirs I'm not minimizing anything. What happened wasn't right but I've been around long enough to know that cutting people out for making mistakes while going thru troubled times wouldn't leave anyone around.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28365293 - 06/19/23 10:01 AM (7 months, 6 days ago) |
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Beat up your girlfriend once- your beating women again.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28365329 - 06/19/23 10:31 AM (7 months, 6 days ago) |
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Yeah...but she deserved it the first time so will likely deserve it next time also
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28365337 - 06/19/23 10:34 AM (7 months, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #5]
#28365369 - 06/19/23 11:00 AM (7 months, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #5 said: Beat up your girlfriend once- your beating women again.
Do you believe this because after sucking dick the first time you couldn't help but try it again?
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28366512 - 06/20/23 12:55 AM (7 months, 5 days ago) |
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I believe this because I can’t stop beating women!
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28370878 - 06/23/23 02:54 AM (7 months, 2 days ago) |
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I have a friend who genuinely admires ISIS and regularly reaches out to me excitedly about terrorist attacks against Israelis. Dude is fine with the fact that I'm an atheist and we get along well, so who cares?
As far your friend, it's a bit more complicated. My brother's ex accused him of being abusive (total bullshit, we lived in the same house) and some mutual friends believed it. My ex-wife has already started the legal process of claiming emotional abuse so that she can still get her Green Card despite our divorce. In reality, she was abusive, controlling and cruel. As fucked as it is to say, unless I have direct firsthand knowledge, I tend to be skeptical of these kinds of claims. Even more so when she goes back to him after the fact.
Finally, would I stop being someone's friend because they hurt someone else? Fuck yes. If I found out that a friend was a child molester, a pimp, an abuser of the elderly/children/handicapped, I would most likely end up doing him harm. That even goes for family. My cousin wanted full custody of her kids and accused CPS of conspiring against her as her husband had clearly molested their children. When I asked her about it, she sent me a video of her children, very clearly coached on what to say, claiming that they were sexually molested by their father. Not only did I warn her that she was going to end up causing a murder, but I shared the video with her husband and his lawyer. What she did was disgusting and I don't care if she's kin.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #6]
#28371078 - 06/23/23 08:26 AM (7 months, 2 days ago) |
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I can and will distance myself from people for whatever reason I deem fit. If there is reason for me to intervene I will. There are a very select few people who deserve my utmost support, and it sure as hell will never be someone I call "friend." A grown ass man needs priorities.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #7]
#28371101 - 06/23/23 08:51 AM (7 months, 2 days ago) |
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It's not really that complicated. This dude has bailed me out when life was fucking me over and made it so I was able to keep my bills paid when my only other alternative would've been to beg someone to give me money or literally stop making the house payment, buying groceries, paying utilities etc. Because of him, my wife and kids didn't have to go without because of things getting fucked up on my end. (In short, an out of state judge mis-represented a "deal" and didn't state that losing my license for a year was part of the deal when I took his offer. Being caught driving would've put me in jail for 3-6 months)
That means a lot to me and frankly I don't give a shit what went on between him and his GF. He and her have their version of what happened but I wasn't there so I will never pretend to know the whole story but the truth is somewhere in the middle of their stories
The dude pretty much saved my ass for months on end and was the only reason I was able to fulfill my role as provider. He's asked for nothing in return and got nothing out of it
It's really easy to judge someone and pretend you're holier than thou or that you would be too good to be friends with people that have gone thru tough times, but IME, everyone has made mistakes and judging other people and booting those that make mistakes would leave everyone alone
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28371418 - 06/23/23 02:32 PM (7 months, 2 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: It's really easy to judge someone and pretend you're holier than thou or that you would be too good to be friends with people that have gone thru tough times, but IME, everyone has made mistakes and judging other people and booting those that make mistakes would leave everyone alone
It's a very good thing you aren't in the justice system. You'd be making odes about how all the rapists, assaulters, armed robbers and even murderers are just 'great guys' and we can't judge them for 'making mistakes'.
The fact is if you think her story is even 1% true and stand by him, you're as much of a piece of shit as him. If he's lying about it and not making amends, he doesn't deserve any sympathy. It's not a 'mistake' in that case, it's who he is.
If it was your wife who had been beaten by him, you'd be seeing red, maybe even you'd go to the cops yourself. The only reason you have this attitude is that it doesn't impact you and you have no empathy.
Frankly if I knew who you were, I'd warn women about you and avoid you like the plague. A person who defends abusers and blames the victim is a dangerous person who shows they don't have any morals.
Edited by Anonymous (06/23/23 02:43 PM)
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #1]
#28372024 - 06/23/23 11:05 PM (7 months, 1 day ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: It's not really that complicated. This dude has bailed me out when life was fucking me over and made it so I was able to keep my bills paid when my only other alternative would've been to beg someone to give me money or literally stop making the house payment, buying groceries, paying utilities etc. Because of him, my wife and kids didn't have to go without because of things getting fucked up on my end. (In short, an out of state judge mis-represented a "deal" and didn't state that losing my license for a year was part of the deal when I took his offer. Being caught driving would've put me in jail for 3-6 months)
That means a lot to me and frankly I don't give a shit what went on between him and his GF. He and her have their version of what happened but I wasn't there so I will never pretend to know the whole story but the truth is somewhere in the middle of their stories
The dude pretty much saved my ass for months on end and was the only reason I was able to fulfill my role as provider. He's asked for nothing in return and got nothing out of it
It's really easy to judge someone and pretend you're holier than thou or that you would be too good to be friends with people that have gone thru tough times, but IME, everyone has made mistakes and judging other people and booting those that make mistakes would leave everyone alone
If you really believe this is true then why bring this bullshit to the internet in the first place?
The fact is that you are struggling with the fact that this guy helped you out when you needed it but turned around and showed his ass big time.
Simple fact of life: good people do bad things and bad people do good things. One will never be mutually exclusive to the other.
We can all talk about it, but you are the one that has to not only deal with it, but live with it after and while you deal with it.
Choose wisely.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Would you be/are you friends with any “bad”people [Re: Anonymous #9]
#28372157 - 06/24/23 02:44 AM (7 months, 1 day ago) |
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Simply ask anyone who's never killed themselves!
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