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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28325412 - 05/18/23 08:10 PM (8 months, 6 days ago) |
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I noped out pretty quick when I saw behind the curtain.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos] 1
#28325543 - 05/18/23 09:35 PM (8 months, 6 days ago) |
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I met Annabelle Dexter Jones from succession and was very attracted to her. She didn't reveal anything about her except that she was in town filming and told me her name.
I typed her name in Google and saw her networth and family lineage and was shocked.
Celebrities are people too.
Elaborate on seeing behind the curtain.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: thelanzii]
#28325653 - 05/18/23 11:37 PM (8 months, 6 days ago) |
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Celebrities are people who are working...pretty much every minute of their lives.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Kryptos] 2
#28325838 - 05/19/23 06:12 AM (8 months, 6 days ago) |
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You never know if an actor loves you, she could be acting 👉😎👉
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Roflspammer] 1
#28326683 - 05/19/23 07:10 PM (8 months, 6 days ago) |
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Was married once. Fulfilled my vows. Tried again. Turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life. Got two kids that were used to try and trap me out of the deal and while I do love them, I feel terrible I can’t give them a real family. Now I’m probably just too broken to try again. Not that it looks like there is many good single people left in the world. I’m not sure where we are going socially but it’s new territory. Hopefully the dismantling of the nuclear family was worthwhile cause any benefits marriage used to have socially are gone. Now it’s a lot of risk and potential financial ruin so you can have the luxury of sharing your children.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 2
#28327891 - 05/20/23 06:04 PM (8 months, 5 days ago) |
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I’m married. Can say without a doubt that its made both our lives better than they were - at least to this point it has. We’ve been through difficult times but I think that has shown we’re both in this for better or worse - but are both trying to make things better for our family, and at least in our case the results are more than we would likely accomplish being without a teammate.
I also for some reason knew pretty soon after we met that we had matching values that were going to help us succeed as couple. She’s loyal as fuck to her family, we both are, and take failures very personally. If things got real bad between us I know we would probably both opt to suffer to the bitter end rather than admit that we might have made a mistake 
That is save for a few hard lines like cheating, physical violence, etc… there are dealbreakers.
The best advice I can give to anyone wanting to get married is to just know in your heart that that’s the one for life. We could all be wrong for sure, but I think following your gut about people and even your partner is the best way for success. That and build good trust with one another.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: ManianFH]
#28331085 - 05/23/23 10:50 AM (8 months, 2 days ago) |
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The best advice I can give to anyone wanting to get married is to just know in your heart that that’s the one for life.
It's as difficult as a 26-year-old committing to remaining in one particular job for the next 40 years. That would be nuts, right?!
Monogamy is fine, but I think lifetime legally binding relationship contracts are pretty crazy. And just because people survive it or claim it's fantastic doesn't mean they could have been much happier making other choices.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28331315 - 05/23/23 01:22 PM (8 months, 2 days ago) |
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I am on the fence with monogamy If I was completely honest, I have not been with someone I would want to be with forever. I am not young. I could.. I have been faithful for long periods, I think the longest was 15 years. I dont really want to. My problem is myself. I cant seem to accept that my partner having sex with another and have it not mean that I am less or unable to fulfill them. I think it is from being cheated on in the past. BUT that is what stops me
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28331331 - 05/23/23 01:31 PM (8 months, 2 days ago) |
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I've been single for 6 months now and have been casually seeing two people. Overcoming jealousy was okay because I wasn't a very jealous person to begin with, but fomo hasn't been a contending issue until recently when I was invited to a swingers event and seriously considered attending.
I realised I did experience some fomo in this regard but recognition of it has been very helpful in accepting it, plus I value my independence a lot which is good.
I have also experienced some compersion which is happiness for others. And then lack of fomo I think is a reflection of my own happiness.
It has been a journey and still is.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: sudly]
#28331338 - 05/23/23 01:33 PM (8 months, 2 days ago) |
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GO to the swingers event. I went off and on for a few years and it is fun!! It felt so freeing to me. I really liked going. I was never jealous until I got cheated on.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28331555 - 05/23/23 03:45 PM (8 months, 2 days ago) |
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Maybe next time, I wasn't ready yet but exposing myself to the thought seriously has helped a lot.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: ManianFH] 1
#28331877 - 05/23/23 09:46 PM (8 months, 1 day ago) |
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Great post ManianFH! Having matching values is critical for having a long-lasting marriage. Absolutely. I would say most people have trouble keeping a marriage but a select few married couples just "get it" and can keep their marriage going, sometimes till death. Its rare but real. It all depends on the couple and how closely they match on all the important things like values, spiritual beliefs, politics, family, parenting, money, etc.
