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Would you ever get married? (Poll)
    #28321339 - 05/16/23 03:26 AM (8 months, 9 days ago)

Have you ever been married?
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If not, would you ever get married? If so, you would ever marry again?
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28321487 - 05/16/23 06:16 AM (8 months, 9 days ago)

Marriage as we know it is largely a Christian ceremony. The US is over 60% Christian. I wouldn't say all Christian marriages are successful but at the same time if over 60% is Christian, and just over 40% of all marriages fail, assuming an even distribution of marriage you only slightly overlap in to the Christian population.

Divorce rate statistics are also skewed by those who have multiple divorces(although a small sample size I'm sure). It's kind of like that person who seems to "get dates" but can't hold anyone down yet they somehow think their advice on dating is worth more than dog shit. That's the kind of person that statistically and in conversation skews marriage.

IMHO, no real marriage fails. The only kind of situation where a marriage ends justifiably(before God) is like if their kid dies and they're both too fucked in the head after to be around people. The entire idea behind marriage is commitment and if divorce is on the table at all then it was never a real marriage.

All that being said, I've never wanted to get married. One, because in Canada under the law if you've been residing with someone for long enough you are considered a common-law partner and it's nearly identical to marriage aside from maybe emergency and end of life things. So I've never seen much of an appeal. I've also never considered myself Christian. To me, how could I do something so Christian and not prostrate before not just that God but that religious expression? I've never been baptized. These things mean something to me. But, I've warmed to the idea. Not for any reason but because I like calling my woman my wife and I know it would make her happy. I've already made my commitment to her before God in my own way(I'd be polytheist at best) so the whole thing means nothing to me aside from wanting her to take my name, which she wants as well because both our kids have my name on account if this being planned out long in advance.

The only other thing I'd add is that the quality of woman has diminished with time. Apparently the world wants the butch woman but there's an issue with being a man? Millions and millions of alpha "boss bitches" out there these days, and most divorces are initiated by women. Hmm. Perhaps the legal system is skewed in a way that unfairly incentivizes some people to go through the process. And what we know about how manipulative the government is.. lmao. Ah, oh well. I know this will go over heads. Commitment bad.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #28321752 - 05/16/23 09:51 AM (8 months, 9 days ago)

https://youtu.be/ALZQu9x96Jg

This sums it up pretty well.

The data from a Shroomery poll is likely going to be skewed and not normative as the Shroomery is full of people who are likely 2 standard deviations away from the "normal" citizen. I suspect more people are going to not want to get married in this forum than the average.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28321769 - 05/16/23 10:07 AM (8 months, 9 days ago)

I loved being married... until I didn't. And I completely view marriage differently now. I dont think we belong to anyone.
BUT
I still romanticize the idea of spending my life with someone and being in love.
I am conflicted.
I am not even sure if I believe in monogamy anymore. But on the other side.. I also know I could be faithful to someone if I was sexually satisfied in the marriage.
I am all over the place.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2] * 2
    #28321802 - 05/16/23 10:32 AM (8 months, 9 days ago)

Only if there are significant financial benefits, but that is unlikely.

Only real purpose of marriage that I see is for certain "Family" tax breaks, or for getting citizenship or whatever. Unfortunately, those are normally designed for extremely unequal marriages, like those popularized in Americana, with a husband that brings home the pay and a wife that sits at home.

For the majority of poorer and non-white households, the wife worked too, and was taxed appropriately. Marriage laws were not meant to upset this stream of tax revenue.

I'm not really trying to be in that unequal marriage, though. I think it's a bit weird. I'd rather be in a relationship with a person, not someone that the local youth pastor has been grooming for the role since age 10.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos] * 1
    #28322008 - 05/16/23 01:38 PM (8 months, 9 days ago)

Marriage can be good. But having done it I see no need to do it again. Though it wouldnt be a deal breaker if I met someone who really wanted to and she was worth it.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #3] * 1
    #28322050 - 05/16/23 02:28 PM (8 months, 9 days ago)

What does STAL mean?

I really like that video Roflspammer posted. Good stuff there.

Never been married, and chances are increasing each year that I will never be married. I don't want kids nor do i want to be a stepfather which really hinders my chances too. I deeply want to be married, to love and be loved, but it's been 5 years since i've even touched a woman. Pretty close to literally; i've kissed two women one of whom was my last ex, sex twice both times with the ex, and attempted sex with another but we were too drunk and coked up to really function. Part of the extended time alone was (similar to an idea in the video) due to me wanting to better myself so i was more ready/worthy of being marriage material. But i have long since accepted that i may never be married or even grow old with someone and that sucks. Regardless i'm going to make the most of my life while i'm here, and have fun and work hard and be the best person i can to those around me.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28322125 - 05/16/23 03:32 PM (8 months, 9 days ago)

Am married, have been for some time, but the meaning of "marriage" to us is mutable day to day.  Because fuck everybody else's definitions and expectations of marriage, our union is our business to conduct as we see fit.  Divorce isn't failure of marriage IMHO, that's like saying death is a failure of life.  :shrug:


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: stubb] * 1
    #28322135 - 05/16/23 03:40 PM (8 months, 9 days ago)

I just can't voluntarily involve legal contracts in my life. I've made it 42 years no point to change that now.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: seldom seen] * 1
    #28322363 - 05/16/23 07:27 PM (8 months, 8 days ago)

My experience of growing up with divorced parents really made me not like marriage.  I never grew up remembering them being married.

So thats always been my normal.  I am 30 now.  I was really busy and deployed all the time during my 20s and it was really difficult to have a good relationship.

The majority of the marriages I saw people enter into while i was in the military were these fake yuppie marriages I cant really think of a better way to describe it.

Most of them are divorced now so they had to reenlist because they were broke from the divorce.

The others who got married and are still married will probably be divorced soon but i think fear keeps it from happening.  Also i think that same fear is why they will reenlist.

People I know back home who got married are in like the exact same situation my parents are were in.  Divorced and have to trade their kids off every other weekend.


I feel like a dodge a massive bullet and it was wise to not get married.

I do however long for a real relationship.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28322407 - 05/16/23 08:04 PM (8 months, 8 days ago)

I read this and thought... that is so beautiful.
" I deeply want to be married, to love and be loved,"


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #28322688 - 05/17/23 01:25 AM (8 months, 8 days ago)

Weddings make me uncomfortable
A legal contract defining love is odd
My friend is getting married to a girl whose last relationship ended because she gave the other guy the marriage ultimatum

It's a social norm that I am not fond of but I feel like many women have a fairy tale view about it


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28322691 - 05/17/23 01:29 AM (8 months, 8 days ago)

I don't like the idea of spending thousands if not tens of thousands to cater to family and friends, because the idea to me is that I'd rather spend that money solely on enjoying my time with the partner I decided to marry.

That's one big reason I don't want to get married, at least not traditionally, plus the idea of forever in a relationship is cloudy or unexperienced to me. After several joyful years together, some times people grow apart as I experienced late last year.

Nor do I like the idea of halving peoples assets in marriage.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #28322693 - 05/17/23 01:31 AM (8 months, 8 days ago)

What does being married have to do with love and being loved?


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: thelanzii] * 2
    #28323412 - 05/17/23 02:17 PM (8 months, 8 days ago)

Quote:

thelanzii said:
What does being married have to do with love and being loved?




Well you certainly don't get married because it's a good business decision :lol: What is marriage for if not for love? You don't need to get married if you're in love, but does it not sound different to you if you tell someone "we've been dating for X years" vs "we've been married for X years?" It is clear though that you and i are on opposite ends of the spectrum regarding marriage.