As for Open marriages, some couples can make it work but usually one gets jealous of the other and it can get ugly....
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28332206 - 05/24/23 07:49 AM (8 months, 1 day ago) |
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Having matching values is critical for having a long-lasting marriage.
I used to think "matching values" meant viewpoints related to morality and behavior. But now I hear people say it includes political opinions.
Some couples break up or divorce and due to differences in political opinions. Which I find a bit perplexing. It's certainly possible for people with differing political views to be friends, yet for some people, it's a potential dealbreaker regarding an intimate relationship?
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28332363 - 05/24/23 10:30 AM (8 months, 1 day ago) |
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I have opposite political views than my partner.Although I do not express it. A few times a week I ask myself how I can be with a person who views the world so opposite as I do. Professionally I am in the helping field. And often I hear statements that contradict everything I do on a daily basis. It is a very big deal to me. I am seeing there is no respect for what I do.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
#28332710 - 05/24/23 02:27 PM (8 months, 1 day ago) |
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Yeah, imagine a Left Democrat marrying a Right Republician. There would be a lot of disagrements on a lot of thibgs include drug use, hunan righrs, abortions, gender issues, police, ethical career choices, immigration, war, etc. Politics deals with a lot of different topics and if 2 people with opposite political are in a romantic relationship such as marriage, it could cause a lot of conflict.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28332742 - 05/24/23 02:38 PM (8 months, 1 day ago) |
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Those are exactly the subjects....
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: Anonymous #2]
#28333427 - 05/24/23 11:15 PM (8 months, 20 hours ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: As for Open marriages, some couples can make it work but usually one gets jealous of the other and it can get ugly....
It is pretty wild that some people can make this work. I remember testing the threesome waters just in conversation with my wife Wayyyy back when and she was like ahhh Fuck no I see where youre going with this.. ..
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Anonymous #2 said: GO to the swingers event. I went off and on for a few years and it is fun!! It felt so freeing to me. I really liked going. I was never jealous until I got cheated on.
Hopefully you can let go of that, or at least not let it get in the way of your relationship moving forward. 99% of people do not want to get cheated on but it can happen, and to any of us. At the end of the day its not a statement about you, or your abilities in bed, or any of that shit. Its just a person you were with who broke one of your hard lines - whether she was being an asshole about it, or a one off thing, it just happened. Its not a reflection on you, or the future women youll be with, just that one person. Also,, end of the day, it really is just sex. The sooner you can compartmentalize that, the better off youll be when it comes to feelings of jealousy, insecurity, any of that stuff. IMO, life is much better without any of those emotions.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#28333448 - 05/24/23 11:54 PM (8 months, 19 hours ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said: Yeah, imagine a Left Democrat marrying a Right Republician. There would be a lot of disagrements on a lot of thibgs include drug use, hunan righrs, abortions, gender issues, police, ethical career choices, immigration, war, etc. Politics deals with a lot of different topics and if 2 people with opposite political are in a romantic relationship such as marriage, it could cause a lot of conflict.
One of my old bosses was rather anti religious and said he'd burst into flames if he stepped inside a church, yet he married a very religious woman who was also a choir singer.
I always thought the fundamental disparity of their views was odd, don't know how they're doing nowadays though.
I don't know if they compartmentalised their differences, didn't bring it up or just agreed to disagree 
Wouldn't be my cup of tea for a long term relationship.
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: sudly]
#28333484 - 05/25/23 01:29 AM (8 months, 17 hours ago) |
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Re: Would you ever get married? (Poll) [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#28334105 - 05/25/23 12:59 PM (8 months, 6 hours ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said:
Yeah, imagine a Left Democrat marrying a Right Republican. There would be a lot of disagrements on a lot of things include drug use, human rights, abortions, gender issues, police, ethical career choices, immigration, war, etc. Politics deals with a lot of different topics and if 2 people with opposite political are in a romantic relationship such as marriage, it could cause a lot of conflict.
Do you think it was like this 50 years ago? Maybe so
"Politics" now seems to include a vast array of topics that in the past were not often seen as political. I'm amazed how just about any topic can be spun to be political bias. I read comments on cooking videos where a bit of debate about cooking turns into name calling of "right-wing Trumper". It's mind boggling!
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