And i suppose if you want to split hairs, i don't think being legally married (ie. recognized by the state or country) is important, but having a ceremony/celebration of some form to join two people in the abstract of "marriage" is highly important. Utmost importance really.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #28323477 - 05/17/23 03:04 PM (8 months, 8 days ago)

It sounds different because of the social norms surrounding marriage. 

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And i suppose if you want to split hairs, i don't think being legally married (ie. recognized by the state or country) is important, but having a ceremony/celebration of some form to join two people in the abstract of "marriage" is highly important. Utmost importance really




I agree to an extent.  I also have read the statistics and see how many people regret and are bitter about their failed marriage that it makes me skeptical.

I'm also not the kind of person to jump into marriage like many do these days. 

I picture my marriage if I decide to go that route, escaping away to a place me and her both value and it being between us.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #4] * 1
    #28323478 - 05/17/23 03:05 PM (8 months, 8 days ago)

I think the ceremony is the least important thing, spending thousands to buy others food and covering their tab? Screw that!

A cheap ceremony sure, but nothing in the realm of more than $2000. I've seen people have beautiful affordable beach weddings without the ludicrous bill that tradition asks for. The average price of a marriage is tens of thousands, and for what! To feed and fill guests with drinks?

If I was a fiance and my partner started telling me they wanted to spend our savings feeding others, I'd be outta there. I'd want to spend it on valuable time together, to have a greater honeymoon, to maybe have savings left over.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: sudly]
    #28324284 - 05/18/23 02:27 AM (8 months, 7 days ago)

Some great responses here :strokebeard: :yesnod:

Annon #4, STAL is a reference to SirTokesALot, a member who would always answer polls with an option that wasnt listed. Its an old Shroomery tradition for Polls.

https://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/23589576#23589576

I put never been married & undecided. I think I would have to meet a really amazing woman (celebrity?!) to marry her.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28324510 - 05/18/23 08:16 AM (8 months, 7 days ago)

You do not want to marry a celebrity.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos]
    #28324753 - 05/18/23 12:39 PM (8 months, 7 days ago)

How come? Have married one before?


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28325412 - 05/18/23 08:10 PM (8 months, 6 days ago)

I noped out pretty quick when I saw behind the curtain.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos] * 1
    #28325543 - 05/18/23 09:35 PM (8 months, 6 days ago)

I met Annabelle Dexter Jones from succession and was very attracted to her.  She didn't reveal anything about her except that she was in town filming and told me her name. 

I typed her name in Google and saw her networth and family lineage and was shocked. 

Celebrities are people too. 

Elaborate on seeing behind the curtain.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: thelanzii]
    #28325653 - 05/18/23 11:37 PM (8 months, 6 days ago)

Celebrities are people who are working...pretty much every minute of their lives.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos] * 2
    #28325838 - 05/19/23 06:12 AM (8 months, 6 days ago)

You never know if an actor loves you, she could be acting 👉😎👉


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Roflspammer] * 1
    #28326683 - 05/19/23 07:10 PM (8 months, 6 days ago)

Was married once. Fulfilled my vows. Tried again. Turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life. Got two kids that were used to try and trap me out of the deal and while I do love them, I feel terrible I can’t give them a real family. Now I’m probably just too broken to try again. Not that it looks like there is many good single people left in the world. I’m not sure where we are going socially but it’s new territory. Hopefully the dismantling of the nuclear family was worthwhile cause any benefits marriage used to have socially are gone. Now it’s a lot of risk and potential financial ruin so you can have the luxury of sharing your children.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 2
    #28327891 - 05/20/23 06:04 PM (8 months, 5 days ago)

I’m married. Can say without a doubt that its made both our lives better than they were - at least to this point it has. We’ve been through difficult times but I think that has shown we’re both in this for better or worse - but are both trying to make things better for our family, and at least in our case the results are more than we would likely accomplish being without a teammate.

I also for some reason knew pretty soon after we met that we had matching values that were going to help us succeed as couple. She’s loyal as fuck to her family, we both are, and take failures very personally. If things got real bad between us I know we would probably both opt to suffer to the bitter end rather than admit that we might have made a mistake :lol:

That is save for a few hard lines like cheating, physical violence, etc… there are dealbreakers.

The best advice I can give to anyone wanting to get married is to just know in your heart that that’s the one for life. We could all be wrong for sure, but I think following your gut about people and even your partner is the best way for success. That and build good trust with one another.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: ManianFH]
    #28331085 - 05/23/23 10:50 AM (8 months, 2 days ago)

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ManianFH said:

The best advice I can give to anyone wanting to get married is to just know in your heart that that’s the one for life.




It's as difficult as a 26-year-old committing to remaining in one particular job for the next 40 years.  That would be nuts, right?!

Monogamy is fine, but I think lifetime legally binding relationship contracts are pretty crazy.  And just because people survive it or claim it's fantastic doesn't mean they could have been much happier making other choices.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28331315 - 05/23/23 01:22 PM (8 months, 2 days ago)

I am on the fence with monogamy
If I was completely honest, I have not been with someone I would want to be with forever. I am not young.
I could.. I have been faithful for long periods, I think the longest was 15 years.
I dont really want to.
My problem is myself. I cant seem to accept that my partner having sex with another and have it not mean that I am less or unable to fulfill them.
I think it is from being cheated on in the past.
BUT
that is what stops me


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #28331331 - 05/23/23 01:31 PM (8 months, 2 days ago)

I've been single for 6 months now and have been casually seeing two people. Overcoming jealousy was okay because I wasn't a very jealous person to begin with, but fomo hasn't been a contending issue until recently when I was invited to a swingers event and seriously considered attending.

I realised I did experience some fomo in this regard but recognition of it has been very helpful in accepting it, plus I value my independence a lot which is good.

I have also experienced some compersion which is happiness for others. And then lack of fomo I think is a reflection of my own happiness.

It has been a journey and still is.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: sudly]
    #28331338 - 05/23/23 01:33 PM (8 months, 2 days ago)

GO to the swingers event. I went off and on for a few years and it is fun!! It felt so freeing to me.
I really liked going.
I was never jealous until I got cheated on.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #28331555 - 05/23/23 03:45 PM (8 months, 2 days ago)

Maybe next time, I wasn't ready yet but exposing myself to the thought seriously has helped a lot.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: ManianFH] * 1
    #28331877 - 05/23/23 09:46 PM (8 months, 1 day ago)

Great post ManianFH! Having matching values is critical for having a long-lasting marriage. Absolutely. I would say most people have trouble keeping a marriage but a select few married couples just "get it" and can keep their marriage going, sometimes till death. Its rare but real. It all depends on the couple and how closely they match on all the important things like values, spiritual beliefs, politics, family, parenting, money, etc.

As for Open marriages, some couples can make it work but usually one gets jealous of the other and it can get ugly....


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28332206 - 05/24/23 07:49 AM (8 months, 1 day ago)

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Having matching values is critical for having a long-lasting marriage.




I used to think "matching values" meant viewpoints related to morality and behavior.  But now I hear people say it includes political opinions.

Some couples break up or divorce and due to differences in political opinions.  Which I find a bit perplexing.  It's certainly possible for people with differing political views to be friends, yet for some people, it's a potential dealbreaker regarding an intimate relationship?


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28332363 - 05/24/23 10:30 AM (8 months, 1 day ago)

I have opposite political views than my partner.Although I do not express it. A few times a week I ask myself how I can be with a person who views the world so opposite as I do. Professionally I am in the helping field. And often I hear statements that contradict everything I do on a daily basis.
It is a very big deal to me.
I am seeing there is no respect for what I do.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #28332710 - 05/24/23 02:27 PM (8 months, 1 day ago)

Yeah, imagine a Left Democrat marrying a Right Republician. There would be a lot of disagrements on a lot of thibgs include drug use, hunan righrs, abortions, gender issues, police, ethical career choices, immigration, war, etc. Politics deals with a lot of different topics and if 2 people with opposite political are in a romantic relationship such as marriage, it could cause a lot of conflict.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28332742 - 05/24/23 02:38 PM (8 months, 1 day ago)

Those are exactly the subjects....


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #28333427 - 05/24/23 11:15 PM (8 months, 20 hours ago)

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As for Open marriages, some couples can make it work but usually one gets jealous of the other and it can get ugly....




It is pretty wild that some people can make this work.  I remember testing the threesome waters just in conversation with my wife Wayyyy back when and she was like ahhh Fuck no I see where youre going with this.. :lol:..


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GO to the swingers event. I went off and on for a few years and it is fun!! It felt so freeing to me.
I really liked going.
I was never jealous until I got cheated on.




Hopefully you can let go of that, or at least not let it get in the way of your relationship moving forward. 99% of people do not want to get cheated on but it can happen, and to any of us. At the end of the day its not a statement about you, or your abilities in bed, or any of that shit. Its just a person you were with who broke one of your hard lines - whether she was being an asshole about it, or a one off thing, it just happened. Its not a reflection on you, or the future women youll be with, just that one person. Also,, end of the day, it really is just sex. The sooner you can compartmentalize that, the better off youll be when it comes to feelings of jealousy, insecurity, any of that stuff.  IMO, life is much better without any of those emotions.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28333448 - 05/24/23 11:54 PM (8 months, 19 hours ago)

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Yeah, imagine a Left Democrat marrying a Right Republician. There would be a lot of disagrements on a lot of thibgs include drug use, hunan righrs, abortions, gender issues, police, ethical career choices, immigration, war, etc. Politics deals with a lot of different topics and if 2 people with opposite political are in a romantic relationship such as marriage, it could cause a lot of conflict.




One of my old bosses was rather anti religious and said he'd burst into flames if he stepped inside a church, yet he married a very religious woman who was also a choir singer.

I always thought the fundamental disparity of their views was odd, don't know how they're doing nowadays though.

I don't know if they compartmentalised their differences, didn't bring it up or just agreed to disagree :shrug:

Wouldn't be my cup of tea for a long term relationship.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: sudly]
    #28333484 - 05/25/23 01:29 AM (8 months, 17 hours ago)

:heart::thumbup:


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #28334105 - 05/25/23 12:59 PM (8 months, 6 hours ago)

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Yeah, imagine a Left Democrat marrying a Right Republican. There would be a lot of disagrements on a lot of things include drug use, human rights, abortions, gender issues, police, ethical career choices, immigration, war, etc. Politics deals with a lot of different topics and if 2 people with opposite political are in a romantic relationship such as marriage, it could cause a lot of conflict.




Do you think it was like this 50 years ago?  Maybe so

"Politics" now seems to include a vast array of topics that in the past were not often seen as political.  I'm amazed how just about any topic can be spun to be political bias.  I read comments on cooking videos where a bit of debate about cooking turns into name calling of "right-wing Trumper".  It's mind boggling!


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #28334109 - 05/25/23 01:00 PM (8 months, 6 hours ago)

Probably not. Not sure. 50 years ago was before my time. But yeah, almost anything can be Political as Political leaders will get involved in a lot of different things, including cooking, food and resturants.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28334138 - 05/25/23 01:12 PM (8 months, 6 hours ago)

People are using political bashing and name calling while discussing topics that have nothing to do with politics.  Last July 4th, (while my family was celebrating the insurrection) there was a discussion about the decision of some counties allowing fireworks (while others prohibit) and the conversation disintegrated into political name calling.  Liberal vs right wing.  I could offer many more examples.

County firework ordinances are a Republican vs Democrat battle?

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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #28334151 - 05/25/23 01:18 PM (8 months, 5 hours ago)

Definitely.


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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] * 1
    #28334215 - 05/25/23 01:56 PM (8 months, 5 hours ago)

We live in a country where the statement "children should be able to survive the school day" is politically loaded.


